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Continuation of Polypostwonder thread

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Imdunfer · 02/06/2026 07:55

Follow on from this thread

www.mumsnet.com/talk/womens_rights/5532352-the-liminality-of-sex-perception-sex-based-spaces-and-bodily-autonomy?page=39

For argument sake, I understand Blaire White to be a woman. This is independent of the knowledge she chose to only undergo cosmetic facial surgeries and breast augmentation, while retaining everything else.
I think I remember reading that she politically aligns 'right' and is politically vocal about being a male, living as a trans woman. I'm not 100% sure, though. It's not a way that I could understand living, but it is financially lucrative in her case.

There is a person who declares themselves to be male.

That person chooses to live presenting as a female.

In spite of their self declaration as a male, complete with male genitals, you understand that they are a woman.

And you ascribe their understanding of themselves being male, at least partly, to financial motives.

This is either monumentally arrogant or monumentally stupid thinking, or possibly both. Or perhaps you just like playing with a largely female forum and seeing how many feathers you can ruffle.

One thing is for sure, and that is that I don't think anything you write on this subject from now on is going to be of any value to read.

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ArabellaScott · 03/06/2026 14:49

Other than, as suggested by Laurie Penny, 'look away'.

ArabellaScott · 03/06/2026 14:48

polypostwonder · 03/06/2026 13:25

The law in California says trans women are women. No woman has any consent over whether another woman may access a public accommodation available to all women.

Yes, thats why Darren Merager, convicted sex offender, could hang out in the women's spaces naked with a semi erect penis, and nobody could do anything about it.

ArabellaScott · 03/06/2026 14:46

polypostwonder · 03/06/2026 14:36

This sounds more like consent than the context discussed here. If a person object to the presence of another, then object to the specific person in a specific place.

As I said, though, its mince.

nicepotoftea · 03/06/2026 14:45

polypostwonder · 03/06/2026 14:34

I agree women have no legal power to exclude other women. I've said this many times. My understanding of consent is it doesn't require law enforcement, it is a personal right. I assume there were plenty of FWR members who claimed a right of consent over public spaces prior to FWS; with no specific law backing their belief in who is a man or a woman? Will this change again in the UK if and when the law is further 'clarified?'

A lot of Britons still don't consent to being in facilities with same sex attracted people. I feel this context is very similar to that context, only straight people were generally far more vocal about it than gender critical people in public spaces.

Regarding the twitter posters, I assume they believe trans women to be women, so they wouldn't be excluding trans women. But they would also expect 'terfs' to respect their lack of consent and to use third options.

There is no right for a service user to exclude somebody from a service.

A lot of Britons still don't consent to being in facilities with same sex attracted people.

I can't think of exceptions in the equality act that would allow this.

On the other hand the Equality Act lists the criteria that must be met for single sex provision to be legal and in some situations it is mandatory.

I feel this context is very similar to that context

No really. One thing is often legal. The other isn't.

Heggettypeg · 03/06/2026 14:44

polypostwonder · 03/06/2026 13:25

The law in California says trans women are women. No woman has any consent over whether another woman may access a public accommodation available to all women.

Then the law in California is not merely an ass, but an ass that is long overdue for the slaughterhouse.

FlirtsWithRhinos · 03/06/2026 14:41

polypostwonder · 03/06/2026 14:16

I don't think so. I've read non-trans women on twitter who say they "don't consent to sharing toilets with 'terfs'." How does that work, exactly?

Ah, that works by the silly logic of young TRAs who think they are clever when they take Feminist statements that are based on material reality, history and facts, change the words to make them say the opposite of the original statement and believe it is somehow a killer counterargument with the same weight and authority as the first version just because they have their words saying it instead.

Kind of like Trans Women are Women really.

HTH.

murasaki · 03/06/2026 14:40

polypostwonder · 03/06/2026 14:34

I agree women have no legal power to exclude other women. I've said this many times. My understanding of consent is it doesn't require law enforcement, it is a personal right. I assume there were plenty of FWR members who claimed a right of consent over public spaces prior to FWS; with no specific law backing their belief in who is a man or a woman? Will this change again in the UK if and when the law is further 'clarified?'

