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Esther Rantzen "too frail" to travel to Switzerland (Dignitas)

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ItWasnaMeGuv · 11/09/2026 07:32

Hopefully a family member of friend will take her and she can get her wish.

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SheilaFentiman · 12/09/2026 12:18

Not many people are comfortable at taking another person's life regardless of circumstances.
They just aren't.

I am not sure what you mean by “regardless of circumstances” here. All countries with PAD have legislation on the circumstances.

It could be argued that safeguards need to be stronger in some countries, but the basis of the laws should be preventing suffering in terminal cases with little hope of the patient recovering quality of life. Not just “taking a life” without such circumstances.

AutumnLover1999 · 12/09/2026 12:24

Keymoment · 12/09/2026 10:30

But that was not what the bill was about. You wouldn’t remotely qualify. No one with dementia would.

Yet. But if the bill is eventually passed,who's to say that won't become an eventuality?

YourAmplePlumPoster · 12/09/2026 12:24

What is this talk about pills? A lethal dose of morphine administered with a needle is all that is needed. And all this hysteria over Canada. My friend who lives in Canada and whose husband was dying of cancer chose assisted dying as he was through with all the treatment. She said it was a good death. She was with him and he died peacefully.

Happysnappydays · 12/09/2026 12:27

So you have an example of one good experience, and the rest is "hysteria"?

ShitHoleDweller · 12/09/2026 12:30

If I were her daughter I’d be getting her on the plane if that was her wish and I’d let the authorities unleash whatever punitive punishment they wanted to push my way. Literally nothing would stop me.

EasternStandard · 12/09/2026 12:38

I listened to her daughter on the radio, she spoke well. Such an emotive issue.

Ashmol · 12/09/2026 12:40

EasternStandard · 12/09/2026 12:38

I listened to her daughter on the radio, she spoke well. Such an emotive issue.

What show/radio channel was this on? Thanks I'll try listen back if that's possible.

SummerFeverVenice · 12/09/2026 12:49

Wineryvinery · 11/09/2026 11:52

The biggest abuse is keeping people alive when they want to die and they are in terrible pain and have had enough of the indignity of having lost the ability to control every aspect of their lives.

The biggest abuse is killing people who don’t want to die and assisted dying in other countries has led to this.

Keymoment · 12/09/2026 12:49

ShitHoleDweller · 12/09/2026 12:30

If I were her daughter I’d be getting her on the plane if that was her wish and I’d let the authorities unleash whatever punitive punishment they wanted to push my way. Literally nothing would stop me.

Except the fact that she is too frail to travel.
She can’t travel. She can’t be pushed onto a plane.

Keymoment · 12/09/2026 12:50

AutumnLover1999 · 12/09/2026 12:24

Yet. But if the bill is eventually passed,who's to say that won't become an eventuality?

That’s pure whataboutery.

SummerFeverVenice · 12/09/2026 12:53

5MinuteArgument · 11/09/2026 12:19

Exactly. The Netherlands is generally a sensible country where the government takes heed of the wishes of its people, rather than caving in to powerful lobby groups and the interests of big business.

And yet there are signs that euthanasia is being abused in NL.

https://care.org.uk/news/2025/04/euthanasia-deaths-rise-sharply-in-the-netherlands

The Netherlands recorded a sharp rise in euthanasia cases last year, reaching a record high that now accounts for over 5% of all deaths—a milestone that has prompted growing concern from medical authorities and ethicists alike.

Euthanasia deaths rise sharply in the Netherlands | CARE

The Netherlands recorded a sharp rise in euthanasia cases last year, reaching a record high that now accounts for over 5% of all deaths—a milestone that has prompted growing concern from medical authorities and ethicists alike.

https://care.org.uk/news/2025/04/euthanasia-deaths-rise-sharply-in-the-netherlands

Keymoment · 12/09/2026 12:54

Polesinengland · 12/09/2026 11:18

@5MinuteArgumentHow do you know that the passing of the AD bill is what “most” people want?

It seems to me that very elderly people have little to no say in their care sometimes (dying of neglect in hospital) and it’s chilling to think that families could make this decision because they think it’s in their “best interests”

This has got nothing whatsoever to do with very elderly people. Why do you think it does? The number of people on this thread alone who seem to have no clue!

Happysnappydays · 12/09/2026 12:55

Keymoment · 12/09/2026 12:50

That’s pure whataboutery.

I don't think that's what whataboutery means.
It's more an example of a slippery slope

Keymoment · 12/09/2026 12:58

Happysnappydays · 12/09/2026 12:55

I don't think that's what whataboutery means.
It's more an example of a slippery slope

Yes, you may be right, but whatever, the slippery slope argument shouldn’t be part of this. The bill allowed for no slippery slope.

ShitHoleDweller · 12/09/2026 13:01

Keymoment · 12/09/2026 12:49

Except the fact that she is too frail to travel.
She can’t travel. She can’t be pushed onto a plane.

With her wealth I’m sure it could be done but I don’t think that’s the point the family is actually making. They are trying to articulate that this should be something a civilised country should offer to their citizens with the appropriate safety rails, but of course religion take priority when it comes to assisted dying.

