To think me posting a pic of myself and boyfriend on Facebook is not wrong?

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Been together just under 6 months. He's worried sick about upsetting his kids (been divorced 2 years and his kids are 15 and 17 btw) and doesn't want me posting anything on Facebook about 'us' for that reason - yet he reckons he's told them about me!!??

Ages ago he said "you can put stuff on facebook, just don't tag me in it"

I have a lovely pic of us both together in a nightclub, a professional one. WIBU to upload it as my profile pic??

Why would it be unreasonable? He's said he's okay about you posting things, just don't tag him.

I'd be concerned about the whys though!

So long as you don't tag him in it, what difference would it make to him? Presumably his kids aren't your FB friends so wouldn't see it til he linked to your profile?

Make your profile private as well, so only your friends can see it.

Hmm, worried about the 'kids' eh? That ol' chestnut!

I guess he doesn't want his family to see you two together. 'Worried sick' is quite a strong reaction tbh. Do you have any idea why?

Well, it could be that old chestnut or it could be exactly what he said, you've not been together even 6 months and he probably doesn't want his kids to find out via FB. Sounds responsible to me unless he's given you other reasons to worry.

Why would you want to make such a public announcement of being with him if he wants to keep you secret? I had this with an ex - he threw a big wobbly about a pic of us together on FB, turns out he was cheating on me and didn't want the OW to see it.

Teenagers can be unreasonable without cause when dealing with a parent's relationships. he might just be avoiding a fight with them. Or you could still be a big secret to everyone in his personal life.

But he reckons he told them about me months ago and they were fine about it!

when you say professional did you hire someone to take pics of you in a nightclub?

Scuzy no it was the nightclubs own photographer that goes around taking pics of couples/groups.

Any proof he's done that?

Nope!

Have you met any of his friends or family?

If he's still keeping you a secret after 6 months, you need to stop and take a look at that big red flag waving in front of you (sorry).

I'd bet my left tit that his family know nothing of you. And half of my right tit that he's not divorced.

Or accept it as a fun relationship with no deeper expectations.

If you don't tag him its fine. If he wants he can pretend you are a friend or someone he met that night

No he hasn't told his kids. He's lying to you.

How much do you know about him, outside of your relationship?

I know Corlan, I just wanted confirmation really that I'm not being a bunny boiler.

I knew it was unnatural to still not have met anyone after 6 months yet when I say this to him he acts like I'm "rushing things".

This upcoming holiday - I can't post anything on Facebook about it (or any pics when we return) as he doesn't want his kids to know about it. I said "well, surely they'll find out eventually?" (I'm meaning when I eventually meet them) and he said "err not necessarily" - so is he not intending to let me meet them at all???

My instinct is that he's not divorced/does not intend to get divorced.

Do you only see him at certain times that cannot be rearranged? Have you been to his house?

Why do you want to be in a relationship with this bloke? He has his own children and is still acting like a 14 year old with spots.

It is not 'his kids' he's worrying about.

How often do you seem him? How often do you stay over at each others?

'I said "well, surely they'll find out eventually?" (I'm meaning when I eventually meet them) and he said "err not necessarily" - so is he not intending to let me meet them at all???'

It sounds like a short-term relationship.

Haven't you started another thread saying you think you want to split up? Why do you want to post a photo of you if you think he's dull and it's over?

Are you going to any Christmas dos with his workmates?