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Such an interesting article about the psychological burden of performing “gender”

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Cantunseeit · 27/08/2026 09:57

Not sure if this is really a FWR topic but the total lack of compassion from some of our TRA/MRA visitors for those suffering from gender confusion has shocked me recently. Probably shouldn’t be a surprise but it nevertheless has been.

While they are busy pointing fingers at “the audience”, they are not considering the distress their rhetoric props up.

I think this is a compassionate and important article.

https://genspect.substack.com/p/no-intermission-gender-performance?r=1one23&utm_medium=ios

No Intermission: Gender, Performance, and the Distress Nobody Measures

Steve Andrews on stage fright, passing and whether gender-affirming care really is "life saving"

https://genspect.substack.com/p/no-intermission-gender-performance?r=1one23&utm_medium=ios

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Northernlightsss · 30/08/2026 09:14

Waitingfordoggo · 30/08/2026 09:12

😂

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Trans porn isn't the fastest growing genre for no reason.

Pingponghavoc · 30/08/2026 09:14

I think 'porn category' has been confused for 'mating strategy' here.

Northernlightsss · 30/08/2026 09:15

6ate9 · 30/08/2026 09:13

@Northernlightsss ”Big boobies”!

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How else do you explain the bleedin' obvious to the adolescent brained.

BackToLurk · 30/08/2026 09:15

Northernlightsss · 30/08/2026 09:11

Big boobies aren't exactly known as a turn off.

I can't believe I have to explain this….

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Yes, yes. That must be why women make up around of 85% of all cosmetic surgery patients. In the 90 percents in countries that would be considered more consumerist. Men don’t need to attract mates, and female ‘enhancements’ are ancient biological needs, and absolutely not driven by manufacturing desire or culturally and historically specific ideas of what is or isn’t attractive.

I can’t believe etc…

BackToLurk · 30/08/2026 09:16

Northernlightsss · 30/08/2026 09:14

Trans porn isn't the fastest growing genre for no reason.

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Maybe try and step outside your own experience every now and again.

Northernlightsss · 30/08/2026 09:17

BackToLurk · 30/08/2026 09:15

Yes, yes. That must be why women make up around of 85% of all cosmetic surgery patients. In the 90 percents in countries that would be considered more consumerist. Men don’t need to attract mates, and female ‘enhancements’ are ancient biological needs, and absolutely not driven by manufacturing desire or culturally and historically specific ideas of what is or isn’t attractive.

I can’t believe etc…

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Um, you clearly haven’t been to a gym to notice how many mindless hours men spend in there.

Northernlightsss · 30/08/2026 09:18

BackToLurk · 30/08/2026 09:16

Maybe try and step outside your own experience every now and again.

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Shooting the messenger?

6ate9 · 30/08/2026 09:20

Northernlightsss · 30/08/2026 09:17

Um, you clearly haven’t been to a gym to notice how many mindless hours men spend in there.

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Are you one of them?

BackToLurk · 30/08/2026 09:20

Northernlightsss · 30/08/2026 09:17

Um, you clearly haven’t been to a gym to notice how many mindless hours men spend in there.

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90% of gym members aren’t male. Have another go.

nutmeg7 · 30/08/2026 09:22

Northernlightsss · 30/08/2026 09:15

How else do you explain the bleedin' obvious to the adolescent brained.

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Hmm. I think imagining that everyone looking for a female partner loves (checks notes) “big boobies” sounds like a very adolescent take.

Or are you one of those trans identified males who believe women have some sort of social pecking order and status according to the bigness of their boobies?

6ate9 · 30/08/2026 09:23

Northernlightsss · 30/08/2026 09:15

How else do you explain the bleedin' obvious to the adolescent brained.

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I have small ‘boobies’ but I managed to ‘mate!

Northernlightsss · 30/08/2026 09:24

BackToLurk · 30/08/2026 09:20

90% of gym members aren’t male. Have another go.

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They don't need to be to show body enhancement to attract a mate is shared by both the sexes. In any case many men who don't attend a gym play sport.

You seem upset by the fact men & women aren't that different from one another. Some would call this misogyny.

BackToLurk · 30/08/2026 09:25

nutmeg7 · 30/08/2026 09:22

Hmm. I think imagining that everyone looking for a female partner loves (checks notes) “big boobies” sounds like a very adolescent take.

