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Kissing with eyes open?

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Junglepi · 21/10/2026 20:33

I suppose that this will sound odd, but I'm wondering if anyone has come across this before.
I've been seeing a new guy for a few weeks and I feel pretty mad about him, because so far he's been amazing apart from one thing that sort of creeps me out a bit. He seems to keep his eyes open when we kiss and when we are in bed and I don't think I've ever experienced this before so I assume that this is odd?
I didn't notice initially but once I did I paid more attention and he pretty much keeps looking at me a lot. I've told him that it's weird and that it freaks me out a bit and he said that he can stop but that he just likes to look at me.
I know that he isn't doing anything "wrong" but I feel a bit self conscious maybe because I never spared any thought to what I might look like in those moments.

Happy to accept that I am being being precious or weird if this is common but I just never experienced it before?

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Frillysweetpea · 22/10/2026 20:22

Junglepi · 22/10/2026 07:59

No of course not but when kissing during I do and he doens't. I just found it unsettling. But sounds like it doesn't seem strange to others.

It is strange! A friend reported the same as you and had to end the relationship over it, it was so creepy. I don't blame her.

BoundaryGirl3939 · 22/10/2026 20:29

I don't think it would bother me. More intimate and nice to see the person. I feel a lack of control or uneasiness when eyes are closed...and I am not a controlling person. Two people with eyes shut can also come across strange....depending on how you look at it.

Cardisncocktails · 22/10/2026 21:44

BarbaraBadass · 21/10/2026 20:36

Well, kissing with your eyes shut is how you get pregnant so perhaps he’s just being sensible and taking precautions,

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LindaJonesJustCantLiveMYLifeNSoul · 22/10/2026 21:47

Cruftsrecommended · 22/10/2026 06:21

My DH did this when we were dating. I was his first GF. I explained it was weird. So he stopped.

We were both 15 and tried it for a laugh ..we both agreed it was weird.

LuciferOverLancashire · 22/10/2026 21:55

You won’t be able to get past this OP 👀

Brandyb · 22/10/2026 22:12

BarbaraBadass · 21/10/2026 20:36

Well, kissing with your eyes shut is how you get pregnant so perhaps he’s just being sensible and taking precautions,

If only we were allowed to laugh

TheThirteenthFairy · 23/10/2026 09:43

Anyone interested in eye contact during orgasm? Asking for a friend.

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