Torn about abortion

[Sunlo]

Using a throw away account for obvious reasons. I appreciate that internet is probably not the best place to turn to but I am completely confused about what to do.

I am 5 weeks pregnant, it was unplanned and a surprise and we use contraception.

My partner (26m) and I (25f) have been together about a year and have just had an offer accepted on our first house, so we are certain we want to be together.

I was initially really happy about the pregnancy, I’ve been wanting children for a while now however I am still young (will be 26 when baby Is born) and was not planning kids for another couple of years.

My partner is really unsure, his concerns are finances as we only earn about £72000 between us a year. Childcare, as I will need to return to work after around 6 months to ensure we can afford our lifestyle and mortgage payments. His preference would be to abort and try again in a year or so once we are more settled.

We have supportive family, my mum is excited (I told her to try and ease my nerves) and his mum has already offered childcare a couple of days if we choose to keep it.

I will also add we are concerned as due to the ongoing house move we will not be able to save up as much as we would like for when the baby arrives, every penny is going on the house.

I am just so torn about what to do. Yes we are young, and perhaps this is not the right time but I worry if I terminate now I may never conceive again in the future.

I will add my only real concern is work, can I still progress in my career. I am well overdue a payrise and promotion, will this still happen if I tell them I am pregnant or will they make it difficult for me. I like my career and I want to be successful. I worry I will have to sacrifice which would be ok I guess but my partner does not earn much more than me so I can’t even go part time.

I have a consultation for abortion on Friday so maybe they will help as I really do not know what to do!!!!

Mostly just a vent but any advice or words are welcome.

Thank you.

6 months full pay is a great package!
His preference would be to abort and try again in a year or so once we are more settled
Has anyone actually done this, had a termination for non-medical reasons and then a year later started ttc with the same partner? I would imagine it's very unlikely.

Abort this one and have one in a year or so........?

Not always that easy. Yes, you may not be able to conceive again. Also, if you do go through with it you’ll have to be absolutely certain that you won’t regret it in the future. I’m speaking as someone who has had two abortions that felt like the right thing at the time; the first one definitely was and I felt relieved (accidental pregnancy) but the second.....not so much. I really struggled to come to terms with that and if I’m honest, it was my partner’s influence.

Your income is no way considered low. You're not too young. It sounds like you're thinking of reasons not to have the baby. You don't need one. If you don't want to have the baby then that's your decision.

You do both sound emotionally immature though. Terminating a healthy pregnancy to try again in a year sounds very naive.

Terminating a healthy pregnancy can be quite traumatic, particularly if you plan to try again soon. I'd think long and hard and not be pressured into it.