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TheBabyFatmoss · 20/10/2026 09:01

Why does your husband get the final say?

Chamallo · 20/10/2026 09:33

Didn’t expect to see so many names I like on this thread. Love Eden, River and Ocean, and all the nature names actually :)

HugoThatway · 20/10/2026 10:06

@Denim4ever , His real name was Anthony James Donegan.
@MyDucksAreHavingAParty , but they are both gender-neutral. Have you not heard of Dominique Pelicot and Camille Pissarro?

@dustysidetable , the boys names that we do like are actually more feminine e.g Sasha and Avery Avery is awful. Sasha is a diminutive of Alexander or Alexandra. They sound feminine.

It’s a family tradition.
Really? It doesn't mean you have to continue it. I can't think of there being that many gender-neutral names in use in the past.

The children will have my surname as well as my family middle names, so it’s his way of honouring his family. I don’t mind it at all, I’m just trying to find names I like.
You're constrained. Call them Sylvie and Sasha or something.
It's a PITA to have people assume you are from the opposite sex.

MyDucksAreHavingAParty · 20/10/2026 11:02

HugoThatway · 20/10/2026 10:06

@Denim4ever , His real name was Anthony James Donegan.
@MyDucksAreHavingAParty , but they are both gender-neutral. Have you not heard of Dominique Pelicot and Camille Pissarro?

@dustysidetable , the boys names that we do like are actually more feminine e.g Sasha and Avery Avery is awful. Sasha is a diminutive of Alexander or Alexandra. They sound feminine.

It’s a family tradition.
Really? It doesn't mean you have to continue it. I can't think of there being that many gender-neutral names in use in the past.

The children will have my surname as well as my family middle names, so it’s his way of honouring his family. I don’t mind it at all, I’m just trying to find names I like.
You're constrained. Call them Sylvie and Sasha or something.
It's a PITA to have people assume you are from the opposite sex.

I've already admitted that I was wrong. I would have assumed Dominique Pelicot was female. Like I've said. Everyday is a school day.

HugoThatway · 20/10/2026 11:24

@MyDucksAreHavingAParty , the thread has many posts and I hadn't read them all. If the man was female we'd have never heard of him.
To be fair, I don't think anyone in the UK would use the names for boys but they seem to.
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MrMurphysComeuppance · 20/10/2026 11:25

Strangesally20 · 19/10/2026 18:47

Sorry I don’t really understand what you mean? Surely the “gender neutral boy names” that you like would work fine for girls since they’re gender neutral? Is that not the whole point in gender neutral names that they work for boys and girls?

Perfect. 😂

MyDucksAreHavingAParty · 20/10/2026 11:35

HugoThatway · 20/10/2026 11:24

@MyDucksAreHavingAParty , the thread has many posts and I hadn't read them all. If the man was female we'd have never heard of him.
To be fair, I don't think anyone in the UK would use the names for boys but they seem to.
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I hadn't heard of him. But whatever.

StayAliveJessicaHyde · 20/10/2026 12:00

dustysidetable · 19/10/2026 20:59

A bit out there but what do people think of Dana? I really like it, but worry about a mix of pronunciations. What’s more common in England, Dar-na or Day-na. I love both pronunciations

Dara would work as an alternative to Dana. I personally love Avery and Aubrey.

HugoThatway · 20/10/2026 12:37

MyDucksAreHavingAParty · 20/10/2026 11:35

I hadn't heard of him. But whatever.

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Ok. I guess you don't listen or read any news. It was big news Pelicot rape case - Wikipedia. Women need to be aware that things like this do happen.

MyDucksAreHavingAParty · 20/10/2026 12:40

HugoThatway · 20/10/2026 12:37

Ok. I guess you don't listen or read any news. It was big news Pelicot rape case - Wikipedia. Women need to be aware that things like this do happen.

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I'm aware of the case. I didnt know the man's name. And if I heard it would have assumed it was Dominic. Not Dominique.

I apologise most profusely for making a mistake and not knowing every piece of information ever. I'll punish myself suitably.

HugoThatway · 20/10/2026 13:04

MyDucksAreHavingAParty · 20/10/2026 12:40

I'm aware of the case. I didnt know the man's name. And if I heard it would have assumed it was Dominic. Not Dominique.

I apologise most profusely for making a mistake and not knowing every piece of information ever. I'll punish myself suitably.

