meant to meet a friend today with all our kids, mine 13ds, 8dd, 5ds, and her 11ds and 7ds. were going swimming and then for lunch.
i called her this morning to check when we were meeting and she dropped in that her friend F was going to tag along with her kids, who are 7ds and 3 ds.
now i know this woman but have spent afternoons with her and spent 5 or 6 trips out with her and when i have been with her her kids are a bloody nightmare.
they scream, fight and run about where ever you are, cinema, resturant, library etc, they pay no attention to her, they are rude to everyone and are serious hard work, some times she try's to calm them down, but mostly she puts it down to boys being boys. they break toys and she doesnt bloody appologise, they rip books and she says they are spirited.
i got off the phone and said to my eldest 2 that these kids were going, my eldest said, ''well then i'm not'' i asked why and he said they drove him mad, they try to treat him like a big climbing frame and she treats him like a childminder, asking him to run about after them, take them to the loo etc. and he just doesn't want to.
dd then said, i don't wanna go either, as she is then the only girl and the 2 boys who are roughly her age are just nasty to her, wont let her join in etc.
so i called my friend back and said i would rain check that something had popped up. she questioned me, and i said that my eldest 2 didn't want to have to spend the day with these kids.
then friend went mental, how my kids were being cheeky and rude and how i was being prescious and nasty. she also said that i am letting down my kids and being rotten to hers.
i said i wasn't changing my mind and that basically it was tough, i was putting my kids first.
so was i out of order?