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AIBU?

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Original poster

to find this over the top?

26 replies

teacoupons · 01/12/2011 19:37

DD1 brought home a note today that said for the nursery Christmas party I would need to provide her own plate of food and her own drink with her name on it clearly labelled. AIBU to think this is a bit OTT? I don't remember this when I was at school. We all brought a plate to share and were told of allergies if there were any in the class.

OP posts:
Firawla · 01/12/2011 19:38

yanbu, that does not sound very fun for a party!

bruffin · 01/12/2011 19:41

Probably too many pfbs in the class who are banned suger

Original poster
teacoupons · 01/12/2011 19:50

I just find it bizarre.

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Greensleeves · 01/12/2011 19:52

miserable sods!

they will end up policing swaps and consoling weeping wunderkinder who are sat staring at a plate of sliced papers while their mates tuck into oreo cookies and nik naks

Groovee · 01/12/2011 19:53

From P3 upwards they do this in my children's school. It could be costs this year and fussy children.

Greensleeves · 01/12/2011 19:55

peppers, not papers

claricestar · 01/12/2011 19:56

it's not so bad if you think of it as a party packed lunch or picnic maybe?

squeakytoy · 01/12/2011 19:57

Does not surprise me at all after reading the threads on here...

lljkk · 01/12/2011 19:57

Actually it makes sense to me.
Could make it much easier if there are several people with significant food sensitivities (allergies, coeliac, whatever), they won't feel left out if everyone just has own plate & nobody shares.

MenopausalHaze · 01/12/2011 19:59

Doesn't surprise me either squeaky - I expect the food police are all smug and satisfied that they seem to be getting their way!

2kidsintow · 01/12/2011 22:52

I think this is a good idea. After all it is just a packed lunch, but presented in a party format.

At my DDs nursery we all had to sign up for things that we would send in. E.g. a dozen cakes, breadsticks etc.
It always bothered me that they didn't/couldn't make sure that there was a class set of each thing the same so that there was no comparing, or that a child could look at another child's plate and see something they like but that they couldn't have. (PFB-itis on my behalf there!)

I also remember as a child having to eat things that I really didn't like at parties as there was always a set provision of things regardless of what different children liked.

This way you can be sure that you can provide exactly what your DC will eat.

Popbiscuit · 01/12/2011 22:57

Ridiculous. Like it or lump it (unless your child has a severe allergy).

Sevenfold · 01/12/2011 22:58

I think it sounds good, at least you know your child will have stuff they will eat, but it will stop them from trying new stuff

Theas18 · 01/12/2011 22:59

How very un Christmassy ! Though ita with all the pfb stuff these days- kids not allowed sugar or e number erc etc I can see why.

Takes all the sharing and fun out if it- all the opportunities to learn social skill like not taking all the paty rings before you've even eaten a sandwich ( and not eating the sandwich filling and putting the bread back!).

My kids school went from bringing stuff in to banning anything that want factory made and sealed, to sen a quid and th kitchen will provide ( allergy and e Coli worries) but not this far.

WorraLiberty · 01/12/2011 22:59

Honestly, this is what the PFB type hysterical parents are doing to schools

They're too scared to shit without a parent kicking off about the type of toilet paper provided.

PomBearAtTheGatesOfDoom · 01/12/2011 23:04

I would be soooo tempted to send fruitshoots and pombears and a Gregg's sausage roll Grin
and decant the fruitshoot into a gin bottle...

WorraLiberty · 01/12/2011 23:07

Pom Grin

I wonder which poor kid will be nibbling couscous and drinking mineral water...whilst looking longingly at the party food.

Backtobedlam · 01/12/2011 23:11

It seems a shame, it's nice for the children to take things in to share with their friends. I'm forever encouraging mine to offer others one of their sweets or biscuits and they actually do enjoy it. I think it's a bit mean to have them all sat with their own plate-what if one parent forgets? I have this image of a child sat with empty plate while the others wave their chocolate fingers and French fancies around!

dancingmustard · 01/12/2011 23:13

When I was at school I can only ever remember one diabetic.

Now everyone's allergic or diabetic or intolerant. Forgot to say i'm a diabetic now Hmm

Kids without ailments might as well have them because they are forced in certain situations to have the same restrictions placed on their lifestyle by rules etc.

HairyBeaver · 01/12/2011 23:16

See now I agree with this before I get shot down I'll tell you why Wink

I'm the least PFB person ever but my son has mild ADHD and certain food/drink really affect him (fruit shoots, certain cakes etc) so I wouldn't be happy if they gave him these then sent him home high as a kite. I wouldn't mind if he had these in the morning as long as the effects had worn off by home time Wink

I'm trying to teach DS what he can and can't eat Sad

WorraLiberty · 01/12/2011 23:18

The Infant school here has started asking for donations (loose change) at the christmas concert and the staff buy the biscuits, cakes and drinks because this saves on waste and they know what to buy for kids with allergies etc.

The Juniors still ask kids to bring an item in each and the teachers share them out.

WorraLiberty · 01/12/2011 23:19

Hairy but surely that's down to you to tell the teacher what your child can/can't have?

Popbiscuit · 01/12/2011 23:23

...It'll be the little boy in my son's class who gets hand-delivered to the classroom doors every morning with his mom spoon-feeding him the remains of his kale-salad breakfast. I wish I was kidding Sad.

WorraLiberty · 01/12/2011 23:26

Shock Lordy Pop

Popbiscuit · 01/12/2011 23:30

Indeed. May contain NUTS Grin