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Should this be up for debate?

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Newmummytobe79 · 26/07/2011 13:55

Not really an AIBU but just wanted to know what you all thought about this? Baby is due soon, will be around 2.5 ? 3 months old when it?s SIL?s birthday party. Kids will be attending. Baby will be coming with us. DH and I have joke bickers (!) about how it will be his turn to drive when baby arrives so mummy can have a glass of wine or 2! He suggests we get a taxi to events like I?ve just mentioned and take car seat for baby. Neither of us will get drunk but would like a few which would take us over the limit ? are we being unreasonable and should one of us drive and not drink at all or is it ok to put a baby in a carseat in a taxi and have a few drinks?

This may not be an issue if I can?t express as I plan to bf ? but just wondered if it was acceptable or frowned upon? If it makes a difference ? it would be a 10 minute journey.

OP posts:
charliejosh · 26/07/2011 13:58

YANBU, you will both deserve a drink - enjoy!

Punkatheart · 26/07/2011 13:58

Surely it's not OK to drink if you are breastfeeding? I also would not drink in charge of a baby. Better that there is one parent who has not been drinking. Judgement is impaired with alcohol.

Original poster
Newmummytobe79 · 26/07/2011 13:59

Thanks Charliejosh :)

Punkatheart - that's why I mentioned expressing - I would not bf whilst out drinking alcohol!

OP posts:
CoffeeIsMyFriend · 26/07/2011 13:59

If you are ebf I would make sure you had plenty of milk if you are going to have a few drinks.

HAve a glass of wine, you deserve it.

ben5 · 26/07/2011 14:02

express and then have a glass of wine. get a taxi. better than drinking and driving

bibbitybobbityhat · 26/07/2011 14:02

You can safely drink a glass of wine while breastfeeding for heaven's sake! If you want to have more than this then yes, you will need to take a taxi. But is it really worth it for the sake of another glass of wine?

joric · 26/07/2011 14:03

One of us always stayed sober when DD was a baby. A baby of 2/3 months still needs round the clock feeding etc. Not possible, even with bottle if you are drunk.

4madboys · 26/07/2011 14:04

its fine to drink in moderation whilst bfeeding! there are plenty of studies on it, i think tiktok would have more info/links.

obv you cant get roaring drunk when you have a baby to look after, but a couple of drinks should be fine.

tho do be aware that if you havent had a drink for months (preg) that your tolerance for alcohol will be low....you could always have a practise drink once a week before the party so you are used to alcohol again tho! Grin

bibbitybobbityhat · 26/07/2011 14:05

No one is talking about getting drunk joric.

joric · 26/07/2011 14:06

Following on from what I said... It should be your DH who stays sober to B'day party!!!

Solo · 26/07/2011 14:06

I never ever expressed if I was having a glass of wine. But I do think there should be one completely sober parent in charge of a baby.

JellyJenko · 26/07/2011 14:07

Also you need to remember after this period of restraint you might find it takes you a while to get your drinking habits back up to speed, so you might be happy to drive to stop people forcing the booze on you.

When DS was 3 months old, I was still getting a headache after the odd glass of wine that I managed! (He's 10 months old and I'm back up to a bottle a night glass or two every now and then) Grin

joric · 26/07/2011 14:08

bibity- have I been told off? If you're not capable of driving, you arn't capable of looking after a 2/3 month old baby. (IMO)

eastegg · 26/07/2011 14:08

Go and enjoy a drink.

And even if you're bfing, you can still have a drink just don't get bladdered (which you wouldn't anyway in charge of a baby). Even better if you can time the feed so it's before you've had much/anything to drink.

Don't see a problem with putting a car seat in a taxi.

4madboys · 26/07/2011 14:10

well its sensible NOT to drive after even one drink, that doesnt mean that you can then not look after a baby.

i think most parents have had a glass or two of wine and still been able to look after a baby!

the op isnt going to get paraletic!

joric · 26/07/2011 14:12

Point taken 4mad!

CogitoErgoSometimes · 26/07/2011 14:13

It won't be the booze or the taxi you're arguing about when the time comes, it'll be who gets to have a lie in the next day. :) Parties really not much fun when you have to be up again at 2am.... 4am.... 6am.....

piprabbit · 26/07/2011 14:17

It's fine - just remember not to co-sleep if you've had a few drinks.

GColdtimer · 26/07/2011 14:19

Not unreasonable but when it comes to it, you honestly might be so knackered you will only want to go for a short time anyway and so pointless getting a taxi.

Scholes34 · 26/07/2011 14:26

Don't make plans just yet. I'm sure you'll chop and change your mind a lot closer to the time and you'll be surprised how much you don't want a drink and would prefer the convenience of having your car with you instead.

msbuggywinkle · 26/07/2011 14:31

Kellymom says 1-2 drinks is not proven to have any effect on a breastfed baby.

This is what I have always done, had one or two (can't wait for Christmas so DC3 is out!) and breastfed as normal. Never had any problems.

EdithWeston · 26/07/2011 14:31

If it's really only 10 minutes away, could you drive there and walk back? Send DH to retrieve the car the next day.

Jux · 26/07/2011 14:47

See how it goes vis a vis bf; if it all goes as you are planning, then a couple of drinks shouldn't be a problem at all.

This thing about 'safe' number of units of alcohol is a bit silly. The experts have no idea and just plucked some figures out of thin air.

eastegg · 26/07/2011 16:57

10 mins driving is a long way to walk! 5 miles at 30 mph.

LineRunner · 26/07/2011 17:00

That's fine; as long as neither of you fall asleep with the baby either in bed or on the sofa, just to be on the side.