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I suggest you have a word with yourself that some of us post things they know to be true, even if others don't.
I made doubly sure that they were before posting, even though I knew it was. Same with Noa.

Nuur is unisex too. It's lovely.

MyDucksAreHavingAParty · 20/10/2026 13:07

HugoThatway · 20/10/2026 13:04

I suggest you have a word with yourself that some of us post things they know to be true, even if others don't.
I made doubly sure that they were before posting, even though I knew it was. Same with Noa.

Nuur is unisex too. It's lovely.

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Even though there's tons of misinformation on this site?

Look. I made a mistake. I learned something new. I said thanks and apologised. Nothing more needed to be said.

HugoThatway · 20/10/2026 13:25

Stop going on about it then. A lot of what's on here is misinformation and I did expect someone to say they weren't gender neutral.
Don't take things to heart - it's only chat.

MyDucksAreHavingAParty · 20/10/2026 13:42

I haven't taken anything to heart. Anyway. Im off to party with the ducks

chocolatestodgeandcustard · 20/10/2026 14:34

OP, wait until your twins have arrived. You might feel that any names you have been able to agree on just don't suit either of them when they are here.

I wonder what the percentage is, in the UK, of boys being given a gender neutral name as opposed to girls being given a gender neutral name?

From what I've seen on MN, it seems to me more frequent that a poster is looking for a gender neutral name for a girl, rather than a gender neutral name for a boy. If this is the case, I wonder what their rationales are.

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dustysidetable · 20/10/2026 16:06

Some beautiful names here, thank you so much for everyone with helpful posts. We’ve got a short list now and will wait until babies are here.

@HugoThatway I’ve asked for name suggestions, not for you to call into question my husbands family traditions, whether I’m happy to follow it, or your opinions on gender neutral names. I understand you have your opinion, but I have mine and have found many names I’m happy with that keep us both happy. So if we could leave it at that now I’d really appreciate it.

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HugoThatway · 20/10/2026 16:39

@dustysidetable , a friend was bullied into naming her son by her MIL because it was a family tradition. It was something like Henry and friend said 'ok if he's Harry day-to-day'. It turned out to not really be a tradition just aninterfering MIL.

Friend is divorced now and Harry is never Henry other than as a BC name.
Just checking it wasn't that sort of situation.

I have friends with DD called things like Billie and Stevie (not sisters), not a problem IMO.

Ekal · 20/10/2026 17:03

Presumably you gave birth to the twins. It is my opinion that the mother should have the last word on children's names and I strongly disapprove of fathers who wish to impose their preferences. If one of them is a girl, call her Sylvia - it is a lovely name and you have earned it.

DraigCymraeg · 20/10/2026 17:03

dustysidetable · 19/10/2026 18:45

My husband is insistent on a gender neutral name for our twins, I’m happy with it in principle and there’s so many gender neutral boys names I love but I’m really struggling for girls!. The only one I like is Shelby but he doesn’t like it at all. My favourite girls name is Sylvia but obviously that isn’t gender neutral, I like soft sounding names and not a fan of the nick names like Stevie, Bobby, Riley etc. Any ideas?

Why is Husband so insistent?

Mydogisagentleman · 20/10/2026 17:15

Ray(e)
Lesley (ie)
Kimberley
Jude

NotaSkivvy · 20/10/2026 17:21

Just to throw it out there, a name I haven't seen in here, but is gender neutral, is Logan (just ask my daughter lol) and her middle name is Jaymie, to honour my Grandad who was called James.

Naming children is hard and I wish you all the best for you, your DH and your children ❤️

Daygloboo · 20/10/2026 17:47

Strangesally20 · 19/10/2026 18:47

Sorry I don’t really understand what you mean? Surely the “gender neutral boy names” that you like would work fine for girls since they’re gender neutral? Is that not the whole point in gender neutral names that they work for boys and girls?

Kim

Daygloboo · 20/10/2026 17:50

dustysidetable · 19/10/2026 19:36

I do like Leslie actually! Another name I like is Shiloh but am I being completely mad with that name? Is it too Brangelina?

Noooo not shiloh.....It sounds like a drunk person saying shit hole

Alisonsy · 20/10/2026 17:56

Shiloh is a terrible name, I agree.

Shiloh Pitt always reminds me of Pile of Shit

Looloolexi · 20/10/2026 18:02

Alex/Alexis ???