NoRegretsTheyDontWork · 12/09/2026 13:03

5MinuteArgument · 11/09/2026 11:36

The present system is open to abuse. Thousands of old people, who were once happy and useful, are languishing in 'care' homes, often for years, having lost capacity, unable to feed, wash or toilet themselves, with bedsores, serious medical conditions and possibly being bullied and mistreated or neglected by staff, especially in the lower cost 'care' homes.

If people want that for themselves, that's great. It's not something I want for myself. So I'm a supporter of Dignity In Dying who are trying to get the legislation changed so people can have a CHOICE. At the moment only the owners of the 'care' homes are benefitting.

Such an important, yet heartbreaking point

Keymoment · 12/09/2026 13:06

NoRegretsTheyDontWork · 12/09/2026 13:03

Such an important, yet heartbreaking point

But the bill isn’t about or for old people, and never was. Being old wouldn’t qualify you for AD. It doesn’t matter how much capacity you’ve lost.

ForMyDog · 12/09/2026 13:06

Ashmol · 12/09/2026 12:40

What show/radio channel was this on? Thanks I'll try listen back if that's possible.

I listened to her on Tom Swarbricks show on LBC. Yesterday. Can’t recall what time but you’ll get it on catch up. It is very much worth listen to Rebecca, she spoke powerfully.

SheilaFentiman · 12/09/2026 13:06

ShitHoleDweller · 12/09/2026 13:01

With her wealth I’m sure it could be done but I don’t think that’s the point the family is actually making. They are trying to articulate that this should be something a civilised country should offer to their citizens with the appropriate safety rails, but of course religion take priority when it comes to assisted dying.

You do not have to be religious to have qualms about assisted dying.

Cloverroll · 12/09/2026 13:07

I will never forget the pictures of Tony Nicklinson when he was refused the right to die some years ago. Shame on this country that we are putting people and their families through this. I hope when it comes to it, that I am able to choose, not just for my sake, but for my loved ones'.

Ashmol · 12/09/2026 13:09

ForMyDog · 12/09/2026 13:06

I listened to her on Tom Swarbricks show on LBC. Yesterday. Can’t recall what time but you’ll get it on catch up. It is very much worth listen to Rebecca, she spoke powerfully.

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Thank you.

SummerFeverVenice · 12/09/2026 13:10

Pollyanna87 · 11/09/2026 14:32

If the person with dementia withdraws their consent, this is disregarded in NL. The death can be carried out on someone objecting to it, if they consented when they were of sound mind.

Yes
https://www.bbc.com/news/world-europe-49660525

BBC has sanitised it a bit, but in reading other articles it is concerning.

Her husband dropped her at the nursing home because he was fed up with her. Then because she wandered the halls at night and was angry about being dumped there, the doctor decided she was ‘suffering unbearably’ and so decided to euthanise her. She wasn’t told of the decision to euthanise her “to avoid unnecessary distress”.

Studies in Canada show that disabled post menopausal women are disproportionately euthanised and I would not be suprised it is the same in NL.

A nurse holding a syringe

Dutch euthanasia case: Doctor acted in interest of patient, court rules

Prosecutors argued that a dementia patient euthanised in 2016 had not been asked to verify her wish.

https://www.bbc.com/news/world-europe-49660525

Keymoment · 12/09/2026 13:12

SummerFeverVenice · 12/09/2026 13:10

Yes
https://www.bbc.com/news/world-europe-49660525

BBC has sanitised it a bit, but in reading other articles it is concerning.

Her husband dropped her at the nursing home because he was fed up with her. Then because she wandered the halls at night and was angry about being dumped there, the doctor decided she was ‘suffering unbearably’ and so decided to euthanise her. She wasn’t told of the decision to euthanise her “to avoid unnecessary distress”.

Studies in Canada show that disabled post menopausal women are disproportionately euthanised and I would not be suprised it is the same in NL.

But dementia would not have qualified you for AD in the UK, so it’s irrelevant.

AutumnLover1999 · 12/09/2026 13:15

Keymoment · 12/09/2026 12:50

That’s pure whataboutery.

Who knows?

SummerFeverVenice · 12/09/2026 13:20

TotaleclipseinFrance · 12/09/2026 09:56

The truth is that people would not indeed 'do anything' to put their relative out of pain.
They would not risk prison, their livelihoods and so on.
Do I blame them? No. We're all selfish to a degree.

Though I would say that IF the relative is screaming in pain begging to die it would be an enormous act of love to put their needs first and to hell with the consequences.

Most don't though, do they?

Just stop trying to shift the responsibility on to some other person.
Some young nurse who's been ordered to get the suicide pills. Doesn't really know the person at all.
Nobody seems to give a toss about the impact on her though.

Sorry I regard it as cowardly.
If people are not prepared to do it for their relative themselves, they shouldn't expect others to do it for them.

Just because it's state-sanctioned doesn't make it right.

Yes some may see this post is harsh but I think it needs saying.

The prison risk has recently lowered.
https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-scotland-glasgow-west-42820650

Ian Gordon

Husband freed over wife smothering

Judges freed Ian Gordon after he was jailed for smothering the 63-year-old with a pillow in an "act of love".

https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-scotland-glasgow-west-42820650

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