This is something I'm just wondering.
There are a few touchy-feely men at my work. For example, one adjusted my polo neck and said, I think affectionately, "Does no one look at you before you leave in the morning?" He will also tap or quickly rub my shoulders, or, for example, take a bit of fluff from my dress on my outer thigh area. Another man rubs my shoulders or arms too, to say hello. Like, he'll greet me but with a rub on my arms from behind. Not with words. Then there's a third who has mentioned that I am good looking and when I have commented about my age (I'm mid forties) it turns into more compliments. Which I don't really want or need. I'm pretty sure there's nothing in my behaviour which is needy. Or vulnerable.
I feel like I'm being stupid, but I don't know if men should touch you like this? I don't really think they fancy me, they are all married, I just think they're being kind but why do they feel they should be or can touch me in this way? I suppose they might do it to all women. I've also wondered if they do it because I am a small woman, so maybe they think I need looking after? Sometimes I think it's flirtatious, but I don't know if I misread the situation.
I was wondering what you might think. I wondered if you had any similar experiences.
Not sure if it's relevant, but I am happily married and fidelity is extremely important to me and my fab husband.