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Update to AIBU to refuse Aunt's fwb claim on her estate.

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Sleepneededprettyplease · 07/04/2026 17:52

Posting here because it is where I put the first thread.

A brief summery is that my Aunt died and her FWB is trying to say that he is entitled to part of her estate because she had asked me to allow him to stay in a house she had invested in for me. Anyway if you want the full story feel free to read what I put on the first thread.

Anyway the main thing is that he is now sueing in the courts. I need a bit of a hand hold please. My lawyers have suggested getting a barristers opinion so I am just waiting for that. I wouldn't even mind if it was possible to just go to mediation but he wants the house for the rest of his life and won't consider anything else.

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Supersimkin7 · 15/09/2026 22:38

You’re sensible OP. He’ll push for more so simple is the way forward.

He won’t get more, I shouldn’t think, but tis the way of CF. Which you’re kind of used to by now.

Have a good week. You deserve it.

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Sleepneededprettyplease · 15/09/2026 18:53

Daftapath · 15/09/2026 17:37

Could you make him an offer that tapers/reduces the longer he stays there? Obviously, not until he signs documents saying that he agrees that he has no financial interest in the property!

The less standard the agreement the more risk of it ending up back in court. I think this situation simple is good.

Edited for typo

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Daftapath · 15/09/2026 17:37

Could you make him an offer that tapers/reduces the longer he stays there? Obviously, not until he signs documents saying that he agrees that he has no financial interest in the property!

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Sleepneededprettyplease · 12/09/2026 17:12

Thank you. Hopefully close to an answer.

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Supersimkin7 · 12/09/2026 11:15

Keep trucking OP. Sounds like you’re moving towards sorting this permanently. Phew. Have a good weekend.

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Sleepneededprettyplease · 12/09/2026 04:48

PyongyangKipperbang · 11/09/2026 22:08

Surely if he leaves because he has/wants to then the OP is off the hook? She didnt kick him out, so it was his choice or circumstances that made him leave.

Absolutely not hoping he has a mild fall that is enough to scare him into moving out, but not enough to seriously injure him

Then you are nicer person than me. I wouldn't want him hurt. Much... But...

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PyongyangKipperbang · 11/09/2026 22:08

Surely if he leaves because he has/wants to then the OP is off the hook? She didnt kick him out, so it was his choice or circumstances that made him leave.

Absolutely not hoping he has a mild fall that is enough to scare him into moving out, but not enough to seriously injure him

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Sleepneededprettyplease · 11/09/2026 22:06

20questions · 11/09/2026 19:19

Any idea what would happen if he had to leave due to not being able to climb stairs etc. Surely you wouldn't be responsible for providing alternative accommodation?
I think it's appalling. You were very unlucky with the judge!

Looks like then I would be free of him. At least if he accepts the offer my solicitor is putting together.

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20questions · 11/09/2026 19:19

Any idea what would happen if he had to leave due to not being able to climb stairs etc. Surely you wouldn't be responsible for providing alternative accommodation?
I think it's appalling. You were very unlucky with the judge!

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Sleepneededprettyplease · 11/09/2026 09:10

Lifecircle · 11/09/2026 05:30

I have followed this thread from the beginning.
I am full of admiration and respect in your handling of events.
I hope happy times are around the corner for you 💕

Thank you. I must admit that at times I have privately been very rude in my opinion of the man.

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Sleepneededprettyplease · 11/09/2026 08:19

Supersimkin7 · 10/09/2026 22:38

You’ve stayed grounded and sensible despite this rude assault into your life OP - flipping well done.

Thank you. I still wish none of this had happened and I could be sitting chatting to my Aunt. However...

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Lifecircle · 11/09/2026 05:30

I have followed this thread from the beginning.
I am full of admiration and respect in your handling of events.
I hope happy times are around the corner for you 💕

Supersimkin7 · 10/09/2026 22:38

You’ve stayed grounded and sensible despite this rude assault into your life OP - flipping well done.

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Sleepneededprettyplease · 10/09/2026 21:19

Reallywhatsthat · 10/09/2026 19:57

Been reading along but never posted. Really feel for you OP, do think you are doing the right thing by not letting it all getting swallowed up in legal costs.
Wishing you all the best for a successful pregnancy.

Thank you. I think anything else would be cutting my nose of to spite my face.

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Sleepneededprettyplease · 10/09/2026 21:00

fashionqueen0123 · 10/09/2026 20:19

3 floors! I hope you get some rent off him soon

There's about a room on each. Ground floor has kitchen and a tiny loo, then a living room, the bedrooms and bathroom.

I would hate to live there.

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fashionqueen0123 · 10/09/2026 20:19

3 floors! I hope you get some rent off him soon

Reallywhatsthat · 10/09/2026 19:57

Been reading along but never posted. Really feel for you OP, do think you are doing the right thing by not letting it all getting swallowed up in legal costs.
Wishing you all the best for a successful pregnancy.

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Sleepneededprettyplease · 10/09/2026 19:37

Supersimkin7 · 10/09/2026 08:51

Thinking of you OP. All the good vibes for implant day.

As for CF = this too will pass.

Thank you. It sounds mean but he can't live that long surely. The house is also wildly inappropriate for aging so at some point he will either have to acknowledge he can't live over 3 floors of narrow stairs or he will fall. I really hope he has the sense to move out before getting hurt.

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Sleepneededprettyplease · 10/09/2026 19:35

madaboutpurple · 10/09/2026 16:10

I think all of reading your posts wish you well with IVF, also that the FWB pops his clogs sooner rather than later and we all hope you get your aunt's house very quickly.

Thank you. I really have found the support here from everyone so helpful.

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madaboutpurple · 10/09/2026 16:10

I think all of reading your posts wish you well with IVF, also that the FWB pops his clogs sooner rather than later and we all hope you get your aunt's house very quickly.

Supersimkin7 · 10/09/2026 08:51

Thinking of you OP. All the good vibes for implant day.

As for CF = this too will pass.

MachineBee · 09/09/2026 11:04

Good luck @Sleepneededprettyplease Hope it all goes well.

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Sleepneededprettyplease · 09/09/2026 09:04

SplishSplash123 · 08/09/2026 21:19

Hope your IVF is going well 💕

Thank you. I have had a slightly tumultuous week or so but I meant to post yesterday. I have 2 viable blastocysts so hopefully will be able to try and implant in another month or so.

Part of me feels like I desperately want this finished with before I continue but I don't want to put my life on hold.

I just really really hope that it can all be done with before my baby arrives.

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Sleepneededprettyplease · 09/09/2026 09:01

ConstanzeMozart · 08/09/2026 11:34

You should definitely go to Rip Off Britain. I don't think they'd portray you in an unsympathetic light.
And try your MP; you never know what they might say.

MP says they can't do much as it is an ongoing legal case. Not heard from rip off Britain. Not sure i really expect to.

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SplishSplash123 · 08/09/2026 21:19

Hope your IVF is going well 💕