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Am I wrong to be miffed about BF's minor change of plan?

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Shewas · 17/07/2026 09:24

We don't live together.

He was going training with a friend last night and had arranged to come to mine afterwards for 8:30pm. No real plans probably watch TV.

I was doing some gardening packed everything away to come in ready to be showered for 8:30pm. Check my phone and there's a message saying they've bumped into another friend and are going for a drink. He will be at mine for 9:30. So I had an hour to kill.

Obviously I can find something to, but if I'd known in advance I'd have stayed in the garden. If I'd known beforehand, I'd have said go and have a nice time, I'll see you tomorrow.

It's not that I'm gutted to have to wait an hour to see him, it's the changing plans for a better offer and the assumption that I have nothing better to do than wait for when he decides to turn up.

The friend they met has all the gossip which was of course been shared, I'm glad he saw his friends and would have been very happy for him to spend the whole evening with them, but not with choosing to change our plans to do it.

I should say he is very reliable and would never do something like that without letting me know, and he is keen to see me, hence coming after training.

OP posts:
MixedBouquets · 17/07/2026 10:36

Wingwalk · 17/07/2026 10:33

Exactly. I was meant to get home at 7.30 last night but was having an unexpectedly fun time so got home at 1am. My husband didn't care because he was happy I was having fun and is capable of entertaining himself.

Absolutely. Because your husband wasn’t showering, putting stuff away and sitting waiting in strained expectation for you to arrive for an evening of tv watching.

Shinyandnew1 · 17/07/2026 10:37

If he text you 40 minutes before he was due to be there, I would have looked at my phone on coming in from gardening, and seen I had anymore time so would have carried on gardening if I wanted to.

LondonLass2026 · 17/07/2026 10:38

Shewas · 17/07/2026 10:28

It's long gone. Discussed, apologies and nice evening had. I don't think I was wrong to point out it was disrespectful of my time though.
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How is it "long gone" when you've written a post at 9:30am today asking if it's wrong that you're "miffed"? Present tense. You're still annoyed.

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Wingwalk · 17/07/2026 10:47

Shinyandnew1 · 17/07/2026 10:37

If he text you 40 minutes before he was due to be there, I would have looked at my phone on coming in from gardening, and seen I had anymore time so would have carried on gardening if I wanted to.

You're right, on re-reading, OP did check her phone on coming in from garden (before showering) and realised she had more time.

If only there weren't that law against going into the garden more than once a day 😞

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