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WIBU to show DS a message from Santa labelling him naughty?

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RainboweBrite · 20/12/2011 18:04

My 9 year old DS hasn't had the best year in terms of behaviour, and I've just created a 'naughty' message from Santa on the PNP website. However, I'm wondering if I should actually go ahead and show him it now.
Part of me feels it is a bit mean, but at times his behaviour has made me not want to give him any of his presents this year.

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TheMonster · 20/12/2011 18:59

They don't actually get told they are naughty, terrysno2. They just get told they aren't on the nice list yet.

weevilswobble · 20/12/2011 19:04

Perhaps look at your parenting? Sorry, but IMO YABVU. Its mean and gives him a nasty example. Kids need examples of loving behaviour. Sorry.

weevilswobble · 20/12/2011 19:06
TheMonster · 20/12/2011 19:07

Thousands of children get PNP messages each year. They don't all suffer because of it.

pugsandseals · 20/12/2011 19:08

I have always believed that there is no such thing as a naughty child, just naughty behaviour! It is for this reason that I would try to talk to him about his feelings. Often bad behaviour happens when kids don't know how to communicate. HTH

mumeeee · 20/12/2011 19:11

YWBU. It's not a very nice thing to do. We never used Father Christmas as a threat to our girls when they were younger. To the person who says that a 9 year old wouldn't believe. 2 of my children believed until they were 10 and 11. also most of my nieces and nephews believed until they were at least 9

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RainboweBrite · 20/12/2011 19:36

I deleted it about an hour ago, but I understand not everyone has the time to read the whole thread before commenting. I sometimes comment on other threads without reading all the way through. I don't think IWBU to consider doing it, but for me it would have BU to do it.

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Pandemoniaa · 20/12/2011 20:22

I'm glad you've deleted the message. I'm fairly spooked by the very idea of getting an imaginary person to rule on whether a child deserves to get Christmas presents or not. Talk about evading parental responsibility!

crazygal · 20/12/2011 21:01

hahahaha i did one for dh.....a very rude one....he laughed so much! santa told him he was very naughty and his gift was going to be a strap on!! hehehehehe (sorry)
it was fun....
on a serious note,i did do one for ds 7,i did the naughty list one (he has some issues and he is violent toward me) but when i watched it first i just couldnt do it....i deleted it and put him on the nice list,
you know its all reverse pyschology,if someone tells you you are bad,then you will be bad,if your told you are great,you will feel it and want to please more,i hope that makes some sort of sense to you,xxx

2rebecca · 20/12/2011 23:11

Sounds horrid. You get Christmas presents because it is Christmas, same with birthday presents. I don't get the connection with behaviour. If my kids are misbehaving I discipline them in some way. I've never blackmailed them by threatening not to give them presents, but then I did santa as present deliverer, not santa as a "god" substitute who judges your behaviour and decides if you go to present heaven or hell.
I'm an atheist but surely if Christian then Christmas celebrates jesus's birth irrespective of how good mortals have been.

perceptionreality · 20/12/2011 23:19

2rebecca is absolutely right. My children get Christmas presents because I love them and to celebrate the time of year, not as a reward for good behaviour.

Of course find a way to address the behaviour but leave Christmas out of it....

MrsRhettButler · 20/12/2011 23:29

Kids believe until they're 9!? Really? Dd is 6 and is definitely questioning it this year.

mrsjay · 20/12/2011 23:29

I never got into this naughty/nice thing i think its a bit cruel TBH , yes we want children to behave but no i wouldnt put a child on a naughty list , I was watching fred claus the other night and they banned the naught/nice list ,

mrsjay · 20/12/2011 23:31

sorry i didnt read the whole thread glad you deleted it , Im sure your son is being naughty but i think you did the right thing ,

wahwahwah · 21/12/2011 09:20

It is very cute. All children know about santas list! We did a 'nice' list one for DS and the look on his face went the elves made the computer work, well, I was blubbing, but then it doesn't take much to set me off these days.

If you haven't seen it, Santa had a very large beard so you can't see his mouth and actually says the child's name, age, location, school year. He can also say what special gift he is going to bring. You can upload photos so that they appear in his book. It isn't a bit cheesy! Very very cute and much better than waiting in a long queue to see a store Santa!

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