Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Why is this man being celebrated?

278 replies

fizzywidget · 31/10/2026 06:31

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cq8rz38jr50go

so when his child was 8 years old he decided to leave the country and undertake a 28 year walk around the world, setting himself a rule that he couldn’t come back to the UK until he’d completed it, and we’ve celebrating him why?

Karl Bushby, wearing  a fleece and shorts, pushes a handcart along a fast rural road.  An orange hi-vis bib is attached to the front of the cart.

World trekker Karl Bushby's final push home to Hull

Global walker Karl Bushby is almost within sight of his journey's end after 28 years away.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cq8rz38jr50go

OP posts:
Thread gallery
5
thebrowncatisback · 02/11/2026 13:36

This dickhead is being celebrated on Sky News

wonder how long he will stick around in Hull?

TiredCatLady · 02/11/2026 13:52

sharkjumper · 01/11/2026 16:03

I read about him and my first thought was that he was selfish and second was to wonder whether there was independent verification of the crossing of the Darien Gap and of the Channel.

I wondered this too - along with what he was actually doing all that time in Mexico.

thebrowncatisback · 02/11/2026 14:03

All that walking didnt help his waistline

thebrowncatisback · 02/11/2026 14:04

I want to know how his trolley crossed seas

JHound · 02/11/2026 14:32

Noras · 31/10/2026 09:12

None of us have any idea what he might have seen and done in service. At the time there was no mental health support in the army and frankly active service could pickle your brain, I love how we all write away from the comfort of our homes with no understanding of the PTSD. My brother served in the troubles as a green beret and frankly I am really grateful that he is still here and overcame his PTSD. To say that it impacted him hugely is an understatement and the only people who understood this was my father who was mentioned in dispatched for running into enemy fire and my uncle who was awarded the military medal. He met his wife whilst serving in Northen Ireland - forget being allowed to go back to NI - it would be hugely unsafe for him to do so. once your brother sits with his back against the wall of a pub or launches onto the pavement because a car back fires you will truly understand PTSD and it’s not the pathetic ‘oh I have PTSD’ from a 5 mile rear shunt I had to deal with every day in my profession. Sadly as my mother was shot in the Second World War saving an Englishman I have reall experience of PTSD and its long term impact on families.

Isn’t this just further evidence of the pass we give to fathers that we don’t give to mothers?

QuietChristmas2026 · 02/11/2026 17:21

All the achievements this man did are totally overshadowed by the fact he paid no child support and did nothing to stay in touch with his son. They still haven’t seen each other for twelve years. Appalling.

Wasn't there a man camped out in Parliament Square for years who had a wife and children he barely saw in Wolverhampton too? Or something?

I feel the same about Aung San Soo Kyi even though hers was a political thing.

BlueStripeBowl · 02/11/2026 17:25

LlamasDramas · 02/11/2026 09:16

It was quite uncomfortable to watch. @VenusStarr

Yes, it was really uncomfortable watching it. He didn't appear to be excited at all about seeing his family and being back in England. No enthusiasm. Almost as though he was depressed.

My guess - he escaped to avoid accountability. About something. That’s why he’s nervous. But may be I’ll never know.

BlueStripeBowl · 02/11/2026 17:29

Noras · 31/10/2026 18:45

New York Times

Bushby spent 12 years in the 3rd Battalion of the Parachute Regiment before quitting the army at the end of 1997. He was reeling from a bitter divorce and itching to prove himself.
“I had something to prove to my paratrooper mates,” he told Backpacker magazine.

Something to prove to his mates. Not his son.

BlueStripeBowl · 02/11/2026 17:32

Nevermissabeat · 02/11/2026 13:28

Bbc news are covering his arrival home 🙄.

Shall I bugger off around the world for 25 years and leave my family behind?

I’ll come!

ElevenBells · 02/11/2026 17:44

Completely agree. Self-centred manchild.

Hiredgun · 02/11/2026 17:44

One of my friends made me laugh when he immediately said, “the guy has paid F all tax for almost 30 years to this country but now is being celebrated as a hero.”

Sign of the times.

harriethoyle · 02/11/2026 18:39

I would LOVE to hear his ex wife’s take on all this. And his son’s…

Metalmotha · 02/11/2026 18:49

Tbf, almost every person who has done something extraordinary is selfish. From rockstars, to astronauts to academics to adventurers throughout history all have put their accomplishments above their family. We don’t know the ins and outs - but we’ve celebrated people who have left their family behind to achieve things for as long as human interactions have existed. We celebrate risk takers because they are the ones who che k out new things (although this is becoming less of a desirable trait and we’re valuing predictably more - most likely why adhders are suffering more)

QuietChristmas2026 · 02/11/2026 19:16

Tbf, almost every person who has done something extraordinary is selfish. From rockstars, to astronauts to academics to adventurers throughout history all have put their accomplishments above their family

But this man doesn’t have the support of his family and hasn’t supported them through his wages and knowledge.

