ANNOYING NEIGHBOUR

[Flowercandy]

Hi all I've got a neighbour who's lovely known him few years now on and off friendships and nothing more. But as of late we been hanging out he does massages etc and offered me one i said yes that's fine there's been flirting etc but just friendly flirt nothing more. Anyway i had a massage he then strips to his boxers it was a bit wierd i laughed it off and told him that i felt fine with the massage and no more is needed. He's very controlling in a way aswell like his texts are like why you not getting back to me why take ao long etc. So today he said he gave a shop keeper lady w gift now this shop keeper does nothing for him it was just a gift out of goodness of his heart. But with me he's then text me saying i would give you nice things but your to selfish etc. Im thinking what because your more concerned about giving me massages and touching me in weirds ways you got the hump. Says of i meet him and go to his place and help him out he'll pay for my company. I have to do things for any gift not that im wanting gifts. He boosts about giving random people gifts but they do nothing for him there just random shop keepers. His behaviour is very odd and controlling. And he said ill be sorry when he's not there anymore etc. Is this normal behaviour or is it just me being over the top he gets very annoying and controlling on texts.

Run for the hills he sounds deranged

Hi all i messages him last night and said i can't provide the friendship you want and best to leave it at that his message wasn't to bad back

It's disgusting.

Go find another person to do this.

I told u I care and would help but u don't keep your end of the bargain You could see me ask when I'm alone at the shop. Help me around the home for 30 mins and hour or just come to see me...

U focus on tiny silly childlike things and miss out on the big picture.But I know I've tried and I'm just telling u the facts. No love lost.

But I respect my life too much to waste and let people pxxs on it.

Thank u

That was his messages back ive now blocked him off

You need to log this with the police. You’re obviously vulnerable and this man’s clearly is abusive and harassing you.

The thing is he tells me im the one with no empathy and that i have to start being considerate towards others by this he means because i don't go round his place and see him or pop in and ask how he is etc makes me feel liek im the bad one

Stop engaging and listening to what this man says! He is not your friend. He is abusive, controlling and harassing you. You do not need to have any kind of friendship or relationship with this man. You’re not the bad one, HE is. Stop all contact with him. Find another shop to use, don’t answer messages/calls/the door to this man. Log all of this harassment with the police, including all messages, and call them if you feel unsafe.

Well done for blocking him and leaving it at that. Job done. It was the right thing to do
If he messages or tries to speak in real life don't hesitate in logging it with 111 or phoning the police
Or even women's aid helpline, they are really lovely over the phone and confidential. It's good to chat to other women especially ones who can help you understand what is acceptable in friendships and relationships
Definitely get out the flat this weekend and go to a local choir or book club as you need to stretch your wings and make some new friendships
If you have any MH or learning difficulties there might be local charities and support groups to join too

He has messed up views on women, consent and transactional view on friendships and relationships.. everything he says is lies intended to try and make you do as he says x

Based on your previous threads you need to be really careful as you're vulnerable and take what people say to heart but people lie all the time especially some men.