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Kissing with eyes open?

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Junglepi · 21/10/2026 20:33

I suppose that this will sound odd, but I'm wondering if anyone has come across this before.
I've been seeing a new guy for a few weeks and I feel pretty mad about him, because so far he's been amazing apart from one thing that sort of creeps me out a bit. He seems to keep his eyes open when we kiss and when we are in bed and I don't think I've ever experienced this before so I assume that this is odd?
I didn't notice initially but once I did I paid more attention and he pretty much keeps looking at me a lot. I've told him that it's weird and that it freaks me out a bit and he said that he can stop but that he just likes to look at me.
I know that he isn't doing anything "wrong" but I feel a bit self conscious maybe because I never spared any thought to what I might look like in those moments.

Happy to accept that I am being being precious or weird if this is common but I just never experienced it before?

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Greekgoddess2000 · 21/10/2026 20:36

Yes you’re being a bit odd - I’d say people do both and a mix of both?

BarbaraBadass · 21/10/2026 20:36

Well, kissing with your eyes shut is how you get pregnant so perhaps he’s just being sensible and taking precautions,

Junglepi · 21/10/2026 20:39

BarbaraBadass · 21/10/2026 20:36

Well, kissing with your eyes shut is how you get pregnant so perhaps he’s just being sensible and taking precautions,

Sorry what?

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JustGoogleIt15 · 21/10/2026 20:47

I dated a guy who kept his eyes open when kissing. He turned out to be a controlling narcissist. Not sure if the two things are related?

TheFirstAffair · 21/10/2026 20:53

Noooo eyes closed always!

Casualuser · 21/10/2026 20:54

Psyco vibes

Didimum · 21/10/2026 20:56

I have never come across anyone who kisses with their eyes open. It would weird me out too.

mamaof4losingmymind · 21/10/2026 20:59

That is weird as fuck i have never experienced that, thats so creepy

monkeybag123 · 21/10/2026 21:01

You must have had your eyes open to know he had his eyes open ! He may be thinking the same about you !

MyArtfulGreySloth · 21/10/2026 21:07

That is weird as fuck

EBearhug · 21/10/2026 21:12

How do you know? Wouldn't you have to have had your eyes open to tell?

PhoebeBuffay1234 · 21/10/2026 21:16

DH and I sometimes kiss with our eyes open during sex. We both find it a turn on.

Junglepi · 21/10/2026 21:16

I didn't have my eyes open but noticed that whenever I did open them he was looking at me, so I started to "check" more and he confirmed it when I asked.

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Junglepi · 21/10/2026 21:18

PhoebeBuffay1234 · 21/10/2026 21:16

DH and I sometimes kiss with our eyes open during sex. We both find it a turn on.

I can understand that but why do it if one person has their eyes closed. There is no connection then?

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PhoebeBuffay1234 · 21/10/2026 21:19

Junglepi · 21/10/2026 21:18

I can understand that but why do it if one person has their eyes closed. There is no connection then?

True!

Squirrelthethird · 22/10/2026 06:17

I'm sorry but this would freak me out too. I've never come across this.

Cruftsrecommended · 22/10/2026 06:21

My DH did this when we were dating. I was his first GF. I explained it was weird. So he stopped.

Kingdomofsleep · 22/10/2026 06:40

I don't think I'd have a problem with it myself but you aren't alone, Bruno Mars objects to this too in the song Grenade. The lyric goes "You had your eyes open, why were they open?!" So this is a known issue...!

WitchOfTheFireworks · 22/10/2026 06:42

Junglepi · 21/10/2026 20:39

Sorry what?

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MaggieBsBoat · 22/10/2026 06:43

My psychotic ex DH used to do this. It’s now on my red flag list.

ClearFruit · 22/10/2026 07:00

When you say 'in bed', do you mean that you keep your eyes closed the whole time during sex?

Junglepi · 22/10/2026 07:59

ClearFruit · 22/10/2026 07:00

When you say 'in bed', do you mean that you keep your eyes closed the whole time during sex?

No of course not but when kissing during I do and he doens't. I just found it unsettling. But sounds like it doesn't seem strange to others.

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Lilacspring · 22/10/2026 16:15

Urrgh! this happened to me,I never dated him again.

HeadWobbler · 22/10/2026 16:21

Sometimes eyes closed,
sometimes with one open,
Somtimes with two open,
Occasionally with all three open.

PaperFlyingFucks · 22/10/2026 16:23

BarbaraBadass · 21/10/2026 20:36

Well, kissing with your eyes shut is how you get pregnant so perhaps he’s just being sensible and taking precautions,

How I miss the laughter emoji @BarbaraBadass

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