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vickibee · 14/07/2011 18:16

Ds4 starts school in Sept. The 5th is Inset so I informed nursey that he would be attending on 5th and this would be his last day. My contract says i have to giv a month's notice of leaving. The nursey have said no as it is the stat of a new term and they are full up with new starters. Surely this is wrong and i am entitled to this day if I wish, thay have made an assumption that he will have already left. Ny law he could stay unil Jan 12

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squeakytoy · 14/07/2011 18:17

Is there really any point in taking him in for ONE day.. I wouldnt have thought so, and yes if he is registered to be starting at the school, then as far as inset day goes, he is still a pupil even if the school is closed.

M0naLisa · 14/07/2011 18:18

Ny? New York? Eh?

Its teh new term where he will be in a new school so the nursery are right (i think) if your working youll have to take that day off and book a holiday with your workplace.

Marne · 14/07/2011 18:19

I can see there point, they will have lots of new children starting so wont be able to hold a place for your ds to just come in for 1 day (as it could meen turning away another child who would attend for the whole term). Surely you can find child care somewhere else for a day?

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vickibee · 14/07/2011 18:20

We have no emergency childcare so yes I will have to book holiday - not happy. Don't see why it is always on their terms so inflexible. I have barely any hols cos I have started a new jib and had to take a week off when he had chicken pox but we still had to pay the nursery of course.

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LIZS · 14/07/2011 18:22

Presumably EY funding starts that day so they should take the newcomers.

littlemisssarcastic · 14/07/2011 18:24

Don't the nursery ask you to confirm whether your DC will be starting school or not in September?
Our nursery asks for confirmation, what with so many DC being just past their 4th birthday when they start school, and so perfectly entitled to another year at nursery. The nursery obviously want to know how many places they will have so they know how many new intakes they can have.

Did nursery ask you for confirmation of whether your DC was starting school in September or not?

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vickibee · 14/07/2011 18:24

but it feels like they are kicking him out - he has been since a baby and we have been very good customers. The nursery could show a bit of understanding here and help us out.

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vickibee · 14/07/2011 18:25

Littlemiss
no they have made an assumption.

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ashamedandconfused · 14/07/2011 18:25

dont be so daft, if your child is starting school they are starting school, why would you even think he could still go to nursery

what about other inset days, days he might be ill or the school is closed for bad weather/boiler broken/burst pipe etc - this is all part of parenting - you need someone who is available in emergencies if you cannot easily take time off, but you also need cover in advance for INSET etc - a childminder with vacancies might take him the odd day here and there, but if she gets a regular who wants that space you'll be stuck again

littlemisssarcastic · 14/07/2011 18:26

I'm afraid I think it's rather bad form for a nursery to just assume your child will no longer be wanting the place. Is your DS 5 before September?

LucyLastik · 14/07/2011 18:27

YABU

thisisyesterday · 14/07/2011 18:29

the nursery is right i'm afraid

he will officially have started school, and he has an inset day. he will no longer be registered at nursery he will be registered at school

you cannot force them to take him, esp if they are full,.

you will have to use whatever childcare you have planned for inset days etc.

jugglingmug · 14/07/2011 18:29

Is he going all through the summer then? IMO if he is, then you should be telling them the day he will finish. If he's going on 3 and 4 year old 15 hour funding only then they shouldnt take him.

Piccalilli2 · 14/07/2011 18:29

that does seem very unreasonable. Our nursery were happy for dd1 to stay on until her school term actually started, which wasn't til 10 Sept as they had a staggered start for foundation. Were you on a term time only contract? If not I can't see the difference between him attending any days in what would otherwise be school hols and attending on 5 sept - he hasn't started school yet

GwendolineMaryLacey · 14/07/2011 18:29

Don't be silly. If your ds is of school age then they are perfectly within their rights to assume that he is finished with his pre-school place. Do you really expect them to turn a full time child away because you need the place for one day?

"Yes Mrs Jones we do have a space for your daughter in September....yes, the start of term is 4th September but she won't be able to come in on the 5th because a hang-over from last year wants to come in".

Be reasonable.

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vickibee · 14/07/2011 18:29

no he is 5 in Feb so he could have not startd school until Jan 12 and I could have kept him at pre-school if I wanted. It is a private place and we are the paying customer so aren't we entiltled to choose to suit our needs?

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thisisyesterday · 14/07/2011 18:30

if he is registered at a school and officially starts on the 5th the nursery will also no longer have funding for him.

littlemisssarcastic · 14/07/2011 18:31

Just read your OP again. If the nursery have just assumed your DS will be starting school and haven't bothered to ask you, how do they know if you are planning on moving him to school now or after Christmas?
Yet they have taken it upon themselves to fill the space with someone new already?
On that basis, the nursery ABU.
Nevertheless, the nursery wont take a child in for 1 day of a new term AFAIK unless they charge you for a whole month after that day that your DS wont be there.

thisisyesterday · 14/07/2011 18:31

i am pretty sure the LEA shares info with nurseries anyway doesn't it? so they will know which school he is about to start, and presumably if he wasn't starting until Jan you'd have told them?

what childcare have you arranged for other inset days etc? or haven't you?

GwendolineMaryLacey · 14/07/2011 18:31

Quite apart from what thisisyesterday says, the pre-school is not cheap childcare any more than school is. YABU purely on that point.

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vickibee · 14/07/2011 18:31

yes he is there all through August (no funding) so it was just an extension of that. They are grateful for customers like us cos most people only use the funded plces. Aug is costing nearly £600

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vickibee · 14/07/2011 18:33

my dh is self-employed so he will take days off but we didn;t think that this extra dat would be a problem as it was a continuation of the summer hols and not an odd day

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GwendolineMaryLacey · 14/07/2011 18:33

Hang on hang on, this is a daycare nursery, not a pre-school? In which case, if you're using them right through August as well then if you're giving them a month's notice then you're right, you can pull him put whenever. Sorry, I assumed it was pre-school.

littlemisssarcastic · 14/07/2011 18:35

Your DS can delay starting school until the term after his 5th birthday iirc, so he could start school at the next school intake after February 5th. For some schools, this would be in September.
I think the nursery should have asked you if you still wanted DS's place in September or not.
If funding covers 3 and 4 year olds, then surely if your DS isn't actually 5 until February, he'd have been covered anyway.

bubblesincoffee · 14/07/2011 18:36

Is it a private pre school or a day nursery?

Anyway, YABVU. The nursery can't miss out on taking a child full time for a whole term just because you want to use one day.

One day when your child will be registered somewhere else!

The nursery will have done transition forms and got all his paperwork ready to go to the school before the next term starts and he is at school. What are you expecting them to do - send it all over at 6.00 pm on th einset day and expect that information to be used for planning for the very next morning?

This is really quite ridiculous.

What are you planning on doing with all his other inset days?

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