Or are you one of those trans identified males who believe women have some sort of social pecking order and status according to the bigness of their boobies?

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Hence the grief at the death of Dolly Parton? It wasn’t the music or the philanthropy, it was the boobies.

nutmeg7 · 30/08/2026 09:25

6ate9 · 30/08/2026 09:23

I have small ‘boobies’ but I managed to ‘mate!

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Me too! No shortage of mates over my lifetime. Perhaps they didn’t have porn addled brains? Or perhaps there is more to attraction than big tits?

6ate9 · 30/08/2026 09:26

nutmeg7 · 30/08/2026 09:25

Me too! No shortage of mates over my lifetime. Perhaps they didn’t have porn addled brains? Or perhaps there is more to attraction than big tits?

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Not all about the ‘big boobies’. Just imagine!

nutmeg7 · 30/08/2026 09:26

Northernlightsss · 30/08/2026 09:24

They don't need to be to show body enhancement to attract a mate is shared by both the sexes. In any case many men who don't attend a gym play sport.

You seem upset by the fact men & women aren't that different from one another. Some would call this misogyny.

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Oh dear, you are muddled about what might be considered misogyny.

Northernlightsss · 30/08/2026 09:27

nutmeg7 · 30/08/2026 09:22

Hmm. I think imagining that everyone looking for a female partner loves (checks notes) “big boobies” sounds like a very adolescent take.

Or are you one of those trans identified males who believe women have some sort of social pecking order and status according to the bigness of their boobies?

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No offence but you're embarrassing yourself with this kind of irrational defensiveness over proven typical traits of attractiveness.

Did I hit a nerve? Apologies. It wasn't my intention.

6ate9 · 30/08/2026 09:27

BackToLurk · 30/08/2026 09:25

Hence the grief at the death of Dolly Parton? It wasn’t the music or the philanthropy, it was the boobies.

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She had quite a pair!

6ate9 · 30/08/2026 09:29

@Northernlightsss ”Did I hit a nerve? Apologies. It wasn't my intention.”

I’ve never wanted ‘big boobies’ so you didn’t hit a nerve with me!

BackToLurk · 30/08/2026 09:29

Northernlightsss · 30/08/2026 09:24

They don't need to be to show body enhancement to attract a mate is shared by both the sexes. In any case many men who don't attend a gym play sport.

You seem upset by the fact men & women aren't that different from one another. Some would call this misogyny.

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Biologically they are different. In terms of personality they differ from person to person.

You’re saying here though, that men and women aren’t that different from each other, right? You should share that with transpeople. Seems like it would save them a lot of bother.

nutmeg7 · 30/08/2026 09:31

Northernlightsss · 30/08/2026 09:27

No offence but you're embarrassing yourself with this kind of irrational defensiveness over proven typical traits of attractiveness.

Did I hit a nerve? Apologies. It wasn't my intention.

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Irrational? I think it is hilariously simplistic for you to argue that “big boobies” = attractive. But, it is all about the fake tits for trans identified males isn’t it?

Self confidence in your own body is way more attractive.

Waitingfordoggo · 30/08/2026 09:34

Northernlightsss · 30/08/2026 09:14

Trans porn isn't the fastest growing genre for no reason.

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What’s trans porn got to do with mating? 🤔

I think trying to mate with a trans person could be pretty frustrating given all the hormonal treatments and surgeries that have destroyed fertility.

Waitingfordoggo · 30/08/2026 09:35

Like PPs, I have never been short of a bit of bedroom action despite my lack of cosmetic surgery and not being particularly good-looking.

6ate9 · 30/08/2026 09:38

Waitingfordoggo · 30/08/2026 09:35

Like PPs, I have never been short of a bit of bedroom action despite my lack of cosmetic surgery and not being particularly good-looking.

Men have never complained about my lack of bosom!

Northernlightsss · 30/08/2026 09:42

nutmeg7 · 30/08/2026 09:31

Irrational? I think it is hilariously simplistic for you to argue that “big boobies” = attractive. But, it is all about the fake tits for trans identified males isn’t it?

Self confidence in your own body is way more attractive.

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OMG. I've always said the GC movement has its roots in Victorian prudishness. Say the word 'boob' or 'porn' & mayhem ensues.

That they lose their minds at the suggestion that breasts are generally attractive to the opposite sex tells you all you need to know about this movement.