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Is this rare or even unusual

103 replies

markmichelle · 18/06/2021 17:12

Do you know of anyone who had a separate life away from their family?
Background: DW and a friend reminiscing about a friend who recently died.
Let me call her Diana was from a County family, genuine public Service obligations. Lovely family. Diana was widowed in her late 20s with children. Did not remarry, concentrated on her children and working in family business, from part time 'odd jobs' to becoming active accountant and director. My knowledge of this part of her life is limited. DW knew her from school. Malvern.

Some years ago after a successful business meeting 150 miles away I was taken to a restaurant, the host suggested we join another group. They were a mixed group, a bit boisterous. Among them was a flashy type of bloke and his gf, she was dressed a bit showy. She was introduced as 'Trixie'.
Flashman and she were the life and soul of the party.

We did not say that we knew each other and I told no one. I have still not told my wife, I have to admit she is a bit of a gossip.
Diana's usual style was twinset and pearls, Liberty Scarves, everything tailored.
I started writing this to ask if you or any of your friends had a separate life like the above. I was going on to ask about second set of clothes and venues away from the usual humdrum. It has got a bit serious perhaps cathartic, me talking about a friend we have lost. I will leave it stand and see if you comment.

OP posts:
godmum56 · 18/06/2021 19:00

@TooBigForMyBoots

I know Elsie from Chelsea, but not Trixie from the counties.
when i go I'm goin' like Elsie
BigRedBoat · 18/06/2021 19:01

@ILoveShula

If you need to ask *@BigRedBoat*, then you don't need to know.
Is it a posh people thing? If so I've not heard the phrase as I'm not really mixing in those kind of circles 😆
RonniePickering · 18/06/2021 19:05

Shout out to Diane of Malvern, masquerading as Trixie, are you out there?

Haudyourwheesht · 18/06/2021 19:10

God I love this shit.

ButItRingsAndIRise · 18/06/2021 19:14

@RonniePickering

Shout out to Diane of Malvern, masquerading as Trixie, are you out there?
Op said Diane recently died
MiddleClassProblem · 18/06/2021 19:16

Well this was aptly timed

Is this rare or even unusual
FlibbertyGiblets · 18/06/2021 19:16

Very rare and most unusual, I would venture.

FlibbertyGiblets · 18/06/2021 19:17

@MiddleClassProblem

Well this was aptly timed
👀
AnoymousCoward · 18/06/2021 19:17

She hasn't died! She was widowed.

MiddleClassProblem · 18/06/2021 19:20

@AnoymousCoward

She hasn't died! She was widowed.
She recently died but was widowed in her late 20s🤓

This might be my Mastermind subject.

toocold54 · 18/06/2021 19:21

I don’t get the reference to whatever it’s referencing but I know of a few people who have double lives and two families etc

godmum56 · 18/06/2021 19:22

well there's a guy down at the chipshop swears he's Elvis...

RonniePickering · 18/06/2021 19:24

Op said Diane recently died

Ah, silly me. Shout out to Diane seance style then... 🔮

HumourReplacementTherapy · 18/06/2021 19:26

What does this mean?

"I was going on to ask about second set of clothes and venues away from the usual humdrum"

MiddleClassProblem · 18/06/2021 19:27

@yourestandingonmyneck

Also, what is a County family? And yeah, I've never gone to a restaurant where the staff have suggested we join another party.

That's weird.

What restaurant doesn’t want to add two groups of people to make a larger group to serve food to all at once? They are all aching to do this and work harder just for shits and giggles.
JasmineTeacup · 18/06/2021 19:30

No, no, no, you've all got it wrong Flashman was Diana, obvs!

IWouldBeSuperb · 18/06/2021 19:32

@StillWeRise

since you ask me for a tale of a woman acting out of character...
Grin
Hm2020 · 18/06/2021 19:35

Blatant place marking

SunshineCake · 18/06/2021 19:35

Nonsense.

MiddleClassProblem · 18/06/2021 19:40

@JasmineTeacup

No, no, no, you've all got it wrong Flashman was Diana, obvs!
Omg and the wife was Trixie!
AnoymousCoward · 18/06/2021 19:43

I don't understand how she can be dead Sad

SummerHouse · 18/06/2021 19:43

No, no, no. The 'host' is, I believe, the host of the group (fine business people, genuine work ethic, interests in Bakewell), not the restaurant staff (honest, hard-working, but not from County families.)

I have not read such a fabulous OP since the one where the wedding guest accidentally slept with the groom.

Gazelda · 18/06/2021 19:46

So is Trixie dead too?

MiddleClassProblem · 18/06/2021 19:46

@AnoymousCoward

I don't understand how she can be dead Sad
Diana died recently and OP’s DW has been reminiscing about her friend which reminded OP of the time she was Trixie at the restaurant but DW doesn’t know anything about it as OP has never mentioned Diana pretending to be Trixie.
YippeeKiYay155 · 18/06/2021 19:49

Is this the real life. Is it just fantasy...