Well said.
I'm getting thoroughly fed up with all the smug little victory laps from people posting things like, "I KNEW he was a wrong 'un before everyone else did!"
Well, congratulations Mystic Meg. Shall we get you a crystal ball and a slot on the National Lottery?
Apparently, we're now supposed to believe that some people possess an extraordinary sixth sense that the rest of us mere plebs somehow lack.
I'll hold my hands up: I used to like RB. I found him attractive. Obviously, I now find him utterly repulsive, but I'm not going to start flogging myself because I didn't experience some sort of psychic disturbance in his presence.
The reality is that manipulative men can be very good at fooling people.
Plenty of women find themselves in relationships with men who turn out to be nothing like the person they initially presented themselves as. It doesn't make those women stupid, complicit or somehow responsible for not spotting it sooner.
And frankly, I'm not convinced that being able to retrospectively identify a wrong 'un on social media qualifies anyone for a degree in psychological profiling.
Not every woman needs to be a human lie detector or a sort of narc-detecting truffle pig to avoid being deceived by a man.
Some men are just very good at pretending to be decent human beings. That's on them, not the women they manage to fool.