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Found erotic books under 16-year-old daughter's mattress, say nothing?

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Edensoap · 24/08/2026 07:42

DD(just turned 16). Away for a few days with a friend's family.

I turned the mattress in her room and found two erotic books underneath it. Think 'Black Lace' type if you know what I mean.

I am inclined to say and do nothing, so just wondered if that was the common response. At the end of the day she is 16. We had the porn talk years ago and I still have an app on my phone that monitors her internet use. She is a good kid (good results last week in her GCSEs, good friends and hobbies etc, no big worries) and we have a good relationship.

I forget this ever happened right?

OP posts:
scalt · 24/08/2026 08:03

If only my parents knew that I once video recorded “the good sex guide late”, broadcast at 3am. I expected it to be porn, but it was actually presented as a serious discussion about sexual dilemmas.

Astoreilike · 24/08/2026 08:04

BigWig78 · 24/08/2026 08:01

I have- and I still don’t get it?

No one

literally NO one has said that this girl should be ashamed

BigWig78 · 24/08/2026 08:10

Astoreilike · 24/08/2026 08:04

No one

literally NO one has said that this girl should be ashamed

The person who reported my hidden message clearly does think that women and girls shouldn’t be encouraged to masturbate though. That’s why I was annoyed by the report! I wasn’t saying anyone on the thread who actually posts has an issue. The reporter clearly doesn’t have the guts to actually object in the thread but has an issue with it so reports.

Astoreilike · 24/08/2026 08:12

BigWig78 · 24/08/2026 08:10

The person who reported my hidden message clearly does think that women and girls shouldn’t be encouraged to masturbate though. That’s why I was annoyed by the report! I wasn’t saying anyone on the thread who actually posts has an issue. The reporter clearly doesn’t have the guts to actually object in the thread but has an issue with it so reports.

We shall never know
because Mn thought it was crap enough to delete

MsSquiz · 24/08/2026 08:22

scalt · 24/08/2026 07:46

If you confront her, she’ll become even more devious about hiding things.

(Mind you, I must admit that if the book in question was Fifty Shades of Grey, I would be worried, since from what I have heard, that book has really and truly terrible ideas about consent.)

Devious?? A 16 year old keeping private things under her mattress is hardly devious!

thisoldcity · 24/08/2026 10:45

My main thought is you have a teenager who reads! Good work.

Justanopinionnothingmore · 24/08/2026 10:47

It's only a book. Bet you read mills and boons once. She's 16, she's curious. Let her have her privacy.

RomComPhooey · 24/08/2026 10:47

I’d celebrate the fact she’s reading. It’s a dying pastime.

OrlandointheWilderness · 24/08/2026 10:47

Wow vintage! Good on her!

Missey85 · 24/08/2026 10:54

God you seem like such a prude I was younger than your daughter and reading mills and boon she's 16 not 5 let her read what she likes ❤️

Crinkle77 · 24/08/2026 11:33

I read all the Jilly Cooper bonk busters around her age. Loved them!

maxslice · 25/08/2026 03:55

Right.

RomComPhooey · 25/08/2026 10:44

I suspect this thread didn’t go the way the OP hoped. 😆

Fiftyandme · 25/08/2026 10:46

Say nothing

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