Do you (consciously or unconsciously) encourage your child to disrespect their teachers?

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Mostly C's = yes 🙂

1. Your child's school's uniform policy says they need to keep their blazers on during the school day. Do you:
a) Explain to your child that the blazers are part of the uniform, and would frequently get mislaid and mixed up if students were taking them on and off all day?
b) Check the policy to make sure there are exceptions for hot weather and, if it's not clear, write to the school politely to find out?
c) Tell your child that the policy is INSANE, and the school is being ridiculous?

2. Your child's teacher gives them a detention for repeatedly talking during lessons. Do you:
a) Explain that talking during lessons disrupts everyone else's learning, and encourage your child to make better choices next time?
b) Ask your child what happened, then contact the teacher politely if you think there's been a misunderstanding?
c) Tell your child that the teacher clearly has a personal vendetta against them, and that you won't stand for them being picked on?

3. The school asks students to hand in their mobile phones at the start of the school day. Your child says this is completely unreasonable. Do you:
a) Explain that schools need rules about phones to minimise distractions and help everyone concentrate?
b) Check the school's mobile phone policy and discuss any genuine concerns through the proper channels?
c) Agree that the school has no right to tell your child what to do with their own phone, and tell them to refuse?

4. Your child's teacher emails to say that your child has failed to complete several homework assignments. Do you:
a) Sit down with your child to work out why the homework hasn't been completed and help them develop a plan to catch up?
b) Ask the teacher for more details and explore whether your child needs additional support?
c) Reply demanding to know why the teacher is picking on your child instead of doing their ACTUAL job?

5. Your child comes home complaining that their teacher told them off for being rude in class. Do you:
a) Ask your child what they said and did, and explain that they can disagree with a teacher without being disrespectful?
b) Contact the teacher to hear their side of the story before deciding whether anything needs to be addressed?
c) Tell your child that some teachers just can't handle being challenged, and that they should tell them to f*-off?

6. The school introduces a seating plan, and your child is unhappy because they've been moved away from their friends. Do you:
a) Explain that teachers sometimes change seating arrangements to improve concentration and classroom behaviour?
b) Encourage your child to ask the teacher politely why the change was made, and discuss any concerns constructively?
c) Tell your child that the teacher is obviously on a power trip, and encourage them to start a petition to persuade the teacher to let them sit where they want?

7. Your child's teacher says they need to improve their attitude in class, and your child insists the teacher just doesn't like them. Do you:
a) Explain that it's important to reflect on feedback, even when it feels unfair, and ask your child what they could do differently?
b) Arrange a calm conversation with the teacher to understand their concerns and agree on how best to support your child?
c) Tell your child that teachers often target the kids who think for themselves, and that they shouldn't let some underpaid bully undermine their self esteem?

No Miss

We are a B with a hint of A family. We are always willing to discuss things with our child and gather evidence when needed, but sometimes have to simply explain that an institutional setting can require compromise.

Wouldn't get involved in any way shape or form for any if this.

if they came moaning to me, I'd say basically that just, FAFO, suck it up, and pick your battles.

1. Fuck around and find out.
2. Fuck around and find out.
3. Suck it up
4. Fuck around and find out.
5. Fuck around and find out.
6. Suck it up.... Probably the result of FAFO
7. FAFO.

The dildo of consequences rarely comes lubed, kids. Fuck about and find out.

Absolutely not. I explain how bloody difficult it is being a teacher and trying to keep everyone happy and that even teachers dont get things right 100% of the time.

Really fucks me off some people's lack of support toward the people who nurture and educate our kids. Unless there's ACTUAL cause for concern they should be celebrated.

Of course we don't. Didn't manage to read all this nonsens.

Teacher? Ignore the d*ckhead parents. I know there seems to be more of them daily.

Nobody admitting to choosing mostly C's then? 😉

I will, I'm a mostly C's person but weirdly it's worked as reverse psychology and I've somehow ended up with very well behaved kids who always defend the teachers when I say these things. I think it helps them let off steam when I agree with them raging. They vent away with my full support then go in and do as they're told again the next day.

I was going to say we are mostly A swots with a few B's then saw this and remembered DD saying this in Theology to her friend, overheard by the teacher. She said he just raised his eyebrows. I do wonder what the staff room thought of my parenting that day.

Not sure a website for mums who have questions about their parenting would really be a feeding ground for parents who would choose all C's.

I’ve got one C if that helps. The others haven’t happened.

i always wonder why C parents chose school for their kids, other than for free childcare. If you have such issues with authority, home educate and let schools crack on with the kids whose parents are prepared to hold a line with their children.

Mostly A. I have encountered one or two absolutely awful teachers though and am not afraid to tackle things when they get it wrong.

I do feel sorry for teachers though. Probably dealing with the two extremes of parents who couldn’t care less and those who care too much.

God no! Those are the people who's kids need an outside perspective of the wold!

Feel as if I should clarify she was 16 at the time. I forget what they were discussing but it was quite an apt summary of the topic.

I am.a teacher and I'd like parents to be more A definitely! But Bs (constantly emailing teachers asking for details) might look like the right thing to do but it creates a TON of work. I've spent hours this week emailing parents who are asking "for further clarification" after I have given consequences for poor behaviour, which I have to do after teaching a full 5 lesson day with a meeting after and duties at break. And that is time taken from preparing lessons and putting on reward points - there are only so many hours in the day!

Mostly As apart from the blazer question which would be a C!

Blazer question is 100% a C. Bs for the rest.

So if the blazer question is a C why did you choose the school? Choose somewhere else without that policy.

It really depends on the teacher. We are mostly As but if it comes from teachers who have been rude or dismissive then I am not going to tell my child to blindly follow them. Some teachers can be bullies and abusive.

I worked in schools, not directly with children/parents and yet I’ve encountered many C parents.
So many where they’ve been told ‘teachers can’t tell you what to do’ ‘I paid for the mobile so I say if they can have it’ etc…

But I will tell you I did tell DD the blazer policy is insane, because it is. Where I worked staff also had to wear a blazer/jacket when the kids did and it pissed me off.

Most people don’t get to choose; you're given a school, not a choice of schools. Plus, policy changes all the time within schools, so even if you were able to choose, the rules can change.

But you could at least encourage your child to empathise with them?

Some teachers are not much older than your kids. They are human, and doing a difficult job. They sometimes get things wrong and, when they do, you can choose to disparage them, publicly humiliate them, give constructive feedback, or discretely ask polite questions. Your choices might influence whether that person continues and grows with their chosen profession or throws in the towel.

And I would do but if I have a range of information (my own meetings with the teacher, my child's, other parents) that all converge to suggest the person is a power crazy fool then I might say "well you have to understand he's probably overworked and doesn't mean to shout at you for asking a question" but the second, third, tenth times? I will absolutely tell them to just ignore the teacher. It's unhealthy for them to think that all authority figures are absolutely correct.