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Kissing on the lips

44 replies

Suzietastic · 15/09/2012 09:54

I had a friend over last night, she's lovely, we get on really well but something she said bothered me a bit. When my 8 year old DD went to bed she came and gave me a kiss and it was on the lips. I didn't really give it a lot of thought but my friend suggested that kissing her on the lips was maybe something I should stop doing 'because of her age'.

Is it?

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fuckityfuckfuckfuck · 15/09/2012 09:55

Don't be ridiculous

JumpingThroughMoreHoops · 15/09/2012 09:56

Bizarre comment for her to make

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Suzietastic · 15/09/2012 09:57

Exactly what I thought. I've never even considered it before.

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Raggydoll · 15/09/2012 09:59

No. I love it when my ds and dd give me a big smacker on the lips. My own family was not so demonstrative but fortunatley i grew up with a lovely lip kissing bear hugging family and they still do it now from time to time - and the ds's are huge strapping lads!

shrimponastick · 15/09/2012 10:02

Some folks kiss on the lips, some don't. Each to their own.

I don't kiss anyone other than DH on the lips. It's a smacker on the cheek for DS and other family, and friends. Some of my friends' small children kiss me goodbye , on the lips. I don't comment -it isn't my business

PrincessScrumpy · 15/09/2012 10:17

still kiss my parents on the lips and I'm 30.

I know the time will come when dd won't want to kiss me infront of her friends but I will deal with that when it happens.

AnyFucker · 15/09/2012 10:20

Your friend is strange

bulletwithbutterflywings · 15/09/2012 10:22

Your friend is very odd.

OhChristFENTON · 15/09/2012 10:27

It's not something I'm particularly keen on - the children's kisses are slobbery enough when received on the cheek as it is, thank you, - but each to their own, and all and I wouldn't dream of telling anyone that they should stop because of a child's age Confused

Yes, your friend is a lot odd.

MyLastDuchess · 15/09/2012 10:33

I can't imagine being at a friend's house and passing comment on something like that. I think your friend was being incredibly rude, and she should keep her hangups to herself.

I don't kiss my parents on the lips, but I also don't think that I am the arbiter of all appropriate behaviour.

I don't understand this constant sexualising of perfectly innocent parent-child interactions.

OvO · 15/09/2012 10:36

I'm 31 and still kiss my parents on the lips.

Your friend is odd. Fair enough not to like it done to you but no need to comment on others doing it.

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Suzietastic · 15/09/2012 10:39

Cheers for that. It made me feel really icky. You know how sometimes you know you are in the right but need it reinforced? That.

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UsedToBeAContender · 15/09/2012 10:42

I was never kissed my parents on the lips but my DCs insist on it! They pucker up and stay that way until I agree to kiss them! Strange thing for your friend to comment on.

I mean..it's not like you were using tongues or something...Hmm

squeakytoy · 15/09/2012 10:42

Unless you were using tongues as well, then what on earth is the issue. And as I am damn sure you werent, then making a comment is just weird.

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Suzietastic · 15/09/2012 10:43

Haha nope, I can barely bring myself to use tongues with my DH!

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FriedEggsAndHam · 15/09/2012 10:50

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theinets · 15/09/2012 11:15

This is how incest starts.

Nagoo · 15/09/2012 11:21

theinets Grin

I kiss my granny on the lips. She is 86 :)

ColumboIsMyHero · 15/09/2012 11:26

What in the what now?

I kiss my parents and aunts/uncles on the lips. I'm 37. I've never been at risk of incest. Because they are not sex-offenders.

Kisses can be perfectly charming expressions of (non-sexual) love. Of course if someone doesn't want to kiss on the lips (or the cheek or isn't cuddly etc etc) they shouldn't be made to! But honestly...

PowerDresser · 15/09/2012 11:33

I've no objection to be being kissed on the lips by friends but there's always the possibility of catching 'something' isn't there?

MadamFolly · 15/09/2012 13:34

I know there is nothing wrong with kissing on the lips but I don't like seeing it. I try to avoid kissing DP on the lips if I can avoid it, going for his nose or cheeks instead. I'm not very touchy feely, I have hugged my Dad once since I hit puberty and hated it even though I love him.

I know that I'm unreasonable though so would never comment.

SirGOLDBoobs · 15/09/2012 13:54

Your friend is odd.

Next time you see her, give her a full blown snog.

DeathCab · 15/09/2012 14:07

I kiss my Dsis (9) on the lips everytime I see her.

People are ignorant!

Elizabeth267 · 15/09/2012 14:56

To think that if you say you'll come to a Christening you'll actually come not let me know a few days before, or the day before that you can't come? Really feel some people letting my son down and really sad about it. I do get that kids get ill or family emergency but really feel people are finding something better to instead! One person decided to go away with his parents!?!?!

Elizabeth267 · 15/09/2012 14:57

Oops sorry I'm new to forums. Ignore me. I'm n idiot x