Compare him to Bear Grylls, Tim Peake, Mick Jagger, they did their stuff with the support of their families and didn’t abandon their children, when their adventures meant leaving their children behind for some time, they financed them and kept in touch and then returned to their children afterwards. This man hasn’t done that. He abandoned his child and for me, that is the most important part.

Thecatspantaloons · 02/11/2026 19:16

Metalmotha · 02/11/2026 18:49

Tbf, almost every person who has done something extraordinary is selfish. From rockstars, to astronauts to academics to adventurers throughout history all have put their accomplishments above their family. We don’t know the ins and outs - but we’ve celebrated people who have left their family behind to achieve things for as long as human interactions have existed. We celebrate risk takers because they are the ones who che k out new things (although this is becoming less of a desirable trait and we’re valuing predictably more - most likely why adhders are suffering more)

I've always assumed that major difference makers who cure diseases, go into space etc, must be colossal dickheads at home - it's just a given that the bigger picture is more important than an individual family.
Hobbies and glory hunters, not so much.

Crackingonandon · 02/11/2026 19:18

I can’t believe he’s being applauded and celebrated.

LaRosbif · 02/11/2026 19:45

BlueStripeBowl · 31/10/2026 08:11

Yes. I’d buy her book over his.

So would I.

I heard about an ex who went to do ‘charity work’ abroad despite having two children. I knew that he was leaving them but didn’t want his friends/family to think badly of him. The charity work didn’t last long and he never went back to them.

DemonsandMosquitoes · 02/11/2026 19:46

Selfish man. Full of ego.

Eudaimonia11 · 02/11/2026 22:41

What a twat! He abandoned his little boy to fanny about abroad for decades. He’s not had a proper job in 28 years and now he’s come back as a “hero” - what has he done that’s heroic? From what I can gather, he’s been messing about playing at being homeless for years in various different countries just because of some stupid rules he made up when he first started.

The comparison to Mick Jagger and other celebs is a bit much, although I do agree with the point that people who do extraordinary things tend to be selfish too. But at least Mick and other celebs have financially supported their families and have been there some of the time, they didn’t completely disappear for years.

I think his son’s comment in the Telegraph article is quite telling - he said he would never leave his child like that.

nevermind222 · 02/11/2026 23:10

BlueStripeBowl · 31/10/2026 08:22

Yes. I know a woman whose child died - it was such a tragedy. Her (now ex) husband chose to pump all his time and energy into doing sponsored events to raise money for research into the condition. Was hailed a hero and applauded. Meanwhile his wife and remaining children were pretty much abandoned by him and left to grieve without his support.

This feels a bit unfair. We all have different ways of coping.

JemimaTab · 02/11/2026 23:18

I was a bit puzzled by the rolling coverage on Sky News of his arrival, as if this was some major news event. I hadn’t followed this story so I assumed he must have raised millions for charity or something - but apparently not. So it was pretty baffling to see them keep going back to this story for updates every few minutes.

mydogisfat · 02/11/2026 23:39

I’ve read several endurance travelogues of people crossing continents under their own steam such as Mark Beaumont, Rosie Swales-Pope, Josie Dew or Ed Stafford. It takes a certain kind of person to undertake these trips and it’s interesting to gain an insight into what makes them tick alongside the adventures and challenges.

Karl Bushby though is such an extreme example. He’s been away for over half a lifetime and cut ties and responsibilities, fracturing relationships. Time will tell whether these can be rebuilt - or if he can settle into a conventional lifestyle. All quite a head fuck for everyone concerned I’d imagine. And then some, played out in the full media glare.

Waitingfordoggo · 02/11/2026 23:40

QuietChristmas2026 · 02/11/2026 19:16

Tbf, almost every person who has done something extraordinary is selfish. From rockstars, to astronauts to academics to adventurers throughout history all have put their accomplishments above their family

But this man doesn’t have the support of his family and hasn’t supported them through his wages and knowledge.

Compare him to Bear Grylls, Tim Peake, Mick Jagger, they did their stuff with the support of their families and didn’t abandon their children, when their adventures meant leaving their children behind for some time, they financed them and kept in touch and then returned to their children afterwards. This man hasn’t done that. He abandoned his child and for me, that is the most important part.

Plus, how has his ‘achievement’ benefitted anyone but himself? He hasn’t made scientific discoveries or entertained millions or raised money for charity. His adventure benefitted himself, there’s nothing there for ‘the greater good’.

fuckeditupbadly · 03/11/2026 04:25

nevermind222 · 02/11/2026 23:10

This feels a bit unfair. We all have different ways of coping.

I'm sure his prolonged absence really helped his wife and remaining children to cope. Did they get a choice?