I’m an identical twin AMA

[AWellTroddenPath]

Not sure if this is interesting or not but AMA!

Do you have any pets? I know some twins who have twin dogs, siblings from the same litter.

My friend has identical twins in their 20s. I have known them since tbey were toddlers. She STILL tells me how much more work and more expensive it is having twins. I totally get it with under 5s and especially with babies, but not with 10 year-olds for example. Did your parents complain a lot about this?

My friend also used to get very upset if one twin was invited on a play date and the other not. Did that upset you as a child? Or did you, for example, think “great I’ve got mum to myself for once.” ?

No we don’t

I am well trodden’s twin! Love that she’s done this, and her answers are so lovely and true. I would love more detail on this twin study. I find the nature / nurture thing really interesting and I wonder if twins are the biggest test of that? As WT has said we have very similar but also quite different personalities, she’s a lot more considerate and empathetic, she’s funnier than me too! Anyway I wonder what these differences are down to!

Sorry totally hijacking but yes, although I don’t recall it happening often I think we were actually just invited to less (sleepovers etc) because having 2 extra kids is quite a commitment v 1! This actually was quite sad and I’d say impacted my (our?) confidence a bit.

cost yes I’m sure my mum would agree but my younger brother eats so much that he was probably the costly one 😂

Yes I totally understand that! Buying everything 2x would be really hard. It’s hard enough with 1. It’s literally everything, pocket money, socks, bedding, backpacks etc. and that’s without considering birthday or Christmas gifts.

We had the same group of friends, so didn’t really get that but I can imagine that would be very difficult to manage.

hello @AWellTroddenPath! I’m an identical twin too. My twin and I are like chalk and cheese and I think are more opposites rather than mirroring each other. So being referred to as a single unit, “The twins”, did irk somewhat as we wanted to be seen as the individuals we are. Coming across other twins that were choosing to dress similar/identical as teens weirded us out.

Have you met other identical twins whose choices didn’t make sense to you? And do you ever forget you’re an identical twin, and it’s only when others mention it that you remember?

[BTW for others curiosity, we are not empathic/ESP etc, but did have our own language as toddlers.)

That’s interesting! I do sometimes think although I am very similar to my twin, we are very different in many ways so a bit like ying and yang!

I really don’t understand it when twins live together for their whole lives, dress the same their whole lives etc but each to their own!

Yes I do! I said in a previous post when I see twins I think wow, twins! Forgetting I am one 😂 I think it’s because it’s just my life and doesn’t feel extraordinary to me as it’s always been that way. Do you find the same?

I totally understand your last part of the post. I clicked on this thinking "how interesting" and then remembered I am also a twin, albeit non-identical and we are not very close at all now! Maybe I should do an AMA on being a twin and not speaking to each other haha.

I always get asked what it's like to be a twin to which my answer is I don't know what it's like not to be one!

Not a question but where I live there is identical ( elderly ) female twins . They are always together dress the same even down to shoes & handbags .
They live together and one of them was once married and he lived there also .
Do you find that weird that they are so living their life as 1 and could you have done that ?

I struggle to understand why anybody would want to live almost like they are 1 person but in 2 bodies… although the connection that I have with my twin is unique to any other relationship that I have and we are so close that I sort of do understand wanting to live with your twin. Can’t believe a husband lived with them though!

Not that I ever would (and I’m sure my twin would agree!).

I know , hopefully he could tell the difference ! I not sure they would have cared had he not .