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AIBU?

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My friend thinks Im uptight....

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Mammie81 · 04/09/2011 18:29

At lunch. My 9mo DS eating his shepherds pie, her DD eating her carrot stix things. He was trying to grab them off her (and her fruit shoot which I dont like.) I realise this is a MN cliche. Im not a troll. Friend said 'Can he have one of her carrot sticks? He wants one'

I said no because I dont really like crisps myself, they looked bright orange - they had stained her DD's fingers - and they were for 12 months +. And I doubt he 'wanted' one. He grabs for everything.

She said I was uptight, and she agrees with me on some things but that was too far as they were melty and he'd be fine. I wasnt too worried about choking, it was the orange stained fingers and the fact I dont like crisps that put me off!

Anyway, I know I wasnt really BU because I can feed him however I choose to, but am I really uptight?

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Tee2072 · 04/09/2011 18:30

A bit. If they are Organix Carrot Stix, the orange stuff is carrot, actually. Not that powdered cheese like on other snacks.

Wouldn't kill him even if it was powdered cheese.

There is nothing wrong with the occasional treat.

controlpantsandgladrags · 04/09/2011 18:32

By carrot sticks do you mean the organix crisps? I was trying to work out how a carrot baton could stain a childs fingers

You're not uptight. Your child, you decide what he eats. My DDs both ate their share of organix snacks when they were little (your friend is right, they do melt) and they've never come to any harm

controlpantsandgladrags · 04/09/2011 18:32

Oh, and the orange stuff is carrot.

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Mammie81 · 04/09/2011 18:32

Haha ok. They just looked like Nik Naks to me and I hate those things.

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usualsuspect · 04/09/2011 18:36

yes you do sound uptight

verytellytubby · 04/09/2011 18:39

I'd agree with your friend. It's one lunch.

TheMonster · 04/09/2011 18:39

They are yummy!

TrillianAstra · 04/09/2011 18:39

YANBU to not want your 9 month old to eat food that is labelled as being for 12 months plus.

YABU to refer to something as "carrot sticks" when you are not talking about sticks of carrot.

TheEarlOfDoncaster1963 · 04/09/2011 18:41

a little uptight, imo. Although if he is your first it's forgivable. the more children you have, the less you worry about sticking to the age guidelines. And, er, just because YOU don't like crisps doesn't mean that your son wouldn't like the occasional taste!

RedOnion · 04/09/2011 18:41

Yep sorry you do sound very uptight. If they are the organic carrot stix then the orange coating is carrot (not that ONE wotsit/niknak would kill your kid anyway).

RedOnion · 04/09/2011 18:46

(and they are suitable from 7 months i'm sure. Was it something different than organix carrot stix?)

sjuperwolef · 04/09/2011 18:46

the organix range is brilliant, a lot better than wotsits and quavers so many mums shove in front of their babies, dd still gets some organix things when we are out and about and she is 6.

MordechaiVanunu · 04/09/2011 18:47

Yep slightly uptight.

They weren't crisps and it's you that doesn't like crisps anyway.

so are you only going to feed him things you like??

Are you uptight about cleanliness? You seem to stress the orangey/dirty fingers as a reason not to have the sticks.

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Mammie81 · 04/09/2011 18:54

I just give him whatever we eat as he eats with us as a family. I suppose I just didnt know what they were and was a bit wary. All I knew was they were for 12 months + and bright orange so I said no.

Thanks for the feedback.

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Mammie81 · 04/09/2011 18:56

And I wasnt going to give him something just because she said it was ok. I dont think thats uptight is it?

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MordechaiVanunu · 04/09/2011 18:56

Put like that sounds fair enough.

FredBare · 04/09/2011 18:57

yes uptight

relax a little, everything isnt a battle

Blatherskite · 04/09/2011 18:58

My 2 love the Organix stuff, including the Carrot sticks. They are indeed coated in carrot not cheesy dust and IMO they taste awful and therefore can't be bad for you

They do stain just like Wotsits etc although carrot will do that from the inside out too. My friend fed her DD so many home made purees with carrot in as a child that the girl went slightly orange!

Kalypso · 04/09/2011 19:00

I think it was a little mean of her to refer to you as 'uptight'. You hadn't bought them, and didn't know what was in them - if your friend?s DD was drinking a Fruit Shoot, then it?s natural to assume that she might have a similarly relaxed attitude about feeding her DD crisps. You weren't to know they only contained carrot, and weren?t some Nik Naks type thing.

My 18 month old DS likes those carrot sticks. I don't have a problem with the fact they're crisps, but they are an absolute pain in the arse as the staining gets everywhere.

If I were in the position of your friend, I'd have asked you whether your DS wanted some, and would have been fine about it if you'd said you'd rather not give him any. However, maybe she was a little offended by your tone (did you unintentionally come across as a bit judgemental?) and reacted by calling you 'uptight'.

Tee2072 · 04/09/2011 19:08

Huh. I just looked, they do say 12 months. I thought they were 7 as well.

Feminine · 04/09/2011 19:13

Natural carrot stains ...I eat raw ones a lot and always have orange fingers afterwards...

If you are not familiar with them I suppose you should have asked maybe?

They wouldn't do any harm.

knittynoodle · 04/09/2011 19:19

I agree with Kalypso. Why would you give your baby something if you dont know whats it in and its for an older child. I wouldnt.

knittynoodle · 04/09/2011 19:21

I think calling posters calling you very uptight is a bit mean too actually. Cautious is a better word

plinkplonk · 04/09/2011 19:27

I think your friend is BU - it's up to you what your baby eats. Why are women so bitchy about parenting stuff!

CardyMow · 04/09/2011 21:43

My 7mo eats those carrot sticks - he has a couple when the older dc are eating their crisps, otherwise he tries to steal their crisps. They are organix, and the orange stuff is carrot. Though I wouldn't give a baby (or any of my dc - even 13yo DD!) a fruit shoot, what's wrong with water or fresh fruit juice?

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