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Update to AIBU to refuse Aunt's fwb claim on her estate.

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Sleepneededprettyplease · 07/04/2026 17:52

Posting here because it is where I put the first thread.

A brief summery is that my Aunt died and her FWB is trying to say that he is entitled to part of her estate because she had asked me to allow him to stay in a house she had invested in for me. Anyway if you want the full story feel free to read what I put on the first thread.

Anyway the main thing is that he is now sueing in the courts. I need a bit of a hand hold please. My lawyers have suggested getting a barristers opinion so I am just waiting for that. I wouldn't even mind if it was possible to just go to mediation but he wants the house for the rest of his life and won't consider anything else.

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Agapornis · Today 02:27

I'd work on making the stairs, floors and garden path more slippery.

Or perhaps a not so carefully selected handpicked mushroom stew.

(I also know an awful old man who just won't die)

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Sleepneededprettyplease · Today 03:17

LovesLabradors · Today 01:45

I think you're wise to settle tbh - too many people will allow legal fees to swallow the entire inheritance, just for a principle - what's the point of that?
He didn't actually get all that he wanted - iirc he wanted to be given the house, I believe? Instead he's just got it for life, or until he moves out, and has to pay you rent (even if a peppercorn rent).
I still can't believe a Judge has ruled this! But hey that's the way the cookie crumbles I guess.
Huge congratulations on your pregnancy! And one day you will have a house to sell - what a wonderful windfall that will be, when it happens.

Yes. I intend the money to be put away for baby. Uni fees/ house deposit/ whatever they need.

The main estate will clear my mortgage and pay back the IVF.

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Supersimkin7 · Today 09:35

💐 Congrats OP.

At least the house is lived in with bills paid not by you. Let us know how it goes and well done.

DancingFerret · Today 10:03

Sleepneededprettyplease · Today 03:17

Yes. I intend the money to be put away for baby. Uni fees/ house deposit/ whatever they need.

The main estate will clear my mortgage and pay back the IVF.

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I apologise if this has already been mentioned, but what happens if the old parasite decides to stop paying rent? Is there a clause in the agreement which addresses the possibility?

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Sleepneededprettyplease · Today 10:06

DancingFerret · Today 10:03

I apologise if this has already been mentioned, but what happens if the old parasite decides to stop paying rent? Is there a clause in the agreement which addresses the possibility?

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That is one of the few situations where I can kick him out. So happy if he wants to play that game.

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diddl · Today 10:18

I've been reading this & only just realised that not only is he allowed to live there but Op has had to become a LL & maintain the property on the pittance(?) he pays!

Talk about insult to injury.

At least you can think of it in terms of a benefit for your child Op & not something you desperately needed.

DancingFerret · Today 10:22

Sleepneededprettyplease · Today 10:06

That is one of the few situations where I can kick him out. So happy if he wants to play that game.

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That's good. It had occurred to me he might use one of the prohibitive restrictions in Rayner's Renters' Rights Act to avoid payment.

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Sleepneededprettyplease · Today 14:40

diddl · Today 10:18

I've been reading this & only just realised that not only is he allowed to live there but Op has had to become a LL & maintain the property on the pittance(?) he pays!

Talk about insult to injury.

At least you can think of it in terms of a benefit for your child Op & not something you desperately needed.

Yes unfortunately so. I just have to look on what bright sides when I can. He can't live forever at least.

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Sleepneededprettyplease · Today 14:41

DancingFerret · Today 10:22

That's good. It had occurred to me he might use one of the prohibitive restrictions in Rayner's Renters' Rights Act to avoid payment.

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No. He tried to push that rent wasn't enforceable but I managed to keep that.

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AcrossthePond55 · Today 14:45

@Sleepneededprettyplease

Well, I think you are right to make the best out of a bad situation. You have much happier things to concentrate on!

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Sleepneededprettyplease · Today 14:55

AcrossthePond55 · Today 14:45

@Sleepneededprettyplease

Well, I think you are right to make the best out of a bad situation. You have much happier things to concentrate on!

Yes. I just want this signed as soon as possible. Then I can focus on preparing for my baby.

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formigas · Today 15:22

Congratulations on your pregnancy.

I'm petty but I'd take the time to "interview" several letting agents and appoint the most horrible one.

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Sleepneededprettyplease · Today 17:32

formigas · Today 15:22

Congratulations on your pregnancy.

I'm petty but I'd take the time to "interview" several letting agents and appoint the most horrible one.

Tempting but my main criteria is competency to deal with things without involving me.

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