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AIBU?

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to be unreasonable about this??

61 replies

mummy1986 · 08/10/2012 19:54

Hi not sure if i am in the right place, but i just wanted an unbiased opinion really. My DD comes home from her daddys yesterday and says he got in the bath with her. She's just 5 and asks LOTS of questions!
AIBU to not want her in the bath with him, even though it's her dad?

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GoSakuramachi · 08/10/2012 19:55

yabu. It's none of your business anyway, he's her parent as much as you.

BigWitchLegsInWailyTights · 08/10/2012 19:55

Unless you think he's an abuser then yes...YABU. I would hope that if you think he has the potential to abuse, then you would not allow her alone with him at all.

Choufleur · 08/10/2012 19:55

YABU - I get in the bath with DS (6). What's the difference. DH also still gets in the bath with him.

She's a child with her Dad.

mummy1986 · 08/10/2012 19:57

For goodness sake i do not think he is abuser! Jesus!

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GoSakuramachi · 08/10/2012 19:57

Then what is your problem?

Choufleur · 08/10/2012 19:58

Bet she enjoys having a bath with him. Do you bathe with her?

WelshMaenad · 08/10/2012 19:59

What questions has she asked? Why don't you just answer them?

Dd is six and still hops in the shower with her dad sometimes.

Joiningthegang · 08/10/2012 19:59

Yabu

Does he kiss her on the lips too?

OHforDUCKScake · 08/10/2012 19:59

Why would it BU unless you thought there was something dodgy going on.

I bath with both my kids.

repeats
And I kiss them on the lips and kissed their butts as babies Grin

Littlefish · 08/10/2012 19:59

You are being utterly unreasonable.

CoolaSchmoola · 08/10/2012 20:00

YABU.

mummy1986 · 08/10/2012 20:00

I just think its a little weird. Obviously im the weird one.
And no i dont anymore, she has bathes with her baby sister.

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hatesponge · 08/10/2012 20:00

Whats the problem if they share a bath?

Whitecherry · 08/10/2012 20:01

Nothing you can do anyway... Pick your battles, this ain't one!

Mooq · 08/10/2012 20:01

Eh? Why is it weird? The OP is weird. Very weird!

coldcupoftea · 08/10/2012 20:01

My DH gets in the bath with our 4yo and 2yo DDs sometimes.

I can understand how the fact that he is yout ex might make it feel slightly weird for you as you don't see him naked anymore and don't want to think about it! But imo it is perfectly normal and quite nice for parents to occasionally share the bath with their young kids.

WelshMaenad · 08/10/2012 20:01

Why is it weird? He's her dad? Again, what questions did she ask?

BigWitchLegsInWailyTights · 08/10/2012 20:03

It would be weird if DD didn't like it and he still did it. Or if DD was past a certain age...when she might want privacy. They let you know...my DD began shooing me out of the room when she hit 8....she likes a shower in private.

Tweasels · 08/10/2012 20:03

Whaaaaaaaaaat?

Really?

Erm yes you are being rather unreasonable.

mummy1986 · 08/10/2012 20:03

I just think its a little weird, thats all.
I just wanted to sound out abit really, wonder if im being over protective and over cautious.

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Pagwatch · 08/10/2012 20:04

DD used to bathe with me or her dad until she was about 8.
Then she just got too bloody big and annoying.

I don't understand why you would have a problem with it.

BumpingFuglies · 08/10/2012 20:04

What questions did she ask?

Whitecherry · 08/10/2012 20:05

What's weird? You need to explain...

mummy1986 · 08/10/2012 20:05

Again i dont think he enjoys it more than her!
And im not weird.
Like i just said I just wanted to sound out abit really, wonder if im being over protective and over cautious.

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wannabedomesticgoddess · 08/10/2012 20:05

DD talks about her dads waggly tail when she comes home. Usually to ask why I dont have one :o

She also sees me naked a lot when Im in the shower/getting dressed.

Its just normal. She learns about bodies. I havent bathed with her coz I dont like baths.

Im not sure what the problem is.

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