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dustysidetable · 19/10/2026 18:45

My husband is insistent on a gender neutral name for our twins, I’m happy with it in principle and there’s so many gender neutral boys names I love but I’m really struggling for girls!. The only one I like is Shelby but he doesn’t like it at all. My favourite girls name is Sylvia but obviously that isn’t gender neutral, I like soft sounding names and not a fan of the nick names like Stevie, Bobby, Riley etc. Any ideas?

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ReadingSoManyThreads · 21/10/2026 20:52

HenriettaHippopotamus · 21/10/2026 07:26

Isn’t Quinn just traditionally a surname in Ireland? It’s using that as a first name for a girl that’s American, I believe.

Its like MacKenzie - It’s a well known surname but it became a fad to use it as a first name for a girl in the USA.

Americans choosing to use it as a first name doesn't make it any less Irish, the name is still Irish! It's becoming a popular first name in England too, still doesn't stop it being an Irish name.

RowsOfFlowers · 22/10/2026 10:24

River, Riley, Reece, Ash, Harper, Blair, Blake

Hoork · 22/10/2026 17:22

Robin

Miaminmoo · 23/10/2026 01:19

I know both a male and a female ‘Darcy’ or ‘Darcey’

Hartleyhare1206 · 23/10/2026 14:08

Ray/Rae/Raye

Skye

Sammy

Joey

Morgan

Reece

WhatATimeToBeAlive · 23/10/2026 14:19

EmeraldSlippers · 19/10/2026 18:57

Probably not what you're looking for because it's not a fashionable name at the moment, but I recently read the book Shirley by Charlotte Bronte and found out that Shirley used to be a boy's name. (Well really a surname that was sometimes used for boys). The female character called Shirley in the book had parents who wanted a boy, so gave her a boy's name.
The book was so popular that it inspired lots of female babies to be called Shirley, and ever since it's been known as a girl's name.

Big Daddy the wrestler was called Shirley Crabtree.

Summerlovingtheraspberries · 23/10/2026 16:41

CurlewKate · 19/10/2026 18:53

No such thing as a gender neutral name. Only boy’s names that are used for girls and people immediatly stop using for boys! Give her a girl’s name. Being a girl is a good thing!

This.

JoyousWriter · 26/10/2026 14:00

Get a new husband who doesn't impose silly ideas on your family?

Italiangreyhound · 26/10/2026 22:48

I think Alma is beautiful. And, apparently, Almas is a girl's nane occasionally used for boys. So that makes it unisex.

NewGrandmummy · 29/10/2026 10:18

dustysidetable · 19/10/2026 22:34

We would definitely follow the correct spelling

I'm really confused now! If you would follow the traditional male-female spelling of Francis-Frances it is not a gender neutral name!

Mathair2 · 29/10/2026 14:47

I know a male Frances

Giraffehaver · 01/11/2026 22:56

Pip and Kitt

RobertaFirmino · 01/11/2026 23:11

Jay and Kay
Tracy and Stacy
Jo and Mo
Pat and Nat
Sam and Jan (pronounced like Jan Molby for a boy)
Terry and Kerry
Gerry and Perry

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