A lot of Britons still don't consent to being in facilities with same sex attracted people. I feel this context is very similar to that context, only straight people were generally far more vocal about it than gender critical people in public spaces.

Regarding the twitter posters, I assume they believe trans women to be women, so they wouldn't be excluding trans women. But they would also expect 'terfs' to respect their lack of consent and to use third options.

Did you miss the bit where the law was clarified, not changed, but re stated, that transwomen are male for the purpose of single sex spaces. So whether some women believe tw to be women is irrelevant in the context of toilets.

We segregate those spaces by sex, not by belief.

nicepotoftea · 03/06/2026 14:39

ArabellaScott · 03/06/2026 14:30

Judge Kemp said that if any woman complained about presence of a man in the changing room due to her trauma history, the employer would have to find other space for said man.

But FWIW he was talking utter mince.

I am not a lawyer, but even I can see the holes in his judgement are actually larger than the judgment itself.

I agree, and it's why I'm confused by users talking about consent.

Employers and service providers just need to comply with the law.

polypostwonder · 03/06/2026 14:36

ArabellaScott · 03/06/2026 14:30

Judge Kemp said that if any woman complained about presence of a man in the changing room due to her trauma history, the employer would have to find other space for said man.

But FWIW he was talking utter mince.

I am not a lawyer, but even I can see the holes in his judgement are actually larger than the judgment itself.

This sounds more like consent than the context discussed here. If a person object to the presence of another, then object to the specific person in a specific place.

polypostwonder · 03/06/2026 14:34

Imdunfer · 03/06/2026 14:23

Gosh you really are struggling today PPW.

Women have no legal power to exclude other women. Their legal power is limited to excluding men.

"That" works by them choosing to stay out of spaces where they will meet women who don't agree with men sharing women's spaces. Effectively that would mean them staying at home, as this is a majority held view.

I agree women have no legal power to exclude other women. I've said this many times. My understanding of consent is it doesn't require law enforcement, it is a personal right. I assume there were plenty of FWR members who claimed a right of consent over public spaces prior to FWS; with no specific law backing their belief in who is a man or a woman? Will this change again in the UK if and when the law is further 'clarified?'

A lot of Britons still don't consent to being in facilities with same sex attracted people. I feel this context is very similar to that context, only straight people were generally far more vocal about it than gender critical people in public spaces.

Regarding the twitter posters, I assume they believe trans women to be women, so they wouldn't be excluding trans women. But they would also expect 'terfs' to respect their lack of consent and to use third options.

ArabellaScott · 03/06/2026 14:30

nicepotoftea · 03/06/2026 13:54

Wasn't something like this suggested by the Judge in the Sandie Peggie case?

It needs to be clear that a space is either single sex or mixed sex. We don't need to vote.

Judge Kemp said that if any woman complained about presence of a man in the changing room due to her trauma history, the employer would have to find other space for said man.

But FWIW he was talking utter mince.

I am not a lawyer, but even I can see the holes in his judgement are actually larger than the judgment itself.

Imdunfer · 03/06/2026 14:23

polypostwonder · 03/06/2026 14:16

I don't think so. I've read non-trans women on twitter who say they "don't consent to sharing toilets with 'terfs'." How does that work, exactly?

Gosh you really are struggling today PPW.

Women have no legal power to exclude other women. Their legal power is limited to excluding men.

"That" works by them choosing to stay out of spaces where they will meet women who don't agree with men sharing women's spaces. Effectively that would mean them staying at home, as this is a majority held view.

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polypostwonder · 03/06/2026 14:16

JanesLittleGirl · 03/06/2026 13:49

Will it help @polypostwonderto understand if I explain that consent in this context means that all women have a veto and if just one of us exercises that veto then the presence of men has been rejected?

