Just need a little rant to people who will understand. Bumped into a woman that use to attend the toddler group I went to with my son. Since last seeing her I have adopted a second baby girl who is now 16 months. So we stop to say hello and my gorgeous girl toddles over and she says "oh my god, is she your own". So I say "yes", what I want to say is "of course she's my fucking own you dimwit, as is my beautiful boy standing right behind her". It wasn't just what she said, people often say clumsy things, it was the way she said it, as if having 'my own' as she called it, was somehow superior to adoption. My dh is quite right in saying not to pay attention, but it enrages me. I'm also narked that I received an email from work asking for contributions to a baby bundle for a man I work with Whois. About o go on paternity, when I didn't even get so much as a card. I just hate the way adoption is somehow seen as second rate and in the eyes of some less deserving of celebration. Anyway, rant over!