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Failure to remove a dead mouse

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bubbles11 · 05/10/2012 10:23

Friday mornings are manic for me getting 2 children to nursery and also on Fridays I try to hoover the house (husband does not like the hoover going when he is home) and sort out formula milk/ something for dinner etc before going to work
Almost finished the hooovering this morning (one room to go) babies in the car, failed to get something out of the freezer for dinner because as i was going to get it i saw a dead mouse which our cat obviously brought in lying on the carpet in the room between me and the freezer (the only room i had not hoovered)
it is both pathetic and lazy of me to have left a voicemessage for husband at work saying when you get home can you pick up the dead mouse for me isn't it. he knows I have a total hatred of mice (dead or alive) but still this is pathetic of me. Been trying to concentrate since i got to work but wondering whether i can creep home at lunchtime to ask the neighbour to do it. trouble is it is a 20 min drive each way to get home & back

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Svrider · 05/10/2012 10:25

What's done is is done
Or not
All men have their uses, perhaps your dh will be marvellous at dead mice removal
Yanbu

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bubbles11 · 05/10/2012 10:27

thanks svirder
i do hate mice but i am thinking maybe if i was not so stressed about the clock i could have summoned up the ability to do it myself
but i hate hate hate mice with a passion
(give me a big black hairy spider any day and i wont even wince)
pathetic

i will have to go home at lunchtime and do it myself, that will settle it

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LadyMargolotta · 05/10/2012 10:29

(husband does not like the hoover going when he is home) - wtf!

Who are you married to, Mariah Carey?

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bubbles11 · 05/10/2012 10:32

he is very stressed
always has been

his mother (my mother in law) told me just after our first baby to make sure I got all the housework done on my day off (1 work 4 days per week) so the weekends were free. i managed this after the first baby but it is much harder to do this with two

anyway that is off the point

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minipie · 05/10/2012 10:32

Ah bless you. Everyone is allowed one irrational fear I think!

On the plus side, if you can summon up the courage to deal with it, your DH will be impressed

I would suggest gloves plus many layers of paper towel, then you won't really feel it as you pick it up. Or use a trowel if you have one so no need to touch it at all.

WhispersOfWickedness · 05/10/2012 10:33

Do not do it! If you are horrified by mice, he should do it. In our house, DH gets rid of spiders, and I get rid of slugs and mice, it's a kindness not to make the other person pick up what they don't like. If DH had sent me a message asking me to remove one of the above when I got home, I'd gladly do it, I certainly wouldn't call him lazy! I would expect the same respect with regards to spiders (except the little buggers would have disappeared by then ).

minipie · 05/10/2012 10:33

Oh and sounds like your MIL needs to butt out! but as you say that's off the point.

LadyMargolotta · 05/10/2012 10:35

Well let's hope he does have some uses regarding dead mice removal, he sounds a bit delicate otherwise.

If not, I would suggest LEAVE THE BASTARD.

OutragedAtThePriceOfFreddos · 05/10/2012 10:36

Not unreasonable at all, I would do the same.

WorraLiberty · 05/10/2012 10:36

Who are you married to, Mariah Carey?

Tea through nostrils moment

OP, just pick it up in a tissue and drop it in the wheelie bin.

Did I read that wrong or were you hoovering the house whilst the babies were in the car?

WhispersOfWickedness · 05/10/2012 10:37

X post, I was a bit about the hoovering too... And now the housework! So, not only does he not do any, he can't even bring himself to be in the house whilst his muck is being cleaned up?! I think you have deeper issues than a dead mouse tbh
Btw, my DH is a bugger with housework too, he hardly does any, but then he is happy to live in filth

TheVermiciousKnid · 05/10/2012 10:38

Why go back at lunch time? The mouse isn't going to go anywhere (unless it's a zombie mouse), surely it can wait till evening.

Re. the housework, your MIL etc, I think the dead mouse is the least of your problems!

Mintyy · 05/10/2012 10:38

Please invite your mother in law to come round and do the hoovering every week on your day off, while you go out with the children. Will you do that for me?

Gigondas · 05/10/2012 10:42

Yanbu about the mouse but wtaf about dh and hoovering and housework. Did you sign up to marry another child?

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bubbles11 · 05/10/2012 10:43

The hoovering / housework whilst the children are in the car in the mornings is one of my deepest shames. not denying it, yes it makes me feel crap, yes even tho they are sat on the driveway (safe, car locked, detached house etc) i still hate it but can see no other way round it. excuses, cannot bring myself to get into more of a discussion about it

perceptive comments about my marriage but that is a whole other thread

am going home at lunchtime to sort it out

thanks for the reply and humour which made me smile which is good !

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Mintyy · 05/10/2012 10:44

bubbles - don't go back at lunch time. Please please please don't. And why do you lock your children in your car when you are hoovering? Come on!

NellyJob · 05/10/2012 10:44

get a really thick handful of kitchen roll and use that to pick it up, it will be fine.
as for 'husband doesn't like the hoover going' and your Mil's advice -ffs sometimes I am grateful to be a single mother.......

SillyBeardyDaddyman · 05/10/2012 10:46

BBQ tongs are the tool de jour.

LadyMargolotta · 05/10/2012 10:47

Don't go back at lunchtime. Leave it to him to deal with.

Relax at lunchtime. it sounds like you need it.

WorraLiberty · 05/10/2012 11:12

I'm sorry but how the fuck do you get a 2yr old and a 3yr old (I believe that's the age of your kids?) to sit happily in a car on their own, whilst you hoover through the entire house?

That's insane.

TheProvincialLady · 05/10/2012 11:15

Sweetheart, something is deeply wrong if your husband is so 'stressed' that you have to lock your toddlers in a car so that you can vacuum. I also don't understand why they can't just be in the house while you do it?

You do realise that 'stress' is his way of making sure you are responsible for all the shitwork? And why should you be?

WilsonFrickett · 05/10/2012 11:16

You lock your kids in the car while you hoover.
Mainly because your MIL told you it was important to do all the housework at a time convenient to your DH.
Who doesn't like you hoovering.
You're going to make a 40 minute round trip at lunchtime to pick up a dead mouse because you're sure your husband won't.

Are you OK?

wannabedomesticgoddess · 05/10/2012 11:17

You are treated like a skivvy and the mouse is your main concern?

TheProvincialLady · 05/10/2012 11:18

BTW I would disagree with you that your children are safe. If you are vacuuming, you have no idea whether they are awake, asleep, distressed, too hot, fighting, fiddling with the car controls etc etc. You wouldn't even hear if the window was smashed and someone got in - very unlikely though that scenario is, you just wouldn't. And this is a regular occurrence.

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bubbles11 · 05/10/2012 11:21

yes i know it is wrong to lock my children in the car even for 5 mins - not just wrong, very wrong and i will pay for it in years to come. They both hate the hoover and like listening to cd player in the car for 5 mins but that does not make it right
there are so manythings wrong on that front i dont want to think about it
infact the dead mouse starts to sound not so bad in context!
thanks for your replies
am off now to remove mouse (boss is not in till this afternoon so hopefully will get away with 40 min round trip)

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