To think me posting a pic of myself and boyfriend on Facebook is not wrong?

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Been together just under 6 months. He's worried sick about upsetting his kids (been divorced 2 years and his kids are 15 and 17 btw) and doesn't want me posting anything on Facebook about 'us' for that reason - yet he reckons he's told them about me!!??

Ages ago he said "you can put stuff on facebook, just don't tag me in it"

I have a lovely pic of us both together in a nightclub, a professional one. WIBU to upload it as my profile pic??

Really peter? I wouldn't waste half a year waiting for someone to indicate they felt strongly enough about me to want to show me off!

I was proud as punch to show my now dh off to my parents and friends. Why wouldn't you want to? Children are different I can understand reluctance there but friends and family? After 6 months? Nah.

Random fuck buddies I used to have on the other hand were introduced to no one other than a couple of mates who happened to bump into us.

Haven't seen your other threads but there's nothing unnatural about protecting your kids by not introducing them to someone you've only being seeing a few months. 6 months is nothing. No way would I introduce a new partner into my sons life after only a few months. Maybe he just wants to be sure this relationship is going somewhere first. It is if course also possible he just sees this as a bit of fun.

I think you would be U to tag but not post.

Even if he has told his kids ts a real slap in the face to see a photo d dad with the new bit of skirt.

Where did you meet him, OP?

Why can't you just ask him if he minds?

If he says no, then accept it. It's up to him if he wants his picture posted on Facebook or not.

If he has asked you not to post anything about the two of you together, then respect his wishes. He is an adult with his own mind and it's not up to you to decide whether he is right or wrong. It's his choice.

you again ?

how many weeks has this been going on.. why not just tag the fucker and see what happens??

I'm with squeakytoy.

And with all the other PPs that say get shot of this twit.

Leave something at his mum's house by accident then go & get it at an unexpected time, you will meet his mum & can find out if he's married.

Sorry to point out the bleeding obvious but its easy to leave a few clothes & toiletries plus an old music system & TV in your old room then claim to be living there.

I think its perfectly plausible that he doesn't want his kids to know after less than 6 months. It doesn't matter how old they are, it still can be a very sensitive and raw situation. I actually think its very mature not to introduce your kids until at the very least a year. I know if DH and I ever split and met someone new we are in agreement we wouldn't introduce until at least a year.

Fyi I only first met my dads gf by accident because we bumped into one another when I was 16. He didn't tell me about her until I was 15? and he'd been with her for around 4 years by this point. He just wanted to keep our close relationship seperate to his private relationship.

Its also plausible he's really married. I'd do what person said and leave something at his mum's house and go back for it at a random time.

OP you've started five threads about this guy since yesterday! Maybe he doesn't want you to meet his kids because you're too intense? Just a thought.

If it isn't working then get rid, jeez!

There are lots of people with lots of different reasons for not wanting thier face on facebook.

YABU

OP did this the other day too, under a different name, 5 threads all about this same issue.

I suspect you are the 'blowing hot & cold' poster too.

Get a fucking grip.

My feeling is, he doesn't want you meeting his kids because he is sensing bunny boiler tendencies!

He's perfectly reasonable to not want his photo posted on facebook.

However, you are focusing on the wrong thing. He doesn't want people to know about you. The photo is not the point.

Have you posted before lots of times about the same thing or am I thinking of someone else ?

Oh my fucking god op.

This has been going on since you had been seeing him 12 weeks.

You are a girlfriend not a partner and he doesn't want to introduce you yet. Either accept or move on.

For the love of god why are you posting the same thing over and over. Why is fb so important.

Why don't you listen to any advice?

Just get rid ffs! Getting a bit tired of your threads on here relationships and step-parenting!
I don't think he wants to be in a relationship with you, sorry

Who does he introduce you to as his girlfriend; when you're not "necessarily ever" going to meet his children?

you are, to steal a phrase from Friends, his twinky in the city.

if you are looking for more you are going to be disappointed.

Maybe he feels like a silly old fool for posing, in a nightclub, for a professional photo, in his forties?

Is he Peter Stringfellow?

I take it the op has posted about this before then?

Only about 12 times in the last 3 monthsish.

That's what I have seen. Haven't seen any in step parenting and I am sure I haven't seen all the ones in here. although I am always on mn