To wonder why people with lots of money dress their kids so badly?

YABU because kids are not a fashion accessory!

Yes!

My DD has fine, silky hair that is a mix of curls and coils and loves wearing hats. I’ve tried doing her hair the night before but because she moves all over the place, it doesn’t last. I’m lucky she will sit in my lap and let me do her hair before nursery because she is used to watching me do her brothers and my own. Super neat styles would mean using gels so it would last and not unravel and I’m not putting gel in a toddler’s hair so some stranger can judge my parenting and I also don’t want her associating doing her hair with pain.

My mother has similar views to OP but being her child was exhausting, limiting, uncomfortable and embarrassing. My mother was not fashionable in the slightest but she was popular in secondary so thought she knew better. Clothes were uncomfortable and scolded for squirming, wasn’t allowed to play because I might get my dresses dirty. My hair was always neat but my mother was never gentle and any time I said that hurt or winced, she would call me too sensitive, prissy, or mocking me for being delicate. My comfort didn’t matter to her whereas dad was more about practicality and comfort along with appropriateness. I just learned not to say anything about my discomfort because it didn’t change anything and/or I was ridiculed for it. I didn’t know someone doing my hair wasn’t supposed to hurt until my aunt did it and I was a teenager by then.

I rather had had the mother who was more about comfort and practicality than being treated like a doll.

Yes exactly. I don’t think the look is as casually put-together as people think. It is often contrived.

And maybe you have money because you spend it on what matters as opposed to an endless supply of disposable plastic fashion clothes for children.

It’s ironic how the middle classes of Mumsnet make judgements about working class parents trying to look like they have more money than they actually do by dressing their children in expensive outfits (even though many don’t), while simultaneously dressing their children like they’re eccentric landed gentry. Middle class parents didn’t dress their children like hobos or neglect their cleanliness twenty years ago. It’s clearly a trend that they’re trying to emulate. Trying to pretend they’re super-posh when they aren’t.

Wgmhere in earth do you live?I would love to know. Never ever niticed it. Have niticed nicely dressed mums have niceky dressed toddlers. Regardless if money.

@OnlineHead I agree that it is contrived, we live a few miles from a nice mc small
town, it’s now a joke that you can spot the ‘rich/posh kids’ the oh i’m scruffy flung together but the clothes are actually very expensive , little girls always in mismatched tights and dresses and posh wellies, boys with long hair and every item of clothing is a different colour ; jacket usually a very expensive outdoor brand.

Quality hand me downs.

You just sound really snobby im glad I’m not in any of your toddler groups

It’s really not. I assumed it was the nice thing to do a s didnt realise our kids were being judged for not looking spotless.

So was mine 😂

Old money, old clothes. New money, expensive display 😊

Her clothes were classic and very fashionable at the time. Not cheap either. Obviously it was a style of dress, she clearly wasn't into punk. I don't think she looked frumpy at all and her hair style was much the same.