I’m an identical twin AMA

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Not sure if this is interesting or not but AMA!

No not the biggest but obviously has shaped who I am in many ways

No as when I see twins out and about I think “ooh look twins!” So I get it!

Are your names very similar? DH has twin sisters, their first and middle names are similar with the same initials. They looked so alike as children, it took a while to learn which was which. But once I did, it was easy, small differences.

Haha I have rarely noticed. People who stare usually follow up with “are you sisters? Oh… twins! I thought so!” 😂

No! I’ll look it up. Have you?

We live very close to each other. Although moving away from each other for the first time which will be tough.

We have children who are very similar ages. The oldest 2 look more like us than the youngest 2 and I’d say have similarities, maybe could pass as siblings! The youngest 2 are the spitting image of their dads so they look quite different

Do people often mix you up? If you have children, have they ever confused the two of you?

I sent the post to her so she might pop in!!

Actually discovered recently that we don’t! Although we do have very similar food tastes generally!

I think her attitude towards things is different - maybe I care more about what others think of me? Which isn’t a good thing most of the time! I’m more of a people pleaser.

I think she’d agree but maybe has a different answer, I’ll have to ask her!

We did at school once and tried it on our mum.

I do, I really feel it if she feels sad or unhappy and when she’s happy / things are going well for her it makes my heart happy? But then as I said in another post is that just because we are so close personally or because biologically we are twins?

Aww how lovely. Hope she’s doing ok as can imagine it’s intense!

I think just treating them as individuals rather than as one which it sounds like you’re already doing. If one has a particular interest then go with that for them rather than making the other twin go with it too. Don’t overthink it as really twins are twins, it’s hard for everything to be individual. I’m very similar to my twin so we often had similar / the same gifts because we like the same things

Both of our husbands have mistaken us for the other from behind and given a bum stroke!!

She’s more career driven than me but other than that our lives are very similar!

Similar vibe names but not rhyming or same letters or anything

One of her DC called me mummy but very quickly realised. I’m sure it’ll happen again!

I ask as I'm a child of an identical twin and none of us cousins have ever mixed our mums up!

Hi @AWellTroddenPath what a lovely and interesting thread.

Do either you or your sister have twins and was it your Mum or Dad's side of the family that had multiple birth children?

Irrationally, it somewhat irritates me to see twins dressed in identical outfits, did that bother you or your sister or did you actually prefer to be dressed the same?

@AWellTroddenPath I have been participating in the twin study for 30+ years.

Have a look into it, it is very worth while and it is nice knowing we are doing a good thing.

My mum has just realised that her smart phone can group everyone into their own selections in her photo album apart from me and my identical twin - even though we are very similar we do have different face shapes . . Can you use face recognition etc to open each others phones?

I have twins in my family and years ago, one was involved in a near-fatal accident in the middle of the night. The other twin woke up in a panic, absolutely sure that something bad had happened to his brother. (If I didn't know that for a fact, and heard someone on here tell that story on a 'woo' thread, I would believe it. But it definitely happened!) Do you have any similar stories?

Also, when they were toddlers, they spoke in their own language which no one else could understand. Did you and your sister do this?

What do your husbands say about being married to identical twins? Do you like each other’s husbands? Did you have your kids at similar times by coincidence, was it planned, psychic?

I’m glad you think it’s interesting!

As far as I’m aware, non-identical twins run in families (as it’s genetic that the woman releases more than 1 egg, whereas identical twins is where 1 egg splits into 2). Identical twins are a bit of a fluke so no twins in my family either side.

We were very rarely dressed the same and I think that’s probably the right thing to do. I wouldn’t have liked to have been dressed the same

I will!

Out of curiosity do my answers align with yours? Things like having a sixth sense or psychic link with your twin?

Yes we can!!

Wow that’s fascinating! I can’t say I’ve ever experienced something like that.

I don’t think so but I remember as kids whilst brushing our teeth making a sound in the rhythm of the words we were thinking and the other one would understand.

I don’t think they think much about it! When I think about it, if my husband spoke to a friend as much as I speak to my twin I’d think it was a lot, but he’s very used to it by now. He loves my twin and we all get on really well so we’re lucky

Over the years, we have bought the same birthday cards for each other.
We also bought the same shoes, from the same shop on the same day 😃 unbeknownst to each other.

My mother used to get rather annoyed at us at times as we didn't have to say anything to each other, yet we would be in fits of laughter. She would be annoyed that she didn't know what we found so funny.
If we go out as a family, my sister's dh will say, you two sit together as he loves to hear us laughing.

My dh is an identical twin too but he lost his brother in childhood.