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AIBU?

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Original poster

To have my mirena put in under GA????

40 replies

mosschops30 · 09/09/2010 10:31

dh thinks its ridiculous Sad and is being a bit funny about it.

I had ptsd after traumatic birth with ds2. I am terrified of anything medical now, in fact most things, even seeing the hygenist is a big deal. My pain threshold has lowered considerably and Im anxious about having stuff done.

So my consultant has offered to put a mirena in under GA, well not GA as such, I wont be intubated, just a laryngeal mask, with minimal sedation for the 10 minutes it will take him to do it. So no more risk than being sedated for anything else really.

So AIBU?

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staranise · 09/09/2010 10:37

If your consultant thinks it's ok, then what's the problem?

I had one put in - took a couple of minutes and I barely felt a thing - less painful than a smear and definitely than the hygienist. But it was only 10 weeks after having DC3 Grin

Catspersonalbanker · 09/09/2010 10:43

Hi, I had a Mirena put in by my old GP under no anastheic. She was the practice person for this but was not well practised.I was having one changed over so this may sound worse than it was.

As she wasn't well practised it caused my cervix to clamp shut on removal so she had to clamp it (not sure what it meant then) to get the second one in.

Would definitley recommend ibuprofen about an hour beforehand, a good DVD and chocolate with feet up for the rest of the day. Spent the afternoon on the sofa feeling battered but better the next day.

On a much better note, in my new GPs they took the foresaid one out and it hurt so much less than a smear. So I definately think go to someone who does this routinely.

I would say froom my experience that you may need some pain control but a full GA has more risks.

If DH thinks its ridiculous, I'd liken the bad experience I had to being kicked really hard in the balls but the pain remaining for the whole afternoon. It also for his benefit as you are looking after birth control so maybe he needs to think about what you are putting yourself through this after alll as he should know all lady bits are sensitive and poking them with instruments doesn't make for a happy lady.!

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mosschops30 · 09/09/2010 10:57

As i said its not a full GA.

I had one prior to ds2 and that was put in by the GP, who I trust and she is my fave doctor. However she knows how much I suffered with the ptsd which is ongoing and she was the one who suggested I see the consultant.
When I had my last one it was very painful and I spent all day moaning on the sofa with labour type pain.

I know I couldnt go through it again

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zazen · 09/09/2010 10:58

My Gynae only puts them in under GA..

Sounds like your DH could be more supportive.

Sounds like he wants you to get over yourself double quick.
What is he afraid of?

Why won't he allow you to have your emotions?
Why is he in denial that you are not just OK with procedures done to your person.

In short, why is he being such a pr1ck?

I hope your PTSD clams down soon, Try the EMDR technique and get some counselling that specialises in it.

I would advise your DH to have counselling on how to be more compassionate and to learn some empathy.

Hugs to you - it's hard to sort something out with yourself in a hostile environment.

pilates · 09/09/2010 11:01

I had one put in under GA (also had a biopsy), on the advice of a friend who didn't and wished she did. Loads of women do - don't worry what other people say.

Marjee · 09/09/2010 11:15

Is a coil the only option for you? I'm just wondering as its obviously distressing you (you've probably already considered all the other options so feel free to ignore that!)

Yanbu, I'm terrified of the dentist and can't have anything done without sedation, some people are fine but I'm not, it works for me!

memoo · 09/09/2010 11:16

I had to have a GA to have a tooth out!

YANBU!

YunoYurbubson · 09/09/2010 11:20

Wtf difference does it make to your husband?

Why does he want you to have a more stressful procedure than necessary?

I have never before felt such a strong urge to smack a complete stranger round the back of the head. Oof. And I'm one of those whingy prudes who complains about thread title violence.

GetOrfMoiLand · 09/09/2010 11:23

Why is your DH being so obstructive? What the bloody hell has it got to do with him really? If your doctor is happy to do it, that's fine. Don't beat yourself up.

I had mine inserted with no problems, no pain at all, mind you they cut the string too short, and couldn't pull it out again. I had to have a full GA to get it out!

DrunkenDaisy · 09/09/2010 11:25

I had a bad experiecnce at the GPs. it took half an hour of prodding and much bleeding and they still couldn't get it in.

So now i have it changed and replaced under GA.

Your DH sounds like a complete cock. I suggest you stick a kebab swewer up his arse and see how he likes a bit of 'light' bleeding.

EccentricaGallumbits · 09/09/2010 11:27

suggest to dh that he lets someone shove a piece of metal up his penis without an anaesthetic before he passes judgement.

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mosschops30 · 09/09/2010 11:28

I think he feels its an unecessary procedure given that the last one was put in at the doctors.
I also think he thinks Im doing it for a bit of attention 'ooh look at me having to have an operation'

I think I probably just caught him at a bad moment last night, we've both just got back from hols and have that holiday blues feeling.

The doctor said he would be quite happy to do it in clinic but if I couldnt cope with it then he would do it in theatre, which is what we're doing.
I cant take the pill so my only other option is Implanon which he doesnt think is a good option as one of the main reason for the mirena is that it stops my very heavy and painful periods

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mosschops30 · 09/09/2010 11:30

lol at some of these replies Grin I may just suggest that to dh seeing as he doesnt even like taking a paracentamol and the subject of vasectomy is never an option to him Wink

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sanielle · 09/09/2010 11:30

I'm confused as to why your DH cares? I've never had one so don't know if GA is reasonable, but if your doctor thinks it is I suspect it is!

GetOrfMoiLand · 09/09/2010 11:30

Your husband's comments make him sound like a right git.

Attention seeking? How unsympathetic can you get?

Tell him to piss orf.

zam72 · 09/09/2010 11:32

YANBU. If it hurt you last time, it might again. If you have issues with pain from your experiences its not worth putting yourself in that position.

Never knew you actually could have them put in under mild sedation. I've heard the vast majority of people have no problems or only mild pain/discomfort. I'm definitely going to ask about GA for my next one as having my first put in was hideous to the point of contemplating whether never having sex again was better birth control than having the Mirena forced in.

Oh, and give your DH a cuff round the head for being unsupportive!

harassedinherpants · 09/09/2010 11:37

YANBU - if that's what makes you happy, then that's what you should do.

I've had two regular coils and a mirena, both without GA. My doctor is the practices family planning doctor, and she is excellent I think. I find it less painful and quicker than a smear!!

I had my mirena removed a few months ago (ttc), and didn't even realise she'd done it.

2shoes · 09/09/2010 11:47

yanbu
It isn't pleasant and if it gets you through it go for it.

2shoes · 09/09/2010 11:47

oh and tell your dh to go and have the snip :o

jellybeans · 09/09/2010 11:50

YANBU One of my coil insertions failed and sent my cervix into shock, it was excruciatingly painful, just awful, very rare thankfully and I have had 2 successful insertions (still abit painful).

withorwithoutyou · 09/09/2010 11:53

I would just stop having sex with him if I were you.

Both problems solved Grin

MisterW · 09/09/2010 12:44

As a man I'd like to say.... what a kn0b. He should be sympathetic to your concerns about having the coil fitted.

TBH a much better resolution to the problem would be to pack him off for a vasectomy.

kodokan · 09/09/2010 13:30

I had mine changed yesterday, for the first time. It was an absolute cinch, despite having had two c-sections so like no kids, really. The gynae gave me a suppository to pop in an hour before my appt to relax the cervix, and there was no pain at all on removal or insertion.

BUT I also know a couple of friends who would rather go through childbirth again than do it, having had very painful, reduced to screaming sort of experiences.

So you do it how you like, everyone's different anatomically and emotionally, and he should be damn grateful you're prepared to do it at all.