I really don’t understand this, I’ll give brief details: DH is not remotely close with his 2 older sisters at all. When I first met them he couldn’t even name their kids! They never visit us even though living a mere 20 minutes and another 45 minutes away. He only sees them when they visit his mum who lives 5 minutes down the road from our house.
They haven’t even seen or felt the need to see our new home which we lived in for past 2 years. When I first joined the family I would call/text them and give birthday gifts and Christmas to the kids, I found the sisters really rude, once the eldest even commented someone brought their child a rubbish cheap car (I had got it! And it wasn’t cheap). She fully well knew I had got it btw it wasn’t an innocent mistake. Their whole attitude was off, I actually didn’t stop talking to them I just stopped putting in the effort and they’ve not got in touch with me for 4 years. They are not interested in our children or our lives. All of this is important for the real issue I have:
every year whenever it’s one of our kids birthdays DH insists they have to be invited! There is a huge age gap between their kids and our kids my eldest is 7 and their eldest is 24. My youngest is 4 and their youngest is 19. Even just now he exploded at me that his sisters have to be there! I explained I might be doing a really girly party like a bath bomb making etc. But he still wants them there, he’s insisting as every year my family can’t come if his is not there. I find any conversation with him just impossible. The sisters only have boys btw. Not that I want to stop them coming but I really don’t want grown men who I hardly know and who my kids know nothing about at their party. Also remember we haven’t spoken for over 4 years. 5 years ago when they came to my eldest party (she was 2) they sat in the corner sulking and saying they were bored.
I cannot understand why DH forgets he has sisters but suddenly remembers them when it’s a party. I really hate my DH btw, I find his very difficult. He doesn’t discuss but just shouts and screams at me. I usually don’t care about things but the childrens parties are a huge deal for me. His sister celebrated her 50th a couple of years ago and only invited him! Is this unreasonable to not want grown men at my daughters party plus their bitchy mothers who will critique everything and not even talk to me like they have gone before? Even my friends noticed on the last party they came to that they were purposely being cold and distant with me and other guests.
so my AIBU is why does he “love” them so much that he’s willing to destroy our lives for them? He didn’t come last 2 parties as I said no way are they invited