I don't think so. I've read non-trans women on twitter who say they "don't consent to sharing toilets with 'terfs'." How does that work, exactly?

polypostwonder · 03/06/2026 14:13

nicepotoftea · 03/06/2026 13:48

Single sex provision exists because either it is mandated by law or because the service provider has made it available.

Service users cannot either give or withdraw consent on behalf of others.

I agree with this.

nicepotoftea · 03/06/2026 13:54

JanesLittleGirl · 03/06/2026 13:49

Will it help @polypostwonderto understand if I explain that consent in this context means that all women have a veto and if just one of us exercises that veto then the presence of men has been rejected?

Wasn't something like this suggested by the Judge in the Sandie Peggie case?

It needs to be clear that a space is either single sex or mixed sex. We don't need to vote.

nicepotoftea · 03/06/2026 13:51

polypostwonder · 03/06/2026 13:25

The law in California says trans women are women. No woman has any consent over whether another woman may access a public accommodation available to all women.

We understand that America is rather a regressive country and that women's rights are limited in many ways.

JanesLittleGirl · 03/06/2026 13:49

Will it help @polypostwonderto understand if I explain that consent in this context means that all women have a veto and if just one of us exercises that veto then the presence of men has been rejected?

Imdunfer · 03/06/2026 13:49

polypostwonder · 03/06/2026 13:15

I've said why FWR's use of the word consent doesn't make sense to me in this context. As Blaire White does not live in the UK, no laws are being broken. I think you are just seeking reasons to attack my posts.

I've not had to seek very far in the last few days PPW, your arguments are increasingly lacking any kind of logic.

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nicepotoftea · 03/06/2026 13:48

polypostwonder · 03/06/2026 04:41

And it would follow, using that same argument, that no woman can withdraw consent (if such a thing even exists) on behalf of any other woman.

ETA "in this context" to the above because gender critical people.

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Single sex provision exists because either it is mandated by law or because the service provider has made it available.

Service users cannot either give or withdraw consent on behalf of others.

polypostwonder · 03/06/2026 13:30

Shedmistress · 03/06/2026 13:26

And it would follow, using that same argument, that no woman can withdraw consent (if such a thing even exists) on behalf of any other woman.

Yes consent as a thing exists.

What a statement! Holy Fuck.

I knew I had to specifically clarify that my statement applied to this imagined remote control over spaces unoccupied by the person who is claiming the right of consent.

Shedmistress · 03/06/2026 13:26

And it would follow, using that same argument, that no woman can withdraw consent (if such a thing even exists) on behalf of any other woman.

Yes consent as a thing exists.

What a statement! Holy Fuck.

polypostwonder · 03/06/2026 13:25

The law in California says trans women are women. No woman has any consent over whether another woman may access a public accommodation available to all women.

polypostwonder · 03/06/2026 13:15

Imdunfer · 03/06/2026 06:53

What a ridiculous argument, you're scraping the barrel now. I thought you were an intelligent person.

You are talking about a law that says men should not be in women's spaces.

The consent those women are giving is to do something which is not legal for the supplier to provide.

And in that case, the concept of "withdrawing consent" for other women to give consent to breaking the law is utterly ridiculous.

Those women also have rights to a female only space. That right cannot be removed by another woman who doesn't care about sharing her space with a man.

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I've said why FWR's use of the word consent doesn't make sense to me in this context. As Blaire White does not live in the UK, no laws are being broken. I think you are just seeking reasons to attack my posts.

polypostwonder · 03/06/2026 13:11

ArabellaScott · 03/06/2026 08:16

I understand the above post to be about consent.

Taztoy · 03/06/2026 11:47

Helleofabore · 03/06/2026 11:45

Just to repeat this and to be clear:

"enough women over the years have told him that him using the provisions was wrong and that he should not do so." How many women is enough?”

How many women is enough?

ONE

It only takes one female person to not consent for a male person to access a female single sex provision to use it for consent to be withdrawn.

That is how consent works.

Poly doesn’t care about women’s consent. As he said directly to me.

as Much as he wants to be female, his male entitlement is showing loud and clear.