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Would you tell a colleague?

47 replies

nnc18 · 18/10/2025 09:19

If their trousers were see through…
I don’t think she knows and nobody else has said anything. They’re black but you can see everything through them and I don’t know whether to tell her!

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ilovelamp82 · 18/10/2025 09:21

Yes, I would. As long as it's said kindly, if she doesn't know she'll be appreciative and if she does, she won't mind you saying.

PegDope · 18/10/2025 09:31

I would want to so badly but I wouldn’t have an idea about how to approach it.

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nnc18 · 18/10/2025 11:34

PegDope · 18/10/2025 09:31

I would want to so badly but I wouldn’t have an idea about how to approach it.

Same, and you can see everything
i would want to know

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didntlikeanyofthesuggestions · 18/10/2025 11:35

Maybe you could say something subtle like "Oh, you're wearing those knickers again? Are they your lucky ones?"

CarrierbagsAndPJs · 18/10/2025 11:37

didntlikeanyofthesuggestions · 18/10/2025 11:35

Maybe you could say something subtle like "Oh, you're wearing those knickers again? Are they your lucky ones?"

I did this with a friend of mine and her leggings. She always wears black primark leggings. With short tops. They are completely see-through. She didnt take me on.

Halfquarterbag · 18/10/2025 11:43

Could it be deliberate: she just thinks the look suits her?

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nnc18 · 18/10/2025 12:08

Halfquarterbag · 18/10/2025 11:43

Could it be deliberate: she just thinks the look suits her?

I don’t think so
they're like black flared leggings but you can see her bum/knickers because the fabric is stretched and it’s that v thin jersey, not sports leggings type

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Makemineacosmo · 18/10/2025 12:13

didntlikeanyofthesuggestions · 18/10/2025 11:35

Maybe you could say something subtle like "Oh, you're wearing those knickers again? Are they your lucky ones?"

I would be mortified if someone said this to me and would feel like I was having the piss taken out of me.

OP, I had a very similar situation with a member of my team and I was asked to speak to them. It was an awful thing to have to do I I sweat buckets over it. In the end I just said something along the lines of 'you might already be aware and you look lovely, but do you know that your trousers are very revealing? I just wanted to make sure you are aware'. She wasn't at all aware and was mortified and grateful for being told.

Loramora · 18/10/2025 20:06

didntlikeanyofthesuggestions · 18/10/2025 11:35

Maybe you could say something subtle like "Oh, you're wearing those knickers again? Are they your lucky ones?"

This is terrible advice please don't do this. It'll look mean.

Floogal · 18/10/2025 21:13

Where I work, it's either women wearing see thru leggings exposing their briefs. Or thongs poking out their trousers. One of my male colleagues has VPL 😅😆

Caleb64 · 18/10/2025 21:14

Someone once told me my skirt was a bit see through. I knew! I was 18 and still had an awesome figure 😂 their boss should tackle this if they deem it appropriate, not you IMO.

Ivy888 · 18/10/2025 23:48

Makemineacosmo · 18/10/2025 12:13

I would be mortified if someone said this to me and would feel like I was having the piss taken out of me.

OP, I had a very similar situation with a member of my team and I was asked to speak to them. It was an awful thing to have to do I I sweat buckets over it. In the end I just said something along the lines of 'you might already be aware and you look lovely, but do you know that your trousers are very revealing? I just wanted to make sure you are aware'. She wasn't at all aware and was mortified and grateful for being told.

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I think this is a good way of telling her. It’s clear you’re not making fun and just genuinely want to be helpful

Gamerlady · 19/10/2025 00:13

Just tell her , im sure she'll thank you

suburberphobe · 19/10/2025 00:16

Does she work in a night club?

If not, she's weird.

Elbowpatch · 19/10/2025 00:22

nnc18 · 18/10/2025 09:19

If their trousers were see through…
I don’t think she knows and nobody else has said anything. They’re black but you can see everything through them and I don’t know whether to tell her!

I once did tell a colleague her trousers were see through. She didn’t believe me until I described the little pink roses on her knickers.

Then she had a very red face.

TigTails · 19/10/2025 00:30

Yes, discreetly and in private, ideally near the end of the day or before a break when she has the option to go home or change or cover then with something.

Moveoverdarlin · 19/10/2025 00:33

There was a hot young woman who worked in our office one summer. She wore white, linen, see-through trousers to work with a black thong underneath. She knew exactly what she was doing. All the blokes were physically drooling most days and all the women were rolling their eyes.

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nnc18 · 19/10/2025 00:33

suburberphobe · 19/10/2025 00:16

Does she work in a night club?

If not, she's weird.

definitely not. I don’t think she has realised they’re see through

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reversegear · 19/10/2025 00:39

My friend did this at the gym, black leggings but you could see lumps bumps and knickers.. so I told her, I’d want to be told for sure!!

Lavender115 · 19/10/2025 00:50

I wouldn’t if it is a one-off.

greenbuckets · 19/10/2025 01:09

Might depend on the colleague. I work with people I would definitely say this to (and they would to me!) but I wouldn't pass that sort of comment to someone I was only acquaintances with

WallTree · 19/10/2025 04:33

didntlikeanyofthesuggestions · 18/10/2025 11:35

Maybe you could say something subtle like "Oh, you're wearing those knickers again? Are they your lucky ones?"

That would be an inappropriate workplace comment.

StarlightLady · 19/10/2025 07:25

nnc18 · 18/10/2025 12:08

I don’t think so
they're like black flared leggings but you can see her bum/knickers because the fabric is stretched and it’s that v thin jersey, not sports leggings type

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So can you see her knickers or her bum? Such a huge difference.

PloddingAlong21 · 19/10/2025 07:48

Just tell her in the loo or something one day when you cross paths and don’t make it a thing.

she would want to know.

don’t have her boss tell her as someone has suggested, now that’s weird and making a non-thing a big thing.

“I hope you don’t mind me saying, but I would want to know and I suspect you’re unaware, that your trousers are quite see through in certain lights. You of course look amazing, but thought I’d mention.”

done.

Herberty · 19/10/2025 07:57

I was given this job when the male partners thought a receptionist with see through trousers lowered the tone.

At the time I was the first female partner with a male HR chap so I did the task whilst thinking that being a partner was not all it was cracked up to be.

Then I got to tell a secretary that she smelt - swore that I had been made a partner so they had someone "appropriate" to give this type of news.