My DP and I are both bisexual and have regular threesomes - ama!

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My DP and I have been together for 3 years. I have always known I was bisexual but DP only started to explore his own sexuality during our relationship.

We have been together for 3 years and have threesomes with both men and women about twice a month and have done since the beginning.

Ask me anything!

Hi OP. How do you meet the people you have threesomes with?

Are they friends, acquaintances or strangers?

Hi. We meet people in different ways - most of the time we meet people while we are out, sometimes online. We also meet regularly with some of the same people so have built up quite a few contacts over the past few years!

Always 3? Not another couple?

@SnuggyBuggy Mostly acquaintances but sometimes friends or strangers we meet while out.

If it’s not too crude, do you use protection when your having the threesomes?

Always 3! We never invite other couples to join us.

With people you meet out how do you bring up the idea? I'm guessing it wouldn't go down well with everyone

Of course we use protection! We ALWAYS use condoms and I have a copper iud also.

Do you ever smack your DH’s arse while shouting “go boy!” In encouragement when he is going for it with the third party? Or does he do that for you?

@SnuggyBuggy You'd be surprised! We never have a problem meeting people - I think the fact that we're a couple puts people at ease. We chat a little, flirt a little and invite them back to ours for a drink if we connect.

It's much easier than you think!

Do you prefer another man or another woman? I've often randomly wondered which would be most fun.

@HotSauceCommitee that made me laugh! 😂 We've never done that although sometimes there's a bit of spanking 😉

I wish I had your courage, I had a 3some years ago before kids, I don’t they bk is have the confidence now. Do you ever get nervous beforehand?

Think I’d - damn autocorrect!

We really don't have a preference any more! In the beginning we mostly chose women but since my DP started exploring his bisexuality we enjoy both men and women equally.

No, I can't say I ever get nervous. It's something we both really enjoy.

😂@OP. I’d be dreadful in this situation; totally back to immature, sniggering school girl mode.

Have you ever misjudged things with an acquaintance or friend, and made an unwelcome proposition?

Do you or your partner ever get jealous or worry that one of you will fall for the 3rd party?
Do you limit the amount of times you meet with one person so this doesn't happen?
Do you have 'rules' for each other? ie no texting/contact with 3rd person once the deed is done?

Why 3 and not couples or groups. I would have thought that if you are comfortable with sharing more would be better?

We have had people say they're not interested but it's never been awkward.

Our friends are aware of what we do and we have had some of them join us on occasion but we have a rule that we never approach friends unless they bring it up first.

The only slightly 'awkward' situations are when someone is only interested in either my DP or myself and not us as a couple.

Do you ever get jealous/pissed off if your DP is appearing to be spending more time with the other person?

What happens if you fancy someone and your partner doesn't?

We don't get jealous. We have a lifestyle that works for us and we have a very open and honest relationship.

Although we don't hide our lifestyle from our friends, we keep it as separate as possible, if that makes sense.

For example, we don't add our 'acquaintances' or strangers to our social media accounts and we have a separate email address and phone number for these arrangements. We only contact people to arrange a meeting.

We make it very clear what the arrangement is with anyone that joins us and if anyone oversteps the line, we don't see them again.

We do have a few people that have become actual friends through threesomes and I wouldn't have a problem at all if my DP met them for a drink/gym/lunch etc without me as I know he wouldn't act inappropriately.