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what would your ideal partner be like

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dogsarebetterthanppl · 20/01/2026 02:17

hi i was just having one of my dolly daydream moods and wondered what other people's ideal partner was. this is open to single, married and everything in between, it also doesn't negate your love for your partner if you have one, nobody is perfect but if people were, what would be your version of perfect?

physically:
jet black, wavy, long on top, shaved back and sides hair
bright blue or green eyes
full, soft lips
long nose
clean shaven or very very short beard
big hands with long fingers
very tall, tanned and muscular

personality:
very patient and encouraging
affectionate and emotionally open
enjoys deep and meaningful conversations
good in serious situations but not serious in ordinary times, funny and cheeky
very protective but not controlling in the least
not stuck in his ways, open and welcoming of change
not a drinker or partier in the least but not the watching tv and lazy day type either
loves animals and being around them
having plenty to boast about but not boastful at all
family orientated
masculine but gentle

other attributes:
smartly dressed day to day (think polo shirt, jumper and black trousers)
gives brilliant cuddles without expecting it to lead elsewhere
always up for random drives
can sleep with light and noise (i can't sleep without them)

OP posts:
rainingagainargh · 20/01/2026 07:35

Keanu Reeves 😂

Planesmistakenforstars · 20/01/2026 07:46

Quiet.

Wapentake · 20/01/2026 07:50

I don’t know, but if even an intellectually-gifted Adonis described himself as having a ‘dolly daydream mood’, I’d get the ick so hard I’d have whiplash.

GallonHat · 20/01/2026 07:53

Quiet. Rich.

MayaPinion · 20/01/2026 08:01

Doesn’t breathe too loud
Doesn’t snore
Doesn’t eat with his mouth open
Isn't annoying

LilyCanna · 20/01/2026 11:09

“Polo shirt, jumper and black trousers” - so formal trousers not jeans? I can’t imagine that combination without it being a work uniform with a shop logo on the polo shirt and jumper.

dogsarebetterthanppl · 20/01/2026 13:59

MayaPinion · 20/01/2026 08:01

Doesn’t breathe too loud
Doesn’t snore
Doesn’t eat with his mouth open
Isn't annoying

breathing too loud and eating with an open mouth makes me murderous!!!!

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dogsarebetterthanppl · 20/01/2026 14:01

LilyCanna · 20/01/2026 11:09

“Polo shirt, jumper and black trousers” - so formal trousers not jeans? I can’t imagine that combination without it being a work uniform with a shop logo on the polo shirt and jumper.

i might be alone in this but i hate jeans on menBlush

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FolioQuarto · 20/01/2026 14:03

My ideal partner is currently sitting opposite me at the dining table.

mumofoneAloneandwell · 20/01/2026 14:06
Hurry Up GIF

tall
irish
brown hair
plays an instrument
a bit depressed with kinda sad eyes 😂😂😂
big dick 🤷‍♀️🤰
loyal
devoted to me
provider and protector but also doesn’t expect me to clean
loves everything I cook, even if dd and dcat thinks it’s shite 😂

where is this man???? I would like to have him without doing zero work on myself please!!!! 🙏

mumofoneAloneandwell · 20/01/2026 14:08

FolioQuarto · 20/01/2026 14:03

My ideal partner is currently sitting opposite me at the dining table.

boo! 😂😂😂 (jealous)

what would your ideal partner be like
Badbadbunny · 20/01/2026 14:10

Not particularly bothered about looks as I'm too old for that nonsense!

It's ALL about personality and personal qualities for me....

Honesty
Integrity
Compassion
Reliability
Helpfulness
Willing to listen
Open to new ideas, experiences, etc.
More quiet/shy/introverted (not extreme though) than loud and brash
Law/rule abiding
No sign of arrogance or "know it all" tell tale signs

blobby10 · 20/01/2026 14:15

@dogsarebetterthanppl mine is similar to yours but more specifically around 6ft 5 with long legs, looks amazing in either jeans or tailored trousers and really hot in a waistcoat. Deep blue eyes, thick lashes, thick dark wavy hair which when he goes grey will become silvery and remain thick, very kissable lips. Clean shaven/little bit of stubble.
Loves horses and dogs. From a rich family but doesn't spend money for the sake of it. Needs me without 'needing' me iwswim. Confident but not cocky.

