Don't know how to get through tomorrow

[bloodywhitecat]

Several months ago my lovely partner turned yellow and, long story short, on Friday we were told he has cancer. Tomorrow we go to the hospital to find out what the plan is. We know that the cancer is in his pancreas (or bile duct, his CNS said pancreas but Macmillan said he'd been referred with bile duct cancer). I know the long term prognosis is poor and I am shit scared. How do we face tomorrow?

So sorry to hear your news today. Thinking of you.

Good luck for tomorrow OP hope you get positive news like pp 💐

I'm very sorry, you will be feeling devastated. Do you know about the thread for partners of seriously ill people, in health/life-limiting illness/still the storm?

Any news like this comes as a shock even if you were expecting it. You will get through because you are strong and because others will look to you for comfort.

Thinking of you now x

So sorry to read your update x

Sending love and strength.
Xx

I'm so sorry to read you update, lots of love to you both.

I’m sorry to read this. I am finding it difficult to know what to write, but want you to know that I am very sorry your DP has received this diagnosis and I am thinking of you

I am so sorry op. Wishing you are your partner strength during this difficult time. I echo a pp. Take all the help you can get.

You're in my prayers OP 💮

I’m so sorry.

I've been waiting for news and I'm so sorry the news wasn't what you hoped for
Take each day as it comes, minute by minute, and take all the help you are offered
I'm wishing you Love, strength and hope

((((HUG))))

What a dreadful day for you both x

As far as treatment goes, does it make any difference if it's from BD or the P?

Did they say when they could do the shipper & start the Chemo?

We'll all be here to hold your hands through this next year xx

Bastard cancer.

I'm so sorry

I'm so sorry OP xx

So sorry to read this, OP.

I would say prepare any questions in writing, as your mind may go blank. Record the consultation. Get the number of who to call if you have further questions after you have got home. Ask if they have a support centre in the hospital, and use it if they do - they support families as well as the person receiving treatment.

Remember your own support needs. I hope that you are able to call on lots of supportive people.

So sorry you're both going through this. wishing you the best of outcomes for the year ahead.

I'm so sorry

I’m so sorry for you both Have you decided which option you will go for?

He's going for the Whipple's, he made the decision there and then as there was nothing to discuss really. The surgery comes first then the chemo if he needs it once they have the results back from microbiology (I think that's what the surgeon meant when he was talking us through it all).

Oh op. I’ve been thinking of you the last few days, so sorry to hear the results are not good. Sending you both every good vibe I can.

I am so sorry to hear this op.

I was thinking of you yesterday. I’m so sorry that the news wasn’t more positive.

Sorry you're going through this. Yes, I'm a cancer nurse and the lab (histopathology) will be able to look at the tumor in more detail after it's removed which will help the Oncologist decide which chemo is best. Wishing you all the best.