Anyone else not going on holiday because they just don’t want to?

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After many years of not being able to afford to go on holiday my children have flown the nest and I now find myself in the position of being able to afford a fairly simple holiday

but I’m not going because I don’t want to

my colleagues and some family cannot believe I don’t want to go away

I’m perfectly happy pottering my own house with my dog for company -last time I went away it was incredibly stressful and a lot of money got not a lot of enjoyment

it can’t just be me though that’s a bit of a homebody

surely?

Yeah were just days out this year, first time in years we haven't gone away. We're going to the cinema, meals out, local attractions and walks. We're in the middle of renovating a house ready to sell, so our money is going on that this year. I will be booking a holiday for next summer though, but this year Im happy to potter around and chill out 😊

I’ll go on any holiday possible. I love it. But I’m also able to recognise that people are different! Do what makes you happy.

Absolutely, but the poster I was responding to was behaving as if going on holiday only involved a certain very specific type of sun holiday.

I do see this with some people, on here and in RL -- as though a 'real holiday' is a beach one.

My parents absolutely loathe hot weather, neither like foreign food, neither swim and are both afraid of water. Yet, when they decided to go on their first holiday in their 60s, after we had all left home (we were dirt poor as children so never had any holidays at all, at home or abroad), they thought they had to go to Lanzarote, because that's what they heard of other people doing. Of course they didn't have a nice time, which we could all have predicted. They don't like sitting by pools, they don't sunbathe, swim, read etc, and they seem to have spent the whole time walking back and forth along a parade of shops.

But they went back again a couple of years later, because that's what a holiday was, in their view. What my mother would have adored to do is go to Rome, tour the Vatican etc. We all offered to book hotels, flights, arrange tours, accompany her and Dad etc. But all she would do was sigh and say 'Ah well, it would have been nice.'

I completely understand and I first came across someone who felt like this in my early 20s. She said she didn’t like holidays but it turned out that she meant she didn’t love going away.

do like going away to do things but I’m always glad to get back home.

I used to love to travel but as I have got older I am starting to find that I can't really be bothered. I think a lot of it is to do with the fact that when I was working I really wanted to get away, but since I retired I don't feel that way. Plus it just all seems a lot of hassle nowadays. We've relatively recently acquired pets who have to be considered, DH and I both have medical conditions which although they have minimal effect on our day to day lives always cause problems (and expense!) with travel insurance, and my FIL is very frail now so we don't like to be too far away for too long. We do have the advantage of living in a very beautiful part of the country where lots of other people come on holiday though. Now I'm retired I'm finally able to enjoy it and as there's no shortage of things to do here I don't feel the pull of traveling to other places as much as I used to.

Im in my fifties and have been on holiday three times in my adult life, each time to visit my sister who lives abroad, and each time at her instigation.
I love being at home.

Flying/the whole airport thing does my head in - ruins things for me - this year short UK trips for me.

A holiday is a break from your normal day to day tasks and work - you clearly have those. What you mean is you don't want to go away, particularly abroad. I love going away but you are not unreasonable not to travel if you don't want to.

I think when you get a bit (a good bit!) older like me, most holidays we wanted to do by now have been done, and sometimes the thoughts of the frenzy of airports, heat, getting around, finding a table in a restaurant etc. in high Summer is just too much to contemplate. Well that's me!

Having said that, I am going to Ghent and Bruges in August since a friend will be there from down under so we will meet up. I wouldn't have chosen that time of the year, but on this occasion I've made an exception.

I don't go away much now, but I do have three/four weeks in Spain over Christmas, out before schools break up and back after they return! I have an EU passport too, which helps on the journey.

I'm the same. I can't be arsed to empty the fridge, pack up all my clothes, leave the house tidy and sort the pets...not to mention spending loads of money. Much rather stay quietly at home!

I go on holiday, just never in the summer like everyone expects! I hate hot weather and the last thing I'm going to do is go somewhere even hotter! People will often ask around summer whether I have any holiday plans and I always say no. Casual acquaintances probably think I never go on holiday! But obviously close friends/family know I do.

Once DC are adults (as mine are) I see no reason not to holiday at quieter and cheaper times of the year. As for relaxation, for me I can do that at home for free and in comfort. I don't need to pay £££ to lie down and read a book! I like to be on the go and seeing/doing things.

I am finding it more tiring the older I get though. So I can see myself stopping at some point in the not too distant future. I do love being at home.

I also love being at home. No such luck with my dh who doesn’t work over the summer and always wants to go for a long time. My one exception was a safari which I loved.

I'm not going anywhere and I am quite happy about that. I have a lot of days off because one of my jobs is in education, so I am just really enjoying getting up with the day ahead and doing whatever I want. I have some days planned but I am not going away as such.
I live with one of my children who is now 18, and he has already been on a holiday this summer so I don't feel under any pressure to provide anything exciting, and it's bliss. I do actually love travelling, but it can wait for now.

I’m on the other side! I love going to different countries for the change of scene, food and the culture. I’d love to be able to go away far more frequently . Obviously I am with you about the hassle of airports and the actual travel though.