My DP and I are both bisexual and have regular threesomes - ama!

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My DP and I have been together for 3 years. I have always known I was bisexual but DP only started to explore his own sexuality during our relationship.

We have been together for 3 years and have threesomes with both men and women about twice a month and have done since the beginning.

Ask me anything!

Sorry, I wasn't clear.. I meant your DP and the other person engaging more together in the bedroom. Do you ever think "oh, I might as well naff off and make a cuppa then while they get it on"?

Iscreamforbenandjerrys we have tried other couples and group sex. We prefer threesomes - it's what works for us!

Whackytaco no, I never get jealous or pissed off and neither does DP.

We wouldn't be able to do what we do if we didn't trust each other 100%. If either of us was ever unhappy with our situation, we would talk about it.

We have always said that if one of us becomes uncomfortable or wants to stop what we do, we would stop immediately.

Funnybunnyfluff if either of us isn't attracted to someone, we choose someone else!

@Whackytaco 😂 No, that's never happened! Would be a very boring threesome if it did 😂

When you meet with people online do you always plan the threesome for the first date or go meet somewhere else first to see if there is chemistry?

Has anyone ever used very old pictures online that has resulted in you not following through with a threesome? ie older/fatter/other than their online photo

Have either of you met up with No3 on your own after the 'event' for extra nookie

When we meet people online we usually arrange to meet them for a drink before hand so we can see if we click.

@Chalady no, never! That would be cheating and would end our relationship.

Do you ever have dry patches where you just don't meet people you really fancy? Or do you tend to think, if they are reasonably within the attractive ballpark for you, that you will get into it after you start?

Very jealous.

If we don't meet anyone we both like, we arrange something with one of our acquaintances.

My DP is very fussy, especially when it comes to men and prefers a few he already knows and feels comfortable with so we very rarely meet random men anyway.

When one of you is "finished"...do you go and make a cuppa?
Or hang around?

@HRTpatch We don't finish until everyone is finished! If we stop to take a 'break' we all stop. It's a team effort 😉

So what happens afterwards? I'm assuming you don't all spoon together?

We use our guest room when we have threesomes as it has a larger bed.

After we've finished 'playing', my DP and I sleep in our room and our guest is welcome to stay in the guest room or go home.

If they stay over, we usually have breakfast together and then go about our days!

What advice would you give to myself and DP if we were looking to have a threesome? Are there any websites/forums you could recommend.

@DobbyLovesSocks the best advice I can give you is before you and your DP have a threesome, make sure you both know what each other's boundaries are and discuss your rules!

My DP and I have an 'anything goes' arrangement but I know people who don't let their partners kiss the 3rd person for example.

We don't add our threesome partners on social media or give them our phone numbers (we have an separate number).

Communication is key and you both have to be 100% honest with each other.

Is the 3rd person ever married (Im sure some are) and you know that their partner/wife/husband is totally unaware of their 'extra marital pastime'

Have you ever slept with a man & a woman that are married to eachother, but they are totally unaware their partner attends?

One of our rules is that we don't sleep with attached people unless their partners are aware and ok with it.

Obviously, we ask if people are single but we don't do back ground checks so of course it's possible for them to lie, but we try to avoid it.

Are there any websites/forums you recommend for meeting people?