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His bags are packed and by the door

65 replies

bloodywhitecat · 03/10/2022 20:08

All ready to go in the morning. After two and a half years, tomorrow will be his last morning here and tomorrow evening will be our last together. On Wednesday I will take him to his new family, stay a while then leave him to settle in, on Thursday I will pop back and spend an hour or two with him then on Friday I will go and say "goodbye" then drive home alone.

I hate this bit of fostering; each time one moves on, a bit of my heart goes too but this one has been extra special for a variety of reasons. I hope I have given him roots and wings. Roots to feel secure and wings to fly.

OP posts:
ShirleyPhallus · 03/10/2022 20:09

This has made me well up a bit as I know what you’ve been through recently.

You’re amazing ❤️

Blackopal · 03/10/2022 20:12

What a gift you have given.
May all the love you give be returned back to you ten fold 💛

Autumnwinterspringsummer · 03/10/2022 20:13

Thank you for what you do. You are a great person. It would break my heart.

dementedma · 03/10/2022 20:14

What a difference you have made to this life. Thank you

DeliberatelyObtuse · 03/10/2022 20:14

Oh my ❤️

Preemiemummy2 · 03/10/2022 20:15

I don’t know how you do it, it is a really special thing to have done for a child. You are amazing!

HyggeandTea · 03/10/2022 20:16

Yes, you've given him hope. Most people are good, people are rooting for him, there is always someone who cares. He is not alone.

Love and prayers to you both.

SuperlativeOxymoron · 03/10/2022 20:17

I've been following your story @bloodywhitecat over the past few years. You are one amazing individual. It takes a strong person to do what you do. And to do it while going through what you have. Thank you!!

You've given him the best start to his life and long may that continue.

Always4Brenner · 03/10/2022 20:19

Goodness you’re a star to love foster then say goodbye that would break anyones heart.

Tbird5 · 03/10/2022 20:19

You are amazing ❤️❤️

JustGotToKeepOnKeepingOn · 03/10/2022 20:22

Aw... you're sure to have given him roots and wings. He's so lucky to have had you. Huge love and a big hug to you. You've done a cracking job.

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 03/10/2022 20:27

Ahhh , but don;t forget this little chap had you bawling into your fish&chips on your Birthday (in a good way) Wink

Bless him (and you) on this next stage in his life .

supertedious · 03/10/2022 20:30

I have followed your posts, I think you are truly amazing ❤️

CormoranStrike · 03/10/2022 20:31

You’ve given him a future, alongside the most challenging time in your own life.

I think you are superwoman.

youwouldthink · 03/10/2022 20:32

Oh so hard but so amazing ❤

Triphazard22 · 03/10/2022 20:33

Given everything you have faced these past couple of years, this must be especially hard for you.

Thank you for giving him the best start. Take good care of yourself over the coming weeks.

Badger1970 · 03/10/2022 20:33

OMG. He will never forget you. What a gift to have given him Flowers

TooMuchToDoTooLittleInclination · 03/10/2022 20:39

🥰 you are incredible! It's only 2minutes since the last little one went. I honestly do NOT know how you do it. I'm sitting here bawling for you (both). I absolutely do NOT have the emotional strength for fostering. Even without everything you went through with DH, I don't know how you do it, but on top of that... you have much more than my admiration!!

Will you get to see him, know how he's doing?

Will you foster any other children or us he your final one?

please look after yourself as best you can!

lots of love xx

SomethingNastyInTheBallPool · 03/10/2022 20:41

Waaaah! Huge hugs to you, @bloodywhitecat. You have done the most amazing thing for that little boy, while going through so much. ❤❤❤💐

Onceuponawhileago · 03/10/2022 20:41

So well done. You gave him roots for strength and wings for power. Amazing person.

2ManyPjs · 03/10/2022 20:42

Oh you sound lovely, I bet he has cherished every minute with you. What an amazing thing you do.

Whatsthemottowithyou · 03/10/2022 20:49

Also followed your journey. What a truly amazing and strong woman you are. My darling it’s time to put yourself first! Big hugs to you xx

Matchofthedayrubbish · 03/10/2022 20:50

You are an amazing person @bloodywhitecat - you’ve given that little fosterling so many good things to start his life. Hats off to you, I couldn’t do it and I haven’t been through what you have been through. I hope your heart is full of his love for another few months. 💙

outtheshowernow · 03/10/2022 20:58

There needs to be more lovely people like you. Thank you for what you do. Rescuing and fostering a dog is such a worthwhile and wonderful thing. We rescued and have loved every day with our dog. Why people buy and encourage More breeding is beyond me. They don't understand that it's not all about what a dog looks like you form a bond regardless if you paid 200 or 2000 makes no difference!

Noteverybodylives · 03/10/2022 20:58

Can I ask why do they have to move on?

Is this something that all foster children do or can some stay for their entire childhood?