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Wardrobes DH ICU

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Wardrobes123 · 19/01/2021 20:30

Just thought I’d create a new thread. To help us to keep track of what’s happened.

My DH was ventilated last week. We’ve had two calls to see him due to him being very close to death. He isn’t stable but he is still alive at the moment. All we can do is wait.

I’m not going to lie, I’m not coping at all. My mum has moved in to help me cope with daily life. We’ve spoken with the children and they know how serious it is. They are also struggling now with the youngest stepping back from schooling when she needs to.

I can’t think ahead. Just usually about the hour or two that we’re living in. It’s very surreal. And incredibly difficult. Doctors are very realistic about prognosis and survival, which is really hard to hear.

I am incredibly grateful for all the support we’ve had as a family. MN is a remarkable place at times.

@groovinpeanut - Flowers my heart goes out to you and your family and I’m so sorry for the loss of your DH, message me anytime X

@intheshadowofthemushroomcloud - Flowers for all your support and messages.

I have had several messages from other mnetters who don’t have their own threads but who are also experiencing this living hell Flowers it’s a horrible journey and we don’t know how it will end but all we can do is hope/pray for a better outcome.

I haven’t always had the energy to post, too fearful of jinxing things and generally the last few days have been very raw and intense. But I’ve read every message and I’m so grateful of the support.

OP posts:
uncomfortablydumb53 · 04/02/2021 14:28

My thoughts are with youThanks

goingpearshaped · 04/02/2021 14:35

Sending love here too for you and all of your family. Seems so little but so many of us are rooting for your DH.

ktp100 · 04/02/2021 14:35

So sorry to read your update. Please do step back from the thread if you need to, now.

Everyone will be here for you in the future if needed.

Take care of yourself, OP.x. Flowers

Cagedbirdsinging · 04/02/2021 14:45

Handholding with love , Wardrobes x

dublingirl66 · 04/02/2021 14:49

Praying for you all OP ❤️❤️❤️

ComeWhatMayKeepTheHope · 04/02/2021 14:54

I am so sorry at the latest news. Life can be very unfair. Am far away but am thinking of you and hoping and hoping that things turn around and if tragically they don’t I really hope that you and the children can be allowed to go to him to say your goodbyes.

QuitMoaning · 04/02/2021 14:55

I wish you strength to face whatever happens.
Lots of people here who want to support you. Do whatever you need to do to get you through.

CaughtInTheCovid · 04/02/2021 15:08

Thinking of you @Wardrobes123. Sounds incredibly hard. Take all the support you can Flowers.

MinkyWinky · 04/02/2021 15:10

so sorry to hear your latest news @Wardrobes123. Wishing your and your family lots of strength in the coming days, weeks and months.

SukiPutTheEarlGreyOn · 04/02/2021 15:39

So many good thoughts are heading your way, wardrobes. I’m so very sorry that you and your family are going through this. Your grace, humour and strength in adversity are inspirational and I hope that in these difficult days there will be some small comfort in knowing how very many good wishes are being sent to you from near and far. Flowers

MegaClutterSlut · 04/02/2021 15:40

Thinking of you and your family Flowers

Mudmudingloriousmud · 04/02/2021 15:51

Wardrobes don't forget it might be useful to ask gp for diaazopam... I had some for similar situations...

Helped me to sleep.. Very mild but just helped me relax enough to have the strength to carry on. I didn't use my full script. It's very good for times like this.

SirVixofVixHall · 04/02/2021 16:06

Sending love to you and praying that he does pull through.

happytoday73 · 04/02/2021 16:20

💐🍀 Have watched your threads from early on. It all seemed to be slowly getting better... So sorry to see this latest news. What a terrible year you've had... I wish you all the love, strength and support you and your children need....

cantmakealifeofit · 04/02/2021 16:26

Absolutely agree with previous poster who said diazepam. A GP will likely prescribe a few days dose for this situation.

Obviously it’s a drop in the ocean but diazepam will take the edge off the raw emotions and will aid you in functioning somewhat.

Beeeees · 04/02/2021 16:34

Thinking of you Flowers

Lifeisforalimitedperiodonly · 04/02/2021 17:00

Wardrobes, I do hope he is okay. Know that we are all here thinking about you all and sending love.xx

SlightlyJaded · 04/02/2021 17:03

So sorry to read your latest update Wardrobes. Especially after making tentative progress. What a blow for you to endure.

Still hoping for a miracle for you.

Just another MNer holding you in their thoughts today.

Chocolino · 04/02/2021 17:08

I've just read this thread. I'm not usually a religious person but my thoughts and prayers are with you Wardrobes. Rest up and try and eat something to maintain your strength.

I wish there was something more we women on here could do for you.

Lots of love.

OakSnows · 04/02/2021 17:19

You don’t owe anyone an explanation and if this thread doesn’t help then leave it until it does. I’m so so sorry this is happening today and sending you all my love either everyone else x

catgirl1976 · 04/02/2021 17:21

I'm so very sorry and cannot imagine what you are going through. Thinking of you and your family.

DuchessOfDoombar · 04/02/2021 17:30

So very sorry to read your latest update Wardrobes.

My thoughts are with you and your family and I wish you all strength to get through this.

LowlandLucky · 04/02/2021 17:38

Hugs to you all Flowers

Lostinwinter · 04/02/2021 17:41

You are in my thoughts Wardrobes, shat a truly awful time for you.

( flowers ) @Backwards31

NotFabulousDarling · 04/02/2021 17:46
Flowers Thinking of you all.
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