She has a large bust and is off to a party this evening wearing a very low cut bustier, trousers and a jacket.
I am torn. She looks good. I know she can wear whatever she damn well pleases and she should be able to. I also know that she is likely to get unwanted attention because her breasts are the first thing you notice about her outfit.
I can't quite rationalise the feminist in me which says she can go in a bloody bikini if she wants and that's fine with the woman who has been young and on the receiving end of unwanted/uncomfortable comments about my breasts.
As a parent, how do you handle this situation (and by handle I mean
metaphorically, she's left now and I said I hope she had a great evening etc so I'm not taking any action now!) My mum would literally have not let me leave the house dressed like dd is but she is very old fashioned.
I hope dd knows how to handle herself if she does get attention she doesn't like but in reality I think she won't. She's missed a whole year of socialising and growing up due to Covid. It may or may not be relevant but so as to not drip feed, she has ASD.
I don't want her to be frightened, I equally want her to be safe. I don't want to counter her argument of 'I can wear what I want' with 'no you can't because men will harass you'.
Anyway, I'm wittering. I know what I am trying to say but I'm not quite sure how to say it! Any advice welcome, thanks 