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WIBU to show DS a message from Santa labelling him naughty?

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RainboweBrite · 20/12/2011 18:04

My 9 year old DS hasn't had the best year in terms of behaviour, and I've just created a 'naughty' message from Santa on the PNP website. However, I'm wondering if I should actually go ahead and show him it now.
Part of me feels it is a bit mean, but at times his behaviour has made me not want to give him any of his presents this year.

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Kayano · 20/12/2011 18:06

No because if he is still naughty this week are you really not going to give him his presents?

It may become an empty threat and DS will realise even Santa does whatever I want etc....

MorelliOrRanger · 20/12/2011 18:06

Have you watched it?

I think it's mean so YABU IMO. If you are going to give him presents and his behaviour was dealt with at the time then it should be the end of it really.

Punkatheart · 20/12/2011 18:06

It will be fine. All Santa says is that he isn't yet on the nice list, but there is still time...so it gives him a goal..

wahwahwah · 20/12/2011 18:09

What's the PNP website? I am definately doing one for DS. He has been a pain today and I may have to get some revenge before I have a stroke.

MenopausalHaze · 20/12/2011 18:10

This is not the first time this issue has been raised here in recent days. I think it's a perfectly horrible thing to do and if the only way you have of controlling/disciplining your child is via an online pretend entity then you need to sit down and have a chat with yourself. I'll never understand why some 'parents' need to introduce this nasty meritocratic element into what should be such a lovely magical time of year for children.

perceptionreality · 20/12/2011 18:11
  1. using santa as a threat is wrong when the whole thing is a lie to start with
  1. at 9 I'd be very surprised if he still believes anyway...
RedHotSanta · 20/12/2011 18:11

I couldn't do it.

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RainboweBrite · 20/12/2011 18:12

I have watched it, yes, and as Punkatheart says, it's not that bad and it give shim a chance to redeem his ways, but I am in two minds about actually showing it to him, hence why I've posted on here and sent it to my email account for now and not his.
Morelliorranger, I know what you mean about it should be the end of his behaviour once it's been dealt with, but at the moment, he's having to be spoken to about something different nearly every day.

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TheMonster · 20/12/2011 18:12

I did it! We had a PNP video and it said he wasn't on the nice list. DS was mortified and was good...for about a day.

perceptionreality · 20/12/2011 18:13

I couldn't agree more meno.....put it better than I did

mercibucket · 20/12/2011 18:13

I did contemplate doing it for a laugh with ds1 who completely does not believe, but I wouldn't do it with anyone who still believes

RedHotSanta · 20/12/2011 18:15

My DD held her breath and looked totally terrified when she watched to see if the light went green or red. When it went green she was SO happy, I could never have done a negative one.

WorraLiberty · 20/12/2011 18:16

And how are you going to get him to behave other times of the year?

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RainboweBrite · 20/12/2011 18:17

perceptionreality, I am not sure he fully believes; he is definitely on the cusp. I stopped believing at 7, so pleased he still kind of believes at 9. Although it may well have something to do with the fact that we have always done a present from us and a present from Santa as well, and he knows that Santa doesn't bring anything to people who don't believe in him.
BodyofEeyore, only for a day, eh? Maybe it really isn't worth it then...
wahwahwah, it's the Portable North Pole website, where you can create a message for your child from Santa. You can upload photos too.

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shinyrobot · 20/12/2011 18:18

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RainboweBrite · 20/12/2011 18:19

Worra, bread and water, if he carries on the way he's been going the last few months!

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KatieScarlettsCrackers · 20/12/2011 18:21

Utterly horrid

FizzyChristmasFairyDust · 20/12/2011 18:25

I showed one to my DC, it was one for a fictional child who I said I had heard about, DC watched it with a Shock expression and said that it was good that Father Xmas was giving the child another chance. He was on his best behaviour all day after that :)

FizzyChristmasFairyDust · 20/12/2011 18:26

RedHotSanta, my DC were the same, absolutely on tenterhooks to see their light go green :)

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RainboweBrite · 20/12/2011 18:28

I need him to behave for longer than a day, so I don't think I will show it to him. In fact, I'm going to delete it right now, and hope his behaviour over the next few days is good enough to make me want to send him a 'nice' message.

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KatieScarlettsCrackers · 20/12/2011 18:29

You are now officially on the "nice" list Rainbow

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RainboweBrite · 20/12/2011 18:31

Ha, ha, I don't know about that, KatieScarlettsCrackers, but it's deleted now!

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TerrysNo2 · 20/12/2011 18:31

I would never put DS on the "naughty" list as I don't think children should be labelled naughty (their behaviour is sometimes naughty but they aren't)

My DS (3yo) loves his PNP video - its just fun, not a way to get children to behave - thats our job!

CailinDana · 20/12/2011 18:32

The whole thing is seriously creepy. I have contemplated not doing the Santa thing at all with my DS and this is tipping me towards that decision. It just seems horrible to make up a guy who is supposed to be able to spy on children and then use him to threaten to ruin one of the most special days of the year. It's so nasty. I could never sit a child down and make them watch to see if a light goes green or red, especially when it's not even real. Horrible.

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