To not be happy about dp going to Oktoberfest?

[Monica2012]

Oktoberfest fest is a beer festival in Germany, where barmaids in skimpy clothing serve copious amounts of beer over a few days. Dp would like to go this year with a group of his mates, some of whom I find a bad influence and are regular cheats on their partners. AIBU?

I think you are.

I think YABU. Just because he has friends that cheat doesnt mean that he will.

Yabu if you trust your dp what's the problem?

I'd be jealous!

Yes, I think YABU. What's the issue? Has he done something to make you not trust him?

YABU the waitresses are dressed in traditional rather than skimpy costumes. Admittedly these are a bit revealing in the boob section but the skirts are not mini skirts (it's not Hooters!) The festival is aimed at all ages, including families, its not just a giant piss up.

If you trust your DP and you can afford it you should let him go. If you don't trust your DP then you have bigger problems then him wanting to go to Oktoberfest.

YABU for the reasons mentioned above. If you didn't want him to go because you can't afford it that's one thing, but not because the barmaids wear skimpy outfits and he has dodgy mates. Sorry.

You're mixing up German culture with the UK culture. Even kids go to these beer things, it's not a beer brothel.

so you dont trust your DP then? how does he feel about that? does he trust you?

Oh no, not skimpy clothing!

YABU, you either trust him enough to have a relationship with him or your don't.

Going to a beer festival won't change that.

Either you trust him or you don't. Would you let him go to the pub with these friends of his?

I don't see what other people wear has anything to do with it - and fwiw the "barmaids" don't wear "skimpy" clothes - they wear traditional dresses (usually ankle length), an apron, a blouse... I've taken my young DC to Oktoberfest, during the day - it is pretty family friendly, hardly a den of vice.

There are far worse places for your dp and his friends to take themselves off to. But YANBU to be underwhelmed if this trip is unaffordable or cuts into holiday time you'd have expected to have together or as a family. YABU if all that's bothering you is the possibility of him being served beer by women in traditional dress. Whether or not this is low cut. In fact, I'd have thought there were greater "eyefulls" to be had on Saturday nights in most UK city centres.

And at UK beer festivals too!

YABU. Oktoberfest is nothing like a piss up in the uk where people drink cheap beer and use it as an opportunity to pull. It's family friendly, kids around, festival like with food, playgrounds, carnival like etc.

Agree with the posts above. It's hardly a drunken shagfest.

There are also a lot of male waiters dressed in lederhosen. Some of whom are quite hunky!

The last thing any Oktoberfest waitress is going to want to do is get it on with a British tourist - and any lad who tries it on will soon work out just how strong the waitresses are once they've experienced a right hook - these women carry 10 large glasses of beer at a time and are far too busy to be chatting up anyone.

It is a beer festival, not an orgy you know....

"these women carry 10 large glasses of beer at a time"

It's very impressive :)

I struggled to lift one of those jugs of beer when I went to the london beerfest, and got smashed on the german white wine instead!

Yes, I think those waitresses would give a pretty impressive right hook if the OP's DP gets frisky!

Oktoberfest is the Munich Beer festival (approximate alcohol 2%). It's not an illegal rave

It's the female British/Oz tourists who wear the more revealing version of the costume - kinda like a French maid outfit. Have seen pictures on FB from friends who have been.

But really it's all about the beer as far as I can tell. If my DH wanted to go I'd be happy to let him (but I'd want to go too, Munich's one of my favourite cities. Shame I hate beer though....).

I'd love to go too...

I've been myself - it's harmless. Is the problem more with the mates, because if it's just the destination, I'd say YABU?