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AIBU?

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Christmas pressie problem

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brightwell · 27/12/2012 13:35

Dd has bought me a voucher for 3 sessions with a personal trainer......something she would love....but something I definately won't use. She's kept going on about when am I going to book my first session, I've said !I don't know" she then said "you're not going to do it are you" I've told her while I realise it's something she'ld like it's not for me......so she's kicked off big time about how she thought I'ld like it & how expensive it was etc etc.....making me feel really bad. I go to the gym regularly, do my own thing & can't stand the personal trainer....she knows this and when I was offered a free session had told her my reasons for not wanting to. She can't use the sessions and she can't get the money back.

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manicinsomniac · 27/12/2012 21:13

Gosh, what is it tonight with people telling other people they don't like their carefully picked out presents. So rude and ungrateful!

I think you should just go. You go to the gym so it's not going to be physically difficult for you, you just don't want to go. Make your daughter happy and go, you never know, you might even enjoy it.

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brightwell · 27/12/2012 21:23

Perhaps that's part of the problem.......she knew I wouldn't like it, we'd had previous conversations about personal training & this personal trainer, she was told by a family member I wouldn't like it....but I suppose it was easier than going into town & buying something.

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ScramblyEgg · 27/12/2012 21:29

I don't think you should go.

You obviously feel really uncomfortable about the personal trainer, and spending 3 hours with someone who makes you feel that uncomfortable isn't a small thing.

As your daughter had already been told you wouldn't like it, I don't think you're under any obligation to do the sessions just to keep her happy. Maybe see if the voucher can be extended so she can use it herself at a later date though.

HollaAtMeSanta · 27/12/2012 21:52

Did you see my earlier post? Why can't you do the sessions together, either before she goes travelling or after she gets back?

CrazyChristmasLady · 27/12/2012 21:58

Actually I don't think you should go. She knew you didn't like personal trainers, you knew you didn't like this particular personal trainer, she was told by a family member you wouldn't like this present yet she went ahead and got it anyway.

I wouldn't go and then maybe she will learn to listen to what she is told as she clearly has some problem with it at the moment.

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brightwell · 27/12/2012 22:01

We can't do the sessions together.....I go to the gym after work & she goes during the day, and she leaves Jan 9th. The voucher is valid for 6 weeks, I'm going to contact him, explain it's not my thing and ask if he'll extend the voucher so that dd can use it when she gets back in the summer.

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fizzybeerandsausages · 27/12/2012 22:04

I agree with ScramblyEgg and CrazyChristmasLady, she bought you a present that she knew you would not just not want, but would feel extremely uncomfortable using and now she's in a strop as a result. That sounds very selfish on her part to me.

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brightwell · 27/12/2012 22:07

I really like the pink bubbly vaseline lip gloss she gave me!

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EuphemiaInExcelsis · 27/12/2012 22:10

carefully picked out presents

The trouble is, manic, that this one wasn't. You seem to have the same problems paying attention as the OP's DD.

manicinsomniac · 27/12/2012 22:34

what makes you think it wasn't Euphemia - in the OP it says that her daughter said she thought she'd like it. She later said her Dad told her that the OP wouldn't like it but that's only one opinion.

EuphemiaInExcelsis · 27/12/2012 22:42

The first line, manic: "3 sessions with a personal trainer......something she would love".

HollaAtMeSanta · 27/12/2012 22:47

OK, if there's no way you can go together and you feel this reluctant, don't do it.

Why do you think she got you the sessions, though? Seems odd.

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brightwell · 27/12/2012 22:59

It's something she would like...she enjoys the gym & the social scene that goes with it, I use the gym out of need....it's either exercise or stop eating! And I think it was a panic pressie. I would have loved a voucher for the local beauty parlour, or a voucher for a walk together & lunch at the local pub, or cinema tickets. I did pretend to like it when she gave me it....but was honest when she sussed I wasn't that into it.

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SquinkiesRule · 27/12/2012 23:00

Can you sell it to one of the women at the gym who does like this loud trainer?
I know I'd die of embarrassment if I was asked to do three hours with a PT I didn't care for and I love to exercise.

sashh · 27/12/2012 23:50

Could you have a diplomatic sprained ankle?

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