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Wardrobes DH ICU

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Wardrobes123 · 19/01/2021 20:30

Just thought I’d create a new thread. To help us to keep track of what’s happened.

My DH was ventilated last week. We’ve had two calls to see him due to him being very close to death. He isn’t stable but he is still alive at the moment. All we can do is wait.

I’m not going to lie, I’m not coping at all. My mum has moved in to help me cope with daily life. We’ve spoken with the children and they know how serious it is. They are also struggling now with the youngest stepping back from schooling when she needs to.

I can’t think ahead. Just usually about the hour or two that we’re living in. It’s very surreal. And incredibly difficult. Doctors are very realistic about prognosis and survival, which is really hard to hear.

I am incredibly grateful for all the support we’ve had as a family. MN is a remarkable place at times.

@groovinpeanut - Flowers my heart goes out to you and your family and I’m so sorry for the loss of your DH, message me anytime X

@intheshadowofthemushroomcloud - Flowers for all your support and messages.

I have had several messages from other mnetters who don’t have their own threads but who are also experiencing this living hell Flowers it’s a horrible journey and we don’t know how it will end but all we can do is hope/pray for a better outcome.

I haven’t always had the energy to post, too fearful of jinxing things and generally the last few days have been very raw and intense. But I’ve read every message and I’m so grateful of the support.

OP posts:
GladysNarracott · 04/02/2021 21:05

Thinking of you and your family. Flowers

TurquoiseDragon · 04/02/2021 21:06

@Wardrobes123 I'm so sorry to read your update. My thoughts are with you, your DH and your family Thanks

Merename · 04/02/2021 21:10

So sorry wardrobes. May some unexpected comfort find it’s way to you. Flowers

PegasusReturns · 04/02/2021 21:23

So sorry to hear this. Wishing your family the very best Flowers

Fourmagpies · 04/02/2021 21:36

Thinking of you and wishing you all the best Flowers

Giraffey1 · 04/02/2021 21:39

I’m sorry to see your update, don’t worry about not being on here, you have far more important things to be doing. Just know, whenever and if ever you do come back and read the thread, that we are all thinking of you and your family, and sending much love.

MisfitRightIn · 04/02/2021 21:45

I’m terribly sorry to read this. I hope someone, somewhere, is helping you get through your days.

nocoolnamesleft · 04/02/2021 22:10

Thinking of you, your DH, and your whole family.

StrugglingICUnurse · 04/02/2021 22:25

@Wardrobes123 I am so sorry to read your update. It sounds like you have less hope. Sending huge virtual hugs.

ChristMyArse · 04/02/2021 22:26

Ah Wardrobes I'm so sorry. Like PP posters said, we are all here holding your hand xx

greyinganddecaying · 04/02/2021 22:26

Please don't worry about replying to anyone. Thinking of you Thanks

fungster · 04/02/2021 22:41

I'm so sorry. I shall keep you and your family in my prayers.

Mama1980 · 04/02/2021 22:42

Thinking of you and your family. x

PondDipper · 04/02/2021 22:43

I really hope it is comfort to know, that we’re all sending love and strength to you and your family. Thinking of you Flowers

Alternista · 04/02/2021 22:49

Thinking of you and sending love x

coldtenant · 04/02/2021 23:12

Positive thoughts for you all Flowers

Butterflies13 · 04/02/2021 23:17

I can stop thinking about you and your family. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your DC.

SoulofanAggron · 04/02/2021 23:35

How awful. Sad

My bestie (ex partner) has been on dialysis long term so I understand a little.

Flowers Flowers Flowers xxxxx

TiredRN · 04/02/2021 23:35

Love and thoughts x

Just know that he’ll have a team of ICU nurses (and doctors, physios and so many others) really hoping for the best outcome and really thinking about you, even if they don’t say it. I’m an ICU nurse and our amazing patients and relatives become like family in our hearts x

Yellownotblue · 04/02/2021 23:46

My heart goes out to you. What you are going through is tragic. I’m very sorry xx

Trumplosttheelection · 04/02/2021 23:55

I'm so sorry op. The odds have always been against him, Covid is awful in renal patients, but I will keep hoping for you all.

Andrea87 · 05/02/2021 00:15

Thinking of you and your family x

VampireTheBuffetSlayer · 05/02/2021 00:18

I am hoping things turn around for you and your DH Wardrobes. Thinking of you Flowers

eaglejulesk · 05/02/2021 00:27

Thinking of you and your family Wardrobes. Make sure you take care of yourself, and I really hope things turn around for your DH. Prayers and hugs Flowers

YouAintKingDingALing · 05/02/2021 00:37

Thinking about you and your husband. X