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Accused of stealing a bag for life

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MindfulMess · 12/03/2023 18:51

I went to my local supermarket this afternoon to pick up a few bits and pieces. We’re in a big city and I’m in there almost every day. There’s only one checkout with a person working it; the rest are self-checkouts.

I got chosen for a random check. No drama, it happens a lot. Then I was told I hadn’t scanned my bag for life. No , I said, it’s mine. I just took it out of my pocket. The woman repeated that I hadn’t scanned it, and I repeated that it was mine and had just come out of my pocket. She called a supervisor and they told me to wait.
A few minutes later the supervisor came back, and the first woman said (without looking at me), “You can go”. Nothing was said about what had happened but I assume they reviewed security tape or something and saw that yes, my bag had in fact come out of my own pocket.

I pointed out that they had been quite rude and was pointedly ignored. I was shaking. I’m shy in public at the best of times and I really didn’t know what was going on or what was going to happen. I mean, you wouldn’t expect they’d call the cops over a bag for life but I had no way of proving I hadn’t stolen it. They were, if anything, even more rude once they said I could go.

What should I do? I’m honestly quite scared to go back. None of the usual staff seemed to be working today (I’ve been in there perhaps every second day for over a decade, quite a few of them know me by sight.) But it’s my local shop…

(By the way I am well aware that regulars steal things too, and I have no issue with being checked. The attitude, though, was awful. When I questioned it I was basically told to leave the shop now please madam!)

OP posts:
Bluearc77 · 12/03/2023 18:55

Gosh, I don't ever pay for my carrier bags, I just press no bags and take one!

Sounds like a thoroughly unpleasant experience. Just try not to let it upset you anymore than it already has. You did nothing wrong (unlike me!).

Pinkypurplecloud · 12/03/2023 18:57

Bluearc77 · 12/03/2023 18:55

Gosh, I don't ever pay for my carrier bags, I just press no bags and take one!

Sounds like a thoroughly unpleasant experience. Just try not to let it upset you anymore than it already has. You did nothing wrong (unlike me!).

So you steal them. Nice.

MavisBeacon1234 · 12/03/2023 18:58

Bluearc77 · 12/03/2023 18:55

Gosh, I don't ever pay for my carrier bags, I just press no bags and take one!

Sounds like a thoroughly unpleasant experience. Just try not to let it upset you anymore than it already has. You did nothing wrong (unlike me!).

Same 30p a bag is a rip off

MindfulMess · 12/03/2023 18:58

Bluearc77 · 12/03/2023 18:55

Gosh, I don't ever pay for my carrier bags, I just press no bags and take one!

Sounds like a thoroughly unpleasant experience. Just try not to let it upset you anymore than it already has. You did nothing wrong (unlike me!).

😂😂 watch out Blue, it’ll be you next!

Thanks for your kind words. I know it’s not a big deal in the grand scheme of things, it was just so unexpected. I think I was more scared for those few minutes than I realised at the time. I came home and sobbed!

OP posts:
Needmorelego · 12/03/2023 18:59

@Bluearc77 you do realise you are stealing and it's people like you that mean bags-for-life prices have gone up and up.
Thanks a bunch 😡
@MindfulMess

Needmorelego · 12/03/2023 18:59

@MindfulMess sorry didn't mean to tag you 🙂

JaneJeffer · 12/03/2023 19:00

Thanks a bunch
😖

JackieDaws · 12/03/2023 19:00

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Bunnyishotandcross · 12/03/2023 19:01

Go in tomorrow wearing a bag as a hat.

LucyLeave · 12/03/2023 19:01

I would imagine loads of people nick the bags. If they want us to scan our own shopping, what do they expect really. The big supermarkets can afford to lose plenty of bags for life.

MissingMoominMamma · 12/03/2023 19:02

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What’s YT?

JaneJeffer · 12/03/2023 19:02

Yukon Territory

Pinkypurplecloud · 12/03/2023 19:02

MavisBeacon1234 · 12/03/2023 18:58

Same 30p a bag is a rip off

So are lots of things in shops, but just because you arbitrarily decide something is too expensive or not good value for money doesn’t mean you steal it!

MissLucyLiu · 12/03/2023 19:03

Bluearc77 · 12/03/2023 18:55

Gosh, I don't ever pay for my carrier bags, I just press no bags and take one!

Sounds like a thoroughly unpleasant experience. Just try not to let it upset you anymore than it already has. You did nothing wrong (unlike me!).

Jesus Christ .. I cannot believe you proudly say it aloud! There is a reason these bags cost money is to encourage people to recycle and reuse these bags and everyone else pay their fair share for these bags why don’t you pay for them ?

Eas1lyd1stracted · 12/03/2023 19:04

That's ridiculous. They can't really make you wait they have no powers. But perhaps all the secret bag thieves explain it 😂 do you have bags from other places you can use next time? Makes a nice childish point too if the same people see you. You could press for an apology but its probably a case of life is too short

Survey99 · 12/03/2023 19:04

MavisBeacon1234 · 12/03/2023 18:58

Same 30p a bag is a rip off

@Bluearc77 I will assume you both know exactly why they are priced so highly. So that makes you both a thief and also selfish. You are also the reason why other customers are being questioned on suspicion of stealing . Well done. 👏🏼

MissingMoominMamma · 12/03/2023 19:05

OP, I would email a complaint to the head office. You’ve said that you didn’t have a problem with them checking, but the rudeness was unacceptable- you need to tell them this!

If it makes you feel any better, they are probably really embarrassed and that’s why they didn’t acknowledge you.

MajorCarolDanvers · 12/03/2023 19:05

Bluearc77 · 12/03/2023 18:55

Gosh, I don't ever pay for my carrier bags, I just press no bags and take one!

Sounds like a thoroughly unpleasant experience. Just try not to let it upset you anymore than it already has. You did nothing wrong (unlike me!).

But pathetic to steal carrier bags.

Needmorelego · 12/03/2023 19:05

@LucyLeave yes I am sure supermarkets can "afford to lose" lots of bags.....you do realise they aren't manufactured for free. Someone has to pay for them. They used to be 10p but now vary from 30p - £1.
Hmmm.... I wonder why 🤔
@MindfulMess don't worry about it. Being a sales assistant is mostly a crappy job. The assistant might have been having a bad day - or she might have just been a cow.
She has probably forgotten about it by now.

BessieSurtees · 12/03/2023 19:06

It’s not the bag it’s the fact you’ve been accused of stealing with no apology.

I take the odd bag for life for my wage for scanning my own shopping I press 1 bag when I’ve used 2.

And I’m not the reason the bag price has increased 🙄

FourTeaFallOut · 12/03/2023 19:06

This is the most compelling reason not to neatly fold your bags and to just stuff them in your pocket with as much contempt as you can summon for a 30p bag.

GrannyAchingsShepherdsHut · 12/03/2023 19:07

I worry about this a bit so I take bags that aren't from the shop I'm going to! I'm aware that's ridiculous though.

DGM once got chased down the street (she was deaf) by a woman loudly accusing her of stealing an item of clothing that she'd recently bought from the same shop. No apology there either. So it could have been worse, OP. Customer service at it's finest.

Needmorelego · 12/03/2023 19:09

@MindfulMess to be honest the assistant that stopped you probably got a "Oh for pity's sake don't be ridiculous - the customer said it's her bag, let her go" from the supervisor.

Dayvi · 12/03/2023 19:09

Bluearc77 🤣 I'm sure you're not the only one. I bet loads of people do.

Namechanger355 · 12/03/2023 19:11

@Bluearc77 so you are openly admitting you are a thief?!

yeah ok then

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