Theres more but it will get very boring as this man has been part of my fantasy life for nearly 50 years and, I'm certain, the reason Im single after a failed 20 year marriage and failed subsequent relationship (partner died) as no one in real life will match up to my fantasy man (or my dad who is nothing like this man but that's another story!)

idkbroidk · 20/01/2026 14:17

mumofoneAloneandwell · 20/01/2026 14:06

tall
irish
brown hair
plays an instrument
a bit depressed with kinda sad eyes 😂😂😂
big dick 🤷‍♀️🤰
loyal
devoted to me
provider and protector but also doesn’t expect me to clean
loves everything I cook, even if dd and dcat thinks it’s shite 😂

where is this man???? I would like to have him without doing zero work on myself please!!!! 🙏

why would you want someone who is depressed :(

mumofoneAloneandwell · 20/01/2026 14:18

idkbroidk · 20/01/2026 14:17

why would you want someone who is depressed :(

just a little bit 😂 - maybe I’m using the wrong word

I like those musician men like hozier - maybe moody is the word?

HoldingTheDoor · 20/01/2026 14:24

Nonexistent.

MTOandMe · 20/01/2026 14:27

Physically:

Short, Dark Hair with a fade.
very lean build, average height.
MUST have a full face of stubble at around half a CM in length (must never ever be clean shaven)
plenty of hair on legs, belly, chest and armpits
clean teeth but do not have to be even.
Brown eyes.
a ‘proper’ arse.

Career

Must preferably be in a trade ie a skilled manual worker who must never go to work in a suit/shirt etc

Personality

bit of a gobshite.
kind but a bit cocky.
i would agree with your ‘masculine but gentle’!
A playful bully ie likes to take the piss

MUST BE NORTHERN. but not scouse.

KStockHERO · 20/01/2026 14:27

In all honesty, exactly what my partner is:

Ambitious, loving, hard-working, loyal, faithful, has integrity, family-oriented, funny, doesn't take himself seriously, good looking, nice body, good hygiene, doesn't wear a suit to work, looks like he's going to magistrates when he does wear a suit, rich, good with money, shares lots of my political views, working-class background, normal family with parents still together.

Bonus points if he could drive and do DIY but hey ho....

roastedrapidly · 20/01/2026 14:28

Very rich

ThatWasMyLastFatFreeFrush · 20/01/2026 14:31

Wesley Snipes circa 1999
Live in a separate house to me
Not talk to me very much
Breathe quietly.

LalalaLava · 20/01/2026 14:37

Some of these sound like the description of a German Shepherd 🤣

I think on paper the "good" personality traits seem like a good idea but I'd quickly get bored with someone who ticked every box.

@MTOandMe I think I'd fight you for him.

robinsnest1967 · 20/01/2026 14:38

Rich, barely breathing, quiet, does as he's told.

MTOandMe · 20/01/2026 14:39

LalalaLava · 20/01/2026 14:37

Some of these sound like the description of a German Shepherd 🤣

I think on paper the "good" personality traits seem like a good idea but I'd quickly get bored with someone who ticked every box.

@MTOandMe I think I'd fight you for him.

I’ll be too busy erm ‘fighting’ with him!

ThatWasMyLastFatFreeFrush · 20/01/2026 16:02

LalalaLava · 20/01/2026 14:37

Some of these sound like the description of a German Shepherd 🤣

I think on paper the "good" personality traits seem like a good idea but I'd quickly get bored with someone who ticked every box.

@MTOandMe I think I'd fight you for him.

I would vastly prefer the German Shepherd.

DaughterOfPearl · 20/01/2026 16:04

Henry Cavill as the Witcher (ie not his clean, dweeby, real self🤣)
Personality wise, Henry would have to fancy a seriously overweight, middle aged woman. Other than that he wouldn't need much of a personality I suppose as we would be in bed 23hrs a day (1 hour for loo breaks and food).