We adopted a child this year. My MIL is really old school and doesn't get the need for a different style of parenting with a child who has a trauma history.
Today I lost the plot with her for calling our wee one "naughty" over a normal behaviour for a three year old (throwing a toy on the floor) as we've been working hard on not labelling or shaming.
Other gems from today:
"She's too intelligent to ever be with a family like that” (referring to birth parents)
“Oh, seems like it’s just me that’s not allowed to give you sweets then!” (I gave her a Jaffa cake, not a bloody whole box of jelly babies like she’s tried to!)
“I’m buying her a toy kitchen for Christmas” and when I said, she already has one, she rolled her eyes and said “well this one will be from me, not some foster carer she doesn’t know anymore, so that’ll be better”
She and I have never gotten on but this today has sealed a deal for me and I've told DH she's not welcome here again, nor will she ever look after our DD alone. He agrees she was awful today but thinks it's a step too far to not let her babysit or come round